Male And Female Orgasms: Which Is Better?

Men orgasm more frequently, but women's last longer. So who has it best?

Men and women both orgasm - but who experiences it best? That’s the question the team at ASAP Science set out to explore in their latest video.

The narrator explains that the female orgasm typically lasts a lot longer than the male version. In fact, a woman’s orgasm can last over 20 seconds, while a man’s orgasm will last between three and 10 seconds.

But it’s worth noting than men have more orgasms than women. In a study of heterosexual couples, men were found to have an orgasm during 95% of sexual encounters, while women only orgasmed 69% of the time.

The video also notes that orgasms might have less to do with gender and more to do with the type of sex you’re having.

A survey found that lesbians have 12% more orgasms than heterosexual females. Meanwhile straight men and gay men have roughly the same amount of orgasms.

This difference between gay and heterosexual women might be due to the duration of sexual encounters. Lesbian women’s sexual encounters are reported to be around 30-45 minutes, while heterosexual sex is likely to only have sex for between 15 and 30 minutes.

When it comes down to whose orgasm feels better, it turns out there’s very little distinguishable difference between the sexes.

In a study of college students, both sexes reported “explosive” and “euphoric” feelings, as well as a very physical “throbbing” sensation.

Regardless of gender, the brain stimulates blood flow to the genitals during an orgasm. Similarly heartbeat and breathing increases for both men and women. 

Brain activity during an orgasm is also the same and both genders will also report feeling drowsy afterwards due to a surge in the sleep-inducing hormone prolactin.

Both genders can also experience multiple orgasms, however this is less common in men.

The video concludes that when it comes to orgasms, men and women are wired in similar ways.

Whether you have a great orgasm or not therefore comes down to an individual level, rather than gender, as a person’s physiology, anatomy and psychology play a huge role.

Top 10 Female Orgasm Myths
Intercourse Should Always Lead To Orgasm(01 of10)
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Intercourse alone usually does not lead to orgasm. Only 30 per cent of women reach orgasm from intercourse alone. The rest need added clitoral stimulation to achieve pleasure.
All Positions Are Created Equal (02 of10)
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Not so! There are some positions that make female orgasm much more likely, such as woman-on-top, as it gives her the added clitoral stimulation she needs to reach orgasm. (credit:Getty )
Women Can Easily Reach Orgasm(03 of10)
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Pornography and Hollywood movies make the female orgasm seem effortless and straightforward. However, the truth is that most women need up to 20 minutes to become aroused and orgasmic, which is why foreplay is so important. (credit:Getty)
Vibrators Are A Replacement For A Man(04 of10)
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Sex aids can help to greatly improve your partner's sexual experience as well as your own. However, vibrators are not a replacement for a man, and they cannot help your partner achieve the same feelings of intimacy and pleasure.
Women Don't Like Quickies(05 of10)
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While most men can reach orgasm faster than a woman can, this doesn't mean that quickies aren't fun or that they cannot serve a purpose in your relationship. If you don't have time for foreplay or a full-on sex session, a quickie can keep you bonded and close for the time being.
Condoms Complicate Sex And Delay Orgasms(06 of10)
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Recent advancements in condom manufacturing have made condoms thinner and less noticeable than ever before.
You Can Always Tell if a Woman Is Faking(07 of10)
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Not always! Some women deserve an Oscar for their acting performances; however, it's important to remember that faking orgasm cheats both of you. Ask your partner if she likes what you are doing or if she needs a different touch to reach orgasm.
Women Like Only Soft, Gentle Sex(08 of10)
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Sometimes they do, but sometimes they also want sex that is more animalistic and wild. Explore that side of your partner's fantasies by asking her what she wants and taking the lead. (credit:Getty )
Women Can Easily Achieve Multiple Orgasms(09 of10)
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Unlike a man, a woman doesn't need a refractory period before she can be orgasmic again. However, it's not always easy to achieve one orgasm, let alone many! Hence, while some women are multi-orgasmic, not every woman knows how to harness that power. Practice makes perfect!
The Goal Of Sex Is To Have An Orgasm(10 of10)
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Don't think of orgasm as the destination. Sex should be about the journey and being in the moment. Stay attuned to your partner's body and the sensations of closeness and passion, and let your orgasm and hers happen when they happen. Remember, there is no "right" time or way to achieve orgasm. Every individual and every orgasm is unique.

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