You Fear Rejection (01 of10)
Open Image ModalWhat you tell yourself: "If I'm not perfect I'll be rejected..."If you're constantly fearing rejection and hide your true self, psychologist and relationship expert Michelle Skeen says this may stop people from getting too close to you or knowing the real you. (credit:CHRIS/RelaXimages via Getty Images)
You Let Your Emotions Get The Best Of You(02 of10)
Open Image ModalWhat you tell yourself: "I'll never have someone who understands me/connects with me emotionally..."Skeen says this is when you don't share your vulnerabilities with others, because you're worried about how they would respond. "You become angry and demanding when you don't get what you need," she says. (credit:Yagi Studio via Getty Images)
You Fear Upsetting Others(03 of10)
Open Image ModalWhat you tell yourself: "If I don't tolerate criticism or abuse I'll be alone..."Not only is this unhealthy way to maintain a relationship, but you may let people take advantage of you. "You are accommodating and compliant as a way to prevent the other person from getting angry," she says. (credit:Cheng Xin via Getty Images)
You Have A List Of 'Needs'(04 of10)
Open Image ModalWhat you tell yourself: " I'll never get what I need from another person..."When you have a long list of needs, you avoid relationships because you never feel like you'll find someone who will fulfill these needs, Skeen says. "You resent others because you aren't getting the love and understanding that you need." (credit:LWA via Getty Images)
You Fear Getting Hurt (05 of10)
Open Image ModalWhat you tell yourself: "People will take advantage of me if I let my guard down..."Skeen says this is when you avoid getting close to others because you fear they will hurt you in the long run. (credit:Tetra Images - Jamie Grill via Getty Images)
You Fear Coming Out Of Your Shell (06 of10)
Open Image ModalWhat you tell yourself: "If people really knew me they would reject me..."Skeen says some people may hide who they really are — their beliefs, thoughts, dreams — from others because they fear rejection for being themselves. "You may present only a superficial face to the world instead of allowing anyone to dig deeper," she says. (credit:Cultura/Antonio Saba via Getty Images)
You Fear Criticism (07 of10)
Open Image ModalWhat you tell yourself: "I'll never measure up to others...""You allow others to criticize you or minimize your accomplishments. Or, you overachieve to avoid criticism of others," Skeen says. (credit:Image Source via Getty Images)
You Fear Loneliness (08 of10)
Open Image ModalWhat you tell yourself: "I avoid relationships because ultimately I'll be left alone..."Some people may focus their time and energy on work and/or extracurricular activities so they keep themselves busy, Skeen says. (credit:Carlina Teteris via Getty Images)
You Fear Betrayal (09 of10)
Open Image ModalWhat you tell yourself: "I can't be vulnerable with another person because they will use it against me..."If you're constantly on guard for any sign of betrayal, you may lash out at others as a way to protect yourself, Skeen says. (credit:David Ryle via Getty Images)
You Fear Not Having The Perfect Person(10 of10)
Open Image ModalWhat you tell yourself:"I'll never get the love I want..."Sure, some expectations in a relationship are fine, but you should never go into one with a long list of must-haves. If you do, Skeen says this leads people to become angry or frustrated if they find partners who don't meet their expectations. (credit:Erik Dreyer via Getty Images)