When you have babies it can be a challenge to find the time (or energy) for any post-natal 'romance' with your partner. After all, you are too busy trying to deal with post-natal everything else...
But do not fear. Help is at hand.
Here is my guide on how to have some post-baby action:
You and your partner agree to have an 'early' night.
Search the underwear drawer for something other than pyjamas.
Options are; nighties (baggy T shirts), comfortable knickers, two old maternity bras, three used breast pads or a random thong that must have escaped the Great Thong Purge of 2010.
Wonder whether you have time to give your underwear drawer a quick clear out before all the sex.
Decide you better not as the baby could wake up any minute.
Both jump into bed ready for action only to realise you are so tired you could do with an actual early night.
Postpone all the sex until tomorrow.
The next day you have an earlier night.
Get into bed. Proceed to be romantic.
Partner thinks he hears the baby.
Both sit up and listen.
Continue with romantic proceedings.
You think you hear the baby.
Both sit up and listen.
Continue with proceedings.
Baby wakes up.
Get up and feed baby.
Return to bed.
Partner is asleep.
Decide to have sex the next day no matter what.
Up all night with the baby so you are too tired.
Two days later you agree to definitely have some sex that night.
Suggest trying it on the settee to spice things up a bit (avoid falling asleep).
Begin the romantic activity.
Ride On Thomas The Tank Engine is watching you.
Turn Thomas to face the wall.
Accidentally sit on a plastic Fireman Sam. Partner throws Fireman Sam into the toy car box.
Resist the urge to go and put Fireman Sam into the toy figures box and continue with romance.
Stop thinking about it, you tell yourself. Think sexy thoughts...
'You are thinking about Fireman Sam aren't you?' partner says.
'No,' you reply. 'I only have eyes for you my darling...'
"Come on. You know you want to..."
You get up and move Fireman Sam into the correct box. While you are there you notice there is a stray block in the box. Put block away only to find a single piece of jigsaw in block box. Start searching through the jigsaw cupboard to find which one the piece belongs to...
Get back to the romance.
Romance progresses to socks off and partner leans in to whisper something into your ear...you presume sweet nothings...
'Is it me or does this settee really smell of wee?''
Both agree to put settee sex on hold and watch TV.
Three days later the grandparents take the children out for a few hours so you decide to spend the time having lots of sex (followed by sorting out toy boxes and underwear drawer).
Partner heads for the bedroom.
Explain you can't just go from 'wiping a toddler's bum to feeling all frisky'.
Suggest that 'having lunch and just talking would be nice' first.
Compromise by having coffee and biscuits in bed.
Start showing each other pictures of the baby on your phones.
Realise you now only have 10 minutes left before the baby is due back.
Romantic relations postponed.
Two weeks later. Both decide you probably need a whole night away to have really good postnatal action so leave the baby with the grandparents and go to posh hotel.
Enjoy your first ever night away from the baby by eating, drinking, making merry, drinking some more and finally having fantastic, mind-blowing post-natal romance (probably, you can't quite remember due to all the drinking).
Six weeks later mind-blowing post-natal hotel romance confirmed in the form of a positive pregnancy test.
So there you have it. While you have young babies it is inevitable that some nights you will opt for sleep rather then sex and other nights you will opt for sex but get teething.
But it's not forever.
You are raising little humans together. Falling in love with them more each day and watching in amazement as they smile, laugh or sit up for the first time. Supporting each other through the challenges and sleepless nights. You are sharing new experiences on the adventure that is parenthood in all its overwhelming, terrifying, incredible glory.
What could be more mind-blowing than that?
Do you find much time for romance now you have babies? Feel free to share your stories in the comments below or join me for a chat on Facebook or Twitter!
This article was republished with the kind permission of Emily-Jane Clark. Read her blog on Stolen Sleep.com or follow her on Twitter and Facebook.
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