How One Former Heroin Addict And His Partner Are Fighting The Stigma Surrounding Addiction

'I Am A Recovering Drug Addict And This Is My Truth'
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When the word 'heroin' flashes up across your TV screen, it's often bad news.

Earlier this year the tragic deaths of Peaches Geldof and Philip Seymour Hoffman shocked the world, and in both cases heroin was either fully, or partly, to blame.

But there's another, largely untold, side to drug addiction that doesn't end in tragedy - and that is recovery.

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Tom Goris, co-founder of I Am Not Anonymous

One powerful photo series hopes to challenge the negative perceptions surrounding those who have suffered from drug or alcohol addiction.

'I Am Not Anonymous' is a platform for former addicts to share their personal, and often emotional, stories.

The project was launched back in April by Tom Goris, a recovering heroin addict, and his photographer girlfriend Kate Meyer.

Their vision? To break down stigma, encourage recovery and make people feel visible again.

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Kate Meyer, co-founder of I Am Not Anonymous

Tom, who was addicted for 15 years, knows first hand how difficult recovery can be. But admitting publicly that he had a problem was what made him determined to succeed.

On day two of his treatment, Tom called Kate and told her: “You can tell everyone. I am in rehab, I am a drug addict and this is my truth. I have nothing to hide anymore. I have kept it a secret for long enough.”

He also attended a local community group where he broke his anonymity around addiction for the first time. Kate says it was a defining moment in their journey.

“We learnt that speaking out could result in saving someone’s life,” she says.

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I Am Not Anonymous Stories
Tom Goris(01 of09)
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Co-founder of I Am Not Anonymous.My name is Thomas Goris, and I am in early recovery. By that I mean I have not used alcohol or drugs since December 21st, 2013. As a result, my life has drastically changed for the better, and I’m becoming the man I’ve always dreamed I could be, but never thought possible until I entered recovery.Read more. (credit:Kate Meyer and Tom Goris)
Mariel(02 of09)
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My name is Mariel Harrison. I am 28 years old. I live in Point Pleasant, NJ. I am a daughter, sister, aunt, girlfriend and friend. I am also a consumer, a voter, a tax-payer, a home-renter, and a licensed/registered/insured driver. I am a responsible, productive and valued employee. I am a diligent full-time student with a 3.9 GPA. I believe wholeheartedly in the healing properties of yoga and meditation, am a certified yoga teacher, lived in an ashram for 9-months, and hold nothing more sacred then my personal practice both on and off the mat. In my spare time I can usually be found outside – kayaking, hiking, biking or on the beach. I spend too much money at Marshall’s. My favorite word is “fabulous.” I cry too often and I laugh too loud. I love coffee, cupcakes, sushi and kale! I am also a person in long-term recovery; and for me that means that although I suffer with substance use disorder – I have not drank alcohol or used drugs in over seven years.Read more. (credit:Kate Meyer and Tom Goris)
Rob(03 of09)
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When asked what recovery means to me my immediate, and somewhat knee-jerk response, is very simple. It means everything to me. Every bit of joy, success, and peace of mind that I have experienced is firmly rooted in the decision that I have made to recover.Recovery is often confused with mere abstinence. Abstaining from the use of drugs for a period of time was never a real issue for me depending on the circumstances. However, until I made the decision to actually recover as opposed to just abstain, relapse was an inevitable, and a constant reality for me.Read more. (credit:Kate Meyer and Tom Goris)
Kristina(04 of09)
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Recovery goes far beyond its definition or interpretation. It’s about embarking on a process; a journey of fulfillments, enriching lives without the use of mind or mood altering substances.Before ever being introduced to this process I was left with my own devices. After years of struggle and degradation, and the lives I’ve hurt as well as my own brought me to my knees. Everyone and everything seemed to have vanished within a blink of an eye, as if I woke up from a bad dream laying in the fetal position. My body was aching in pain and I couldn’t recall much of anything.Crying out in desperation I felt helpless and my vulnerability was eating me alive. I hadn’t bathed, ate or slept in days. I was nothing but a mere existence of skin and bone who had lost her soul. That slightest moment of reality is what woke me from this nightmare and it was at that moment I had to make a decision. Continue my pain and suffering of the unmanageable life I’ve created, or stop using and find a new way to live.Read more. (credit:Kate Meyer and Tom Goris)
Chris(05 of09)
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My name is, Chris Titmas, and I am a young person in long term recovery which to me means that I haven’t used a drink or a drug in over three years. I grew up in New Jersey in a loving family with both parents. I may not have had everything I wanted, but I had everything I needed. Both of my parents worked, but were still very much involved in my life. My dad coached my football and baseball teams, my mother never missed an important game. When I got more into music in junior high school my parents were at every play and concert. I can honestly remember back to all the times my parents would warn me about drugs, telling me that our family has “addiction” and “addictive personalities” in our genes.I started using drugs when I was 13. I would steal alcohol from my parents to binge drink. When I got to high school I would smoke pot. At first, it was here and there, then only on the weekends, and then it became every day. Nothing out of the norm because to me it seemed that everyone else was also doing it. The only difference between me and everyone else was that they knew how to stop and I didn’t.Read more. (credit:Kate Meyer and Tom Goris)
Sarah(06 of09)
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My life today is beyond my wildest dreams. I never understood what that meant until I had the willingness to recover from my addiction. I was in a hopeless state of mind, unable to be honest with anyone, including myself. Addiction took me to a dark place, darker than I could’ve imagined. Even when I hit my bottom there was a trap door. Things that I thought would never happen to me did.One of the misconceptions about addiction is that we have a choice. People think by just having a little bit of will power, we can change our destructive behavior. I had no choice. No matter how badly I wanted to stop my pain and get help, I couldn’t put down the drug. I didn’t know any other way of life; I was used to my misery. I would wake up every morning with the determination to stay sober. Later in the day I would sit, high, and wonder how I got there.Read more. (credit:Kate Meyer and Tom Goris)
Tyler(07 of09)
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My name is Tyler Hurst. I thought that I was a normal kid from a normal family (whatever normal means these days) in the Midwest. I grew up around Milwaukee Wisconsin. I never thought that I really fit in anywhere. I was really short and really skinny and got picked on a lot. I remember growing up my parents used to tell my big sister to protect me because I would get beat up so much. Having a girl protect you in the Midwest just makes you get picked on more. I developed a sense of self-loathing, a lack of respect and belief in myself because people would beat me up just because I was an easy target. I believed that I was worthless and the first time I contemplated suicide I was 9 years old. My parents never beat me and gave me all the emotional love that a child could ask for though, and that helped greatly, but my rebellion in my teenage years unfortunately made me lose sight of who I was.Read more. (credit:Kate Meyer and Tom Goris)
Tatiana(08 of09)
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My name is Tatiana and I am person in long-term recovery.My sobriety date is April 19th 2011.What does it mean to be an addict? Some people may shrug with a look of disgust on their face when you ask this question. Those who do actually understand are riveted with compassion and love for the addict. Its funny how a complete misconception can create such a divide amongst people.Many people still believe that addiction is a behavioral issue and that addicts are just “bad” people with a weak will. Although it may appear this way to the naked eye, this is so far from the truth.Read more. (credit:Kate Meyer and Tom Goris)
William(09 of09)
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My name is William and I am a person in long-term recovery. What that means is I haven’t had a mind or mood altering substance since November 15, 2006. I am glad to be a part of such an awesome movement of people in recovery, who are striving to shatter the stigma associated with addiction. When I first heard about this project through a fellow advocate in recovery, I immediately wanted to make this a reality for myself. No longer do I have to stay in the shadows about my disease and my recovery process. I can be one of many who have chosen to step out into the light and bring a FACE and VOICE to society.Read more. (credit:Kate Meyer and Tom Goris)

From this moment of courage came a project that not only gained 29,000 hits from 29 countries in the first 48 hours of launch, but gave others the confidence to seek help, share their stories and not be invisible anymore.

The couple have since received an incredible response to their work, with messages from drug and alcohol users saying that the stories on their website have prompted them to seek help, and also praise from the family members of loved ones lost to addiction.

Kate adds: “Even people in recovery are coming forward, of their own accord, and asking for the opportunity to share their stories.”

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As well as sharing his story, Tom offers his advice for those looking to seek help and recover from addiction.

"You are not alone," he tells us. "Ask for help and surrender. Accept yourself for who you are. If I can do it, so can you."

"The process takes time. The process takes patience. But, looking back, I'm so happy that I made the choice to accept the help and be willing to accept it everyday moving forward."

"If we can empower people in recovery to share their stories and become visible, we can shift the focus to the solution," says Kate.

A lesson to take away from this?

The couple summarise addiction perfectly: “People who suffer from heroin addiction are not bad people trying to become 'good', they are sick people trying to get well.”