Dad's Sex Advice For His Teenage Children Causes A Stir On Reddit

Dad's Sex Advice For His Teenage Kids Causes A Stir
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A dad has opened up discussion on the best ways to talk about sex with your kids by revealing his rather more casual approach to the internet.

The anonymous father, who has a 13-year-old son and a 15-year-old daughter, shared his alternative method on a Reddit thread titled First Time Having Sex: One Dad's View.

"I told them that it was alright for them to be sexually active as soon as they were 'ready'. I then went on to say what ready means," he writes in the post.

According to the father, there are four key points a teenager must consider when they're thinking about whether or not they are "ready".

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Firstly, being ready means being "mature enough to be open about it".

"If they're not mature enough to talk to me or their mum about it, they're not ready," the dad says.

Secondly, he says they must have developed "full trust in their partners" by working their way "from holding hands and talking, to kissing and touching".

After that, the teenagers will know they're ready when they have the maturity to understand the "importance of wearing a condom".

Finally, he tells his children they will only know they are ready when they stop sneaking around in questionable locations to have sex.

"I also told them not to have sex in creepy places like school stairwells or behind the gym. They have perfectly good bedrooms with doors that lock and their friends will be welcome to stay for breakfast," he says.

While some on Reddit said the dad wants to know "too much" about his children's sex lives, the majority of people praised him for his refreshingly honest response.

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12 Facts About Sexual Headaches
What Are They?(01 of12)
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Sexual headaches are headaches that aren’t caused by a specific medical condition, and happen around sex. They can happen at different times during sexual activity, with different intensities, and in different parts of the head. (credit:AndreyPopov via Getty Images)
What Else Are They Called?(02 of12)
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You might hear sexual headaches referred to by a variety of names: headaches with sexual activity, orgasmic thunderclap, orgasmic migraines, coital headaches, coital cephalgia, or orgasmic cephalgia. (credit:Wavebreak via Getty Images)
How They're Classified: (03 of12)
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There are three classifications for headaches with sexual activity (HSAs) or sexual headaches, according to the International Headache Society. Type I HSAs are usually felt across the head and are pre-orgasmic — the pressure builds as your sexual excitement does. And Type II HSAs are more sudden or severe and happen with or near orgasm. (credit:B2M Productions via Getty Images)
What Causes Them?(04 of12)
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They can be triggered by any sexual activity that can lead to orgasm, according to the Mayo Clinic. Some medications can make HSAs more likely, including marijuana, birth control pills, pseudoephedrine, and Amiodarone. "As is the case with headaches as a whole, there isn't a great understanding of what causes them or how to prevent them,” says sex therapist Vanessa Marin. "Sex can be a rather fun treatment in mild cases, but anyone who has persistent, intense headaches should seek out a headache specialist." (credit:Iryna Rasko via Getty Images)
Are They Serious? (05 of12)
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Sexual headaches are usually more unpleasant than anything, but sometimes they can be a sign of something more serious. For example, in men they can be a sign of low testosterone, according to Dr. Laura Berman. They could also be an indication of an aneurysm, bleeding in the brain, or stroke. That’s why it’s important to see a doctor when you experience a sexual headache for the first time. (credit:Stockbyte via Getty Images)
What Do They Feel Like?(06 of12)
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These headaches can vary in intensity, from dull to sharp and stabbing. Those that occur with orgasm can feel more intense. Some people have a combination of the two, according to the Mayo Clinic. The headaches can last from a few minutes to hours or even days. (credit:Peter Dazeley via Getty Images)
When Does It Happen?(07 of12)
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They can happen at any point during sex: before, during, after, with or without orgasm. Some people may experience them often, while for others sexual headaches are fortunately rare or a one-time occurrence. Others might never get them at all. (credit:Gary John Norman via Getty Images)
Who Gets Them?(08 of12)
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Both men and women can get sexual headaches, though they appear to be more common in men. They occur in more than one in 100 people. It appears that you may be more likely to get them if you suffer from migraines, tension headaches, or exertion headaches. (credit:BJI / Lane Oatey via Getty Images)
How To Treat Them(09 of12)
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Try a painkiller like an NSAID or beta-blocker, the Mayo Clinic notes, or talk to your doctor about the best timing to take them in order to prevent headaches. (credit:NadiaCruzova via Getty Images)
How To Prevent Them(10 of12)
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Some people find using an NSAID like ibuprofen or a beta-blocker helpful in preventing sexual headaches. Taking a less active role during sex sometimes may help. And while it’s frustrating, sometimes waiting it out helps — some people experience sex headaches in clusters for a few weeks or months, and then they go away. (credit:uniquely india via Getty Images)
The Role Of Breathing (11 of12)
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For some people, sexual headaches may be triggered by poor breathing during sex — you could be holding your breath without realizing it, and that could be related to headaches. "If someone has the habit of not only holding their breath but applying pressure to the closed airway, the result is a Valsalva maneuver,” says sex and relationship therapists Patricia Johnson and Mark Michaels. "Holding the breath creates pressure in the chest, increases the outflow of blood, and slows the heart rate. This constricts the blood vessels in the brain and causes a drop in blood pressure.” As your breathing becomes normal again, the blood could rush back to your brain and lead to headache, they say. Try being conscious of your breath during sex and making sure that you’re not holding it. (credit:Doug Menuez via Getty Images)
When To See A Doctor(12 of12)
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If you ever have a headache you could describe as your "worst ever," you should see a doctor. The same goes for a first sexual headache, in order to rule out any other underlying causes. And finally, see a doctor if you get a headache with symptoms like vomiting, stiff neck, confusion, or reduced coordination. (credit:Blend Images - JGI/Jamie Grill via Getty Images)