Let's All Shut Up About Christmas Proposals

If someone wants to ask the person they love to spend the rest of their life with them on a special day of the year, it would seem good sense (and common decency) to be happy for them.
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Has December turned your social media feeds into non-stop streams of people popping the question? You're not alone.

Facebook recently revealed that Christmas Eve is the most popular time of year for people to get engaged, closely followed by Christmas Day.

It's not really surprising. All that winter magic, festive cheer, the looming new year shining focus on life's Very Big Things. The fact that many are surrounded by family and friends, and not forgetting those handy Christmas bonuses.

But what is surprising, are some people's reactions to what usually would be cause for celebration.

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In place of congratulatory messages, I've seen cryptic tweets, sarcastic statuses and snide remarks. Friends getting into passive aggressive arguments in Facebook comments.

"So unoriginal..."

"If someone proposed to me at Christmas, I'd say no..."

What is this madness?

Did your sweetie propose with an orchestra made of baby angels, standing on one leg on the top of the Eiffel Tower? Has anyone proposed to you at all?

If someone wants to ask the person they love to spend the rest of their life with them on a special day of the year, it would seem good sense (and common decency) to be happy for them.

I don't know about you, but not being a wildly deplorable person is pretty important to me. Plus, spending your Christmas essentially shitting all over someone else's says a lot more about you than it does about them.

Bitterness is never a good look on anyone and, in a time of austerity, berating someone for not having the 'spontaneity' to drop a huge chunk of their pay cheque mid-March borders on vile.

Besides, a new survey by jeweller 77 Diamonds revealed most women don't even want a flashy, public proposal anyway.

47% said they'd prefer it to take place somewhere intimate, which suggests we're moving away from the OTT trend of flash mobs, proposal tattoos and anything that can described as 'Instagrammable'.

To further add fuel to the Angry People of Facebook's fire, another proposal study of 10,000 people by Chillisauce.co.uk showed that 29% of women would prefer to be asked on Valentine's Day. Even less 'original'.

A further fifth of women would prefer to get engaged on the anniversary of the day they met their other half, rather than a random Tuesday in August when they definitely weren't expecting it.

Personally, I couldn't care less when or where someone chooses to propose, as long as they're doing it for the right reasons.

Shouldn't another person's future happiness count for more than all of this modern one-upmanship? Afterall, the proposal itself is insignificant compared to the daily commitment of marriage.

Now I'm not tarring all social media users with the same brush, for every rude comment there's also a genuine heartfelt "congratulations!". But to all the naysayers - please, shut up and just enjoy Christmas.

Celebrity Engagement Rings
Kim Kardashian(01 of62)
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Kanye West proposed to Kim Kardashian with this 15-carat Lorraine Schwartz diamond ring in October 2013. (credit:Kim Kardashian/Instagram)
Avril Lavigne(02 of62)
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Nickelback frontman Chad Kroeger proposed to fellow Canadian Avril Lavigne in August with a gargantuan 14 carat pear-shaped rock. We want to know: can she even put her hand in her pocket with that thing on?! (credit:Getty)
Halle Berry(03 of62)
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Olivier Martinez proposed to Halle Berry in 2012 with this unique emerald ring. (credit:Gregg DeGuire/WireImage)
Olivia Wilde(04 of62)
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Even Tom Hanks was stunned by Olivia Wilde's bling. The ring, given to Wilde in January by Jason Sudeikis, features a halo of emeralds. (credit:James Devaney/WireImage)
Keira Knightley(05 of62)
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Keira Knightley's two-carat engagement ring, from now-husband James Righton is surprisingly modest. Knightley and Righton became engaged in 2012 and married in May. Post-wedding, Knightley added a yellow gold band to her ring finger for a trendy mixed-metal look. (credit:Splash News)
Jessica Simpson(06 of62)
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Jessica Simpson's unusual engagement ring, from boyfriend Eric Johnson, features a ruby surrounded by diamonds. Simpson and Johnson have been engaged since 2010. (credit:Getty)
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Jessica Biel and Justin Timberlake tied the knot in a lavish Italian wedding in October. But after their engagement in 2011, the star waited months to show off her colossal rock . We're glad the pair settled on much more modest wedding bands. (credit:Getty)
Kim Kardashian(08 of62)
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An article about over-the-top engagement rings wouldn't be complete without a mention of Kim Kardashian. The reality star's famously gigantic bauble from estranged husband Kris Humphries was a whopping 20.5 carats in total -- more than many of these other ladies' massive rings put together. (credit:Getty)
Anna Paquin(09 of62)
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Anna Paquin's ring, from now-husband Stephen Moyer, features an unusual rustic diamond. Paquin and Moyer married in 2010. (credit:Jason LaVeris/FilmMagic)
Dania Ramirez(10 of62)
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"Heroes" actress Dania Ramirez said her fiance, director John "Bev" Land, designed her distinctive engagement ring. They married in February. (credit:Steve Granitz/WireImage)
Marion Cotillard(11 of62)
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Rumors that Marion Cotillard was engaged to her boyfriend, French actor Guillaume Canet, swirled when she stepped out wearing this unique sparkler in 2010. They have yet to tie the knot. (credit:Getty)
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Prince William gave Kate Middleton the ring his mother, Princess Diana, chose when she became engaged to Prince Charles in 1981. William and Kate married in 2011, and we all have Kate to thank for making colored engagement rings so trendy! (credit:AP Photo/Arthur Edwards)
Louise Roe(13 of62)
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TV host Louise Roe tweeted about her engagement in December 2012, sharing this photo with the caption, "Guys I have some exciting news to share, I am engaged! I was given my great-grandmother's aquamarine ring, i LOVE!" Her fiance is Abercrombie & Fitch model Josh Slack. (credit:Louise Roe Twitter)
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"Jersey Shore" star Jenni "JWoww" Farley got engaged to her boyfriend of two-and-a-half years, Roger Matthews, in September. Matthews popped the question while the pair were skydiving, and presented JWoww with a five carat cushion-cut diamond, surrounded by pink and white diamonds. We have to say we're not surprised by the over-the-top choice in this case. (credit:Getty Images)
Kim Kardashian (15 of62)
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Kim got engaged to Kanye West on her birthday in L.A. (credit:Getty )
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The "Glee" star is engaged to rapper Big Sean. (credit:Getty )
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Ciara (18 of62)
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Halle Berry(19 of62)
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Olivier Martinez proposed to Halle Berry in 2012 with this unique emerald ring. (credit:Gregg DeGuire/WireImage)
Keira Knightley(20 of62)
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Keira Knightley's two-carat engagement ring, from now-husband James Righton is surprisingly modest. Knightley and Righton became engaged in 2012 and married in May. Post-wedding, Knightley added a yellow gold band to her ring finger for a trendy mixed-metal look. (credit:Splash News)
Jessica Simpson(21 of62)
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Jessica Simpson's unusual engagement ring, from boyfriend Eric Johnson, features a ruby surrounded by diamonds. Simpson and Johnson have been engaged since 2010. (credit:Getty)
Anna Paquin(22 of62)
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Anna Paquin's ring, from now-husband Stephen Moyer, features an unusual rustic diamond. Paquin and Moyer married in 2010. (credit:Jason LaVeris/FilmMagic)
Dania Ramirez(23 of62)
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"Heroes" actress Dania Ramirez said her fiance, director John "Bev" Land, designed her distinctive engagement ring. They married in February. (credit:Steve Granitz/WireImage)
Marion Cotillard(24 of62)
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Rumors that Marion Cotillard was engaged to her boyfriend, French actor Guillaume Canet, swirled when she stepped out wearing this unique sparkler in 2010. They have yet to tie the knot. (credit:Getty)
Louise Roe(25 of62)
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TV host Louise Roe tweeted about her engagement in December 2012, sharing this photo with the caption, "Guys I have some exciting news to share, I am engaged! I was given my great-grandmother's aquamarine ring, i LOVE!" Her fiance is Abercrombie & Fitch model Josh Slack. (credit:Louise Roe Twitter)
Kate Middleton(26 of62)
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Prince William gave Kate Middleton the ring his mother, Princess Diana, chose when she became engaged to Prince Charles in 1981. William and Kate married in 2011, and we all have Kate to thank for making colored engagement rings so trendy! (credit:AP Photo/Arthur Edwards)
Olivia Wilde(27 of62)
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Even Tom Hanks was stunned by Olivia Wilde's bling. The ring, given to Wilde in January by Jason Sudeikis, features a halo of emeralds. (credit:James Devaney/WireImage)
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