Parents Who Requested 'Handmade Christening Gifts Branded 'Cheeky, Ungrateful F*****s' On Mumsnet

'Since when is it ok to actually ask for a gift?!'
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Parents who asked for handmade gifts for their daughter’s christening have been branded “cheeky, ungrateful fuckers” by a friend on Mumsnet.

The disgruntled christening guest turned to the forum to gauge other parents opinions of whether they were “being unreasonable” for feeling unhappy about being asked to craft a present.

“Clearly they want lots of unique and personalised gifts for their DD [Darling Daughter], which is lovely,” they wrote.

“But I’m shit at crafts and also find the request a bit hmm. If I was to go for it, I really would turn up with something monumentally shit that would get chucked away, and would be a waste of my time and effort.”

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The post continued: “I suggested to DD’s mother, my friend, that I bring something else and she choked through the words ‘something shop bought is fine’ and ‘precious DD has everything she needs’. Clearly it’s not.

“Am I being unreasonable to think cheeky, ungrateful fuckers?!”

Within five days of posting the query on Friday 2 September, it had received nearly 250 replies, with lots of people commenting that while homemade gifts are “amazing” they’re not something you should expect from your guests.

“It’s a cheeky request anyway. They should just get what they are given. Blimey,” wrote one.

Another added: “Since when is it ok to actually ask for a gift?!” 

Although others were more charitable suggesting the parents were just trying to stop guests from having to spend a lot of money on gifts.

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Commenters offered the poster suggestions of things they could make despite a lack of artistic ability.

Some of which were serious: cookies; a mix CD; pressed flowers; or a poem.

Others less so: “stick glitter on something”; “do a Blue Peter and get some stickyback plastic, a coathanger and some tinsel”; “shoe box. Cover it in wrapping paper. Call it a memory box. Job done”.

One answer that proved immensley popular encouraged the christening guest to “exact revenge”:

“Give a gift that will require a lot of work from the parents. Maybe a blank journal into which you write the first day and then write in the front that her parents will add something everyday until she is 18.”

The christening guest was grateful for the multiple responses: “What started out as an am I being unreasonable, pissed off thread has turned into some really lovely ideas,” they wrote.

“Thank you - only Mumsnet could think of lovely gifts with an undertone of revenge.”

Justine Roberts, Mumsnet CEO told The Huffington Post UK she agrees with those shocked by the christening request.

“You can pretty much always rely on Mumsnetters to let you know what’s what - and specifically whether or not you are being unreasonable,” she said.

“In this case, as usual, I think they’ve got it spot on - it’s definitely unreasonable to demand handmade gifts. I for one wouldn’t know where to start.”

Before You Go

Gifts For New Mums
Don't Buy Her Flowers Gift Package(01 of15)
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Don't Buy Her Flowers creates gift boxes for new mums in the first few years of motherhood. Based on the idea that not all mums want flowers, the packages range from including gin, to hand cream, dry shampoo and chocolates.
This package, with a scarf, gin and tonic, chocolates and toiletries will no doubt put a smile on their face.
Price: £32.www.dontbuyherflowers.com
Neom Organics De-Stress Gift Collection(02 of15)
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Neom Organics sells products and scents which aim to make people feel good about themselves, uplifted and happy.
The De-Stress package comes with a calming candle, on-the-go mist and bath oils. Not forgetting the free £20 voucher that comes with it to go towards any spa treatment with Neom.
Price: £24.95
Buy: www.neomorganics.com
'Baby Has Grown' Frame (03 of15)
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Showing just how much their baby has grown, this frame gives you the option to pop in 12 different photos of your baby - together with modelling clay to do a print of the baby's hand or foot.
Price: £25
Buy: www.baby-art.com
Personalised Tea Box With Tea(04 of15)
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One of the most relaxing things a mum can do is sit on the sofa with a cup of tea - and here is her excuse to do it.
Personalise this chic wooden box with a name and a message inside.
Price: £20
Buy: www.prezzybox.com
Personalised Handprint Print(05 of15)
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Make their first Mother's Day gift a keepsake by documenting their baby's hand and foot prints, as well as the date.
Price: £21.95
Buy: www.etsy.com
Personalised 'Mum' Marmite(06 of15)
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People either love it or they hate it, and if they love it then a personalised jar is even better.
Marmite are creating personalised Mother's Day jars just for the 6 March.
Price: £4.99.
Buy: www.facebook.com/marmite
Artificial Orchid in Pink Pot(07 of15)
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It's a gift that will brighten up a room, and won't even take any effort to keep alive.
This orchid is artificial and comes in a sweet pink textured pot.
Price: £12
Buy: www.marksandspencer.com
Pastel Delights Flowers(08 of15)
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For some women, flowers are the way to their heart. This beautiful bunch of pastel-coloured flowers comes in a light-weight pop up vase and alongside some chocs too.
Price: £22.94
Buy: www.flyingflowers.co.uk
Wicked & Wonderful Chocolate set(09 of15)
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If you're going to get chocolate, get chocolate worth eating.
This 'Wicked & Wonderful' chocolate gift set has raspberry and champagne flavoured sweet treats that will no doubt beat any usual chocolate bar hands down.
Price: £23.95
Buy: www.boroughbox.com
Pamper Hamper from Lush(10 of15)
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Lush have a range of Mother's Day gift boxes giving mums the opportunity to pamper themselves at home with bath bombs, oils and face masks.
Pictured is the "Think Pink" gift set.
Price: £64.95 (other gift sets start from £11.95)
Buy: uk.lush.com
Mother's Day Biscuiteers Flowers(11 of15)
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A beautiful tin of decorated biscuits from the Biscuiteers - created especially for mums on Mother's Day (just make sure the kids don't get in the tin first).
Price: £30
Buy: www.biscuiteers.com
'Bag Of Tricks' Makeup Bag(12 of15)
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Whether she chooses to keep her makeup in here, spare dummies or crayons for the kids, it's a stylish canvas pouch that will fit in her handbag.
Price: £20
Buy: www.notonthehighstreet.com
Jo Malone Candle(13 of15)
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Jo Malone candles are known for being long-lasting and giving off beautiful scents.
The Red Roses candle is a blend of seven of the world's roses.
Price: £42
Buy: www.jomalone.co.uk
Floral Satin Dressinggown(14 of15)
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With spring (hopefully) round the corner, this lightweight satin dressinggown is a perfect bed wear essential.
Price: £18
Buy: www.marksandspencer.com
Benefit VIP mini set(15 of15)
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A mini makeup package including a mascara, lip gloss and highlighter that is the perfect fit for a handbag.
Price: £9.95
Buy: www.boots.com