LIFESTYLE
05/06/2015 09:47 BST | Updated 05/06/2015 12:59 BST

'Sorry, I Have A Boyfriend' Is A Lie Women Use Far Too Often To Stop Unwanted Sexual Attention

Any woman who's ever received unwanted sexual attention from a man in the street/a coffee shop/a bar will know that there's one pretty effective way to get them out of your hair: "Sorry, I have a boyfriend."

More often than not this go-to excuse is a complete and utter lie, used by single women as much as those in a relationship.

But why most of us adopt this phrase without thinking, one woman is questioning why we choose to lie over telling the truth.

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Writing for Femsplain, Jessie Passananti says that “Sorry, I have a boyfriend" is a far easier response to unwanted attention than: "Do not touch me without my permission."

"This lie is common for a reason," she writes. "Telling another man that you have a boyfriend is the most peaceful and effective method of rejection."

A quick scroll through Twitter shows that this is all-too-common an excuse:

But Passananti says using this excuse instead of telling the truth has repercussions.

"My invisible shield — a made up boyfriend — establishes that I am off-limits solely because I belong to someone else. The archaic notion of declaring myself as 'taken' is entirely anti-productive," she says.

"By perpetuating this cycle, we’re saying that we’re empty slates to be carved; we’re fair game if we’re not claimed. We are not property, and by establishing ourselves as such, we’re saying that our feelings, notions and perceptions are irrelevant unless complemented by a male’s."

What do you think of Passanti's point? Let us know in the comments below and read the rest of her blog here