Men Are Just As Broody As Women, Expert Suggests

Academic Claims Men Are Just As Broody As Women
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According to new research, men suffer deep feelings of depression, loneliness and jealousy if they are unable to have children.

During a presentation at the British Sociological Association annual conference, Robin Hadley, of Keele University, revealed that a recent study suggests not only are men almost as broody as women (59% of men and 63% of women said they wanted children), but they become deeply distressed by fatherlessness.

According to Medical News Today, of the 27 men and 81 women without children who took part in his survey, half of the men had experienced isolation because they did not have any kids, more than a third experienced depression, and 69% had experienced yearning for a child, in comparison to just 11% of women.

The Daily Mail reported that Hadley believes men have been overlooked when it comes to feelings of broodiness

Mr Hadley said: 'There is very little research on the desire for fatherhood among men. My work shows that there was a similar level of desire for parenthood among childless men and women in the survey, and that men had higher levels of anger, depression, sadness, jealousy and isolation than women and similar level of yearning."

His findings undermine a common myth that women are more likely than men to want children.

Huffington Post UK blogger and parenting author Neil Sinclair -- an ex-Commando who has been a stay-at-home dad to his three kids for the past 10 years -- agrees that men are often overlooked when it comes to discussions of broodiness.

"I meet a lot of new and expectant dads and they often tell me that they do feel overlooked and sidelined at times, and that their deep feelings and emotions about fatherhood are regarded as somewhat of an oddity and worthy of comment - whereas it is 'expected' that a woman would have these emotions," he told HuffPost UK Lifestyle.

"While I can honestly say I never felt a feeling of 'broodiness' for having children, I just accepted the fact that once I had found the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, I would be a dad."

Tamsin Kelly, editor of Parentdish, also believes these findings ring true, but adds that there are additional social pressures placed on women.

"Men are just as likely as women to go gooey over the cute baby in the buggy. That said, I think it's women who feel more social and biological pressure to get on and start a family, hence the guilt if they don't feel ready or worry that they are letting their partner down if that famous biological clock isn't ringing."

Take a look at these pictures of dads with their newborns. Do you think there's any doubt that men feel as broody as women?

First Photos Of Dads And Babies
Pete & Eva(01 of86)
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"What was I thinking at this moment? Everything from the super emotional 'I'll stand in front of a speeding train for you yet I only just met you' to the pragmatic 'So this is what a combination of me and my wife looks like.' I felt more pure happiness than I can describe." (credit:Pete Meyers)
Simon & Gwyneth(02 of86)
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"Gwyneth's due date was 9/11/01. Thankfully, she waited another six days until she made her appearance in the world. She'd had to be resuscitated due to the cord being wrapped around her neck, so at this point we were just thrilled and ready for a nap." (credit:Simon Heseltine)
Damon & Sebastian(03 of86)
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"What is this thing and why do I love it so much?!" (credit:Damon Scheleur)
Scott & Zadie(04 of86)
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"I'm gonna eat you up." (credit:Farah Miller)
Steve & Lydia(05 of86)
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"She's a redhead! She's a redhead!" (credit:Liz Williams)
Peter & Leo(06 of86)
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"This was the first nap I had with our boy, Leo, after we got him home from the hospital. I was thinking how delighted I was that he was here, in our lives; that my wife was safe and healthy, and that our baby was so lovely and sweet and perfect, and that maybe neither one of would ever sleep again, so better grab it while it was available." (credit:Peter Goodman)
Ron & Emmy(07 of86)
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"To preface, I am a nervous wreck most of the time so I was totally 'freaked out' about the baby. But the first time I held Emmy, the first time she opened her eyes and gave me the once-over, the first time she grabbed my finger as if to say 'hey, Daddy,' all that worrying and freaking out ... it's all so worth it. Five and a half years later, the worrying never ends but is far surpassed by the fun, the joy, the pride, the unconditional love (well, at least most of the time)." (credit:Ron Brounes)
Ron & Zoe(08 of86)
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"Since the day my oldest daughter was born, I had been totally obsessed with her. So much so, that I worried I could never love another child as much as her. And then Zoe was born; she gave me that same initial stare; and then that first smile (maybe it was gas?); and we bonded in an instant. A friend once described to me that it's as if your heart just opens up to make room for another. And that is a pretty good description. Now I am obsessed times two (and still in a constant state of worry)." (credit:Ron Brounes)
Joel & Peyton, Joel & Logan(09 of86)
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"I'm going to give this kid the best life ... Don't think this coffee is going to be strong enough ... Never thought I could love someone this much." (credit:Bonnie Bradley)
Jamie & Nicholas, Natalie, Noelle and Nicole(10 of86)
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#1: Nicholas. "Holy sh**."
#2: Natalie. "Wait a second, I've been here before."
#3: Noelle. "I think I got this down."
#4: Nicole. "I'm a pro."
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Mickey & Ella(11 of86)
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"When I first met my daughter, I was overwhelmed with happiness. Usually love is an emotion that takes time to develop and grow, but when I laid my eyes on Ella for the first time, I was hooked immediately. I knew life would never be the same, in the best of ways." (credit:Mickey Seidenstein)
Steve & Sam(12 of86)
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"I really don't remember what I was thinking in that moment only vividly what I was feeling ... complete joy." (credit:Steve Rudin)
Jeffrey & Logan(13 of86)
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"Wow, I'm a dad. Too bad he looks so much like me; hope he grows out of it. I can't wait to take him to his first Texas Longhorn football game in a few months!" (credit:Jeffrey Gilbert )
Larry & Carlos(14 of86)
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I had left my wife and my first child, Carlos Miles, at the hospital and was wandering home. I was in a daze, a swirl of emotions. Suddenly a thought occurred to me: "I am man. I make son." For a moment, I was in the grip of something primal. It was heavy: as though I was experiencing something that men of all cultures and all epochs had experienced: I created a son. I felt like a caveman --dumb and in awe. Ok, it was silly and slightly overwrought, but the feeling was undeniable. Now my son is 8, and I still sometimes feel the same way. (credit:Lori Leibovich)
Ezra and pop!(15 of86)
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digamama:
This is the very first picture I have of my son and pop. Three years later, they still cuddle in like this.
Eric and Violet(16 of86)
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thekaogirl:
Sheer amazement and unconditional love. I remember thinking that she was the most beautiful person I've ever seen. And then I thought of my wife, Erika, and I was in total astonishment.
Adam & Evan(17 of86)
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"You run through a flood of emotions when you see your child for the first time. It's a surreal feeling knowing that you've created a life." (credit:Lindsay Cohen)
Daddy Joe and Baby Will(18 of86)
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Melissa Mulvaney:
No words. Just amazing love.
Kaya Hannah and Kingsley(19 of86)
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"My pride and joy. I was speechless, basically and in awe." (credit:Kingsley Rowe)
Adam & Lily(20 of86)
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"Ten toes- thank goodness!" (credit:Sarah Garfunkel)
Sammy and Samantha(21 of86)
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"My life just started." (credit:Sammy Carattini)
Daddy and little Layla(22 of86)
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Miriam Alkazzaz:
I cherish the photos I have with my late husband and our twins. I am blessed that he was alive to see the birth of our twins. We miss you Daddy!
Daddy and Little Jennah(23 of86)
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Miriam Alkazzaz:
Happy Father's Day Daddy! RIP We miss you. We know you are watching your twin girls up in heaven!
Jason & Ava Marie(24 of86)
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"It was love at first sight!" (credit:Jason White)
Nap time in the hospital(25 of86)
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Angela Reynolds:
First thought was that I loved him so much and I couldn't wait to take him to a Red Wings game!
Bonding in the man cave(26 of86)
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la renard:
To free up Mom on weekends, we retreat to the man cave together.
All I will be thinking about this weekend...(27 of86)
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HuffPost Blogger Charlie Capen:
"I wonder if I could keep my hand here on his head, like a helmet, for the rest of his life." -charlie, howtobeadad.com
Dan & Lizzie(28 of86)
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Katybeth McClelland:
Lizzie is about to celebrate her birthday, right after her Daddy celebrates his first Father's Day. We love you Daddy!!
Justin & Jax(29 of86)
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shoelvr32:
submitted by Mommy: I remember my hubby's first thought seeing our girl 2 years ago "Wow she's really here" She slept on Daddy's chest nearly every night from the hospital until she was 2 months old
Matthew & Papa(30 of86)
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keiffer30:
Our first child Matthew was born in fall of 2007 & my wife & I were so excited. I am a big Goo Goo Dolls fan and to this day every time I hear "Better Days" lyric, "Cuz tonight's the night the world begins again", I think of all the potential & love Matthew brings us.
Doug and Bella(31 of86)
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bananabean12:
Real love at first sight is when a daddy meets his baby girl.
She's here, at last! (32 of86)
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Rose May Tubo:
Smiling together for the first time :)
James & Kya(33 of86)
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Myra York:
James, Bri & Kya...Kya is a Christmas baby!
Day one of being Dad of 2 Boys : )(34 of86)
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Sheryl Kaufman:
Griffin was born the day before and Travis was 2 1/2 and the adventure was just getting started .They are 8 and almost 6 now and get cuter and smarter every day. Dada Tim is a very proud Dada !
Jeremy And River Isabelle(35 of86)
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Jeremy Gast:
I couldnt believe how pretty she was. Amazingly beautiful even with her swollen eyes and cone head. I asked her why she gave her mother such a hard time coming out. It finally dawned on me that that huge belly my wife had and all those kicks and bumps actually was a real baby. And now she was here. And my life changed forever
Amar meets Beatrix(36 of86)
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singing to his newborn baby daughter (credit:Molly Oberhausen)
I have the Best Daddy(37 of86)
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Craig and Ty un-seperable (credit:madgie4)
Emma and Daddy(38 of86)
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Father's first picture with his newborn baby girl! (credit:M. Byrne)
Dad with Leonora(39 of86)
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Marcelo & Gabriel(40 of86)
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marcelomelo:
"Hey, he's looking at me!" Gabriel was in this world for about 40 minutes when my sister-in-law took this picture last September. I was also thinking of the challenges we'd face together as a family: Gabriel, his mom, and me: "It will be great be on this journey with you, guys!"
In Admiration (41 of86)
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kderush:
It's hard to imagine what to say about this photo.
Hospital Picture(42 of86)
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astrumluminarium:
She came a day before Daddy got home from Iraq. It was nearly midnight, I was exhausted, and he walked in from the airport, carrying his gear, pale faced and shaking so hard he couldn't pull his jacket off. He was still shaking when I snapped this first picture, and he's been wrapped around her finger ever since.
Omar and Adrian(43 of86)
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Dad & Melissa, December 1987(44 of86)
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TradeGreetings:
The moment she was born, I was overwhelmed by how much I loved her.
First kiss! Mommy and Daddy and Emmaleith(45 of86)
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Julie SandersMartinez:
I had My baby girl C-sec, but due to complications I was immediately rushed on to 4 hours of emergency surgery. Emma was 6 hours old before I got to see or hold her. Only thing I can remember about the first meeting of my now soon to be 4 year old and her daddy was when he whispered to her "Im going to be worthy of having you call me Daddy.-I promise" I spent a month in the hospital and daddy would come from work to the hospital so I could have her in room with me and every night they would fall asleep in those awful daddy chair beds and snooze in almost identical positions. It was a tough time but Id never change because I got to learn a lot about my husband as a father, a partner in the new adventure,And I loved him even more deeply and completely every time our eyes met over our precious little gift.
Justin and baby Julian(46 of86)
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philli1102:
He was the happiest man alive! I never had anyone support me more =) When he held him for the first time he cried tears of joy.
First Time Dad(47 of86)
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cunnitr:
This is my favorite picture. He's seeing her for the first time in amazement. She's just born minutes earlier and looking like she needs her dad already!
UT's newest fan!(48 of86)
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kellymac1019:
UT's newest fan!
shhh, jrs sleeping(49 of86)
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Pulachito and I(50 of86)
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Penny Leal Ffrench:
This is the first picture taken of my husband and our first born baby boy. It was wonderful to see him carry our baby for the first time, he was so proud of him.
Emerson and Daddy =) (51 of86)
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ruca333:
Happy Birthday buddy!!!
Daddy holding Allison shortly after she was born.(52 of86)
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My daddy... My Hero!(53 of86)
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Orianna Alfred:
I remember when my little man was born, I was surprised!! that's when I knew my life had just started! instant bond and Love!
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