Make Any Day Special (01 of32)
Open Image ModalGet Out Of The House(02 of32)
Open Image ModalIt’s tempting to just bunker down and stay in when the weather starts to get chilly, but the problem is that your home has so many things that distract you from alone time: dishes, kids, computers, and even the television. Find a way to physically remove yourself from the things that keep you from making time for each other. Try checking into a nearby hotel for a night or even a local Airbnb spot. (credit:XiXinXing via Getty Images)
Shower Together (03 of32)
Open Image ModalNapping baby? Head to the bathroom and get clean (or dirty) together, Wright suggests. It doesn't have to end in sex — all that matters is the time spent alone together, and the re-connection from touch. As a bonus, you can save time and water! (credit:Randy Faris/Fuse via Getty Images)
Bring In An Expert(04 of32)
Open Image ModalDon't Dismiss The Quickie (05 of32)
Open Image ModalYes, it’s nice to have an entire evening together, but sometimes there just isn't time for an extended romantic rendezvous. Sex doesn't have to be an all-or-nothing event. A quickie can remove the pressure from those, “Oh god, it’s been XX days since we've done it” thoughts in your head, and remind you how much you enjoy spending time together. (credit:Musketeer via Getty Images)
Schedule Sex(06 of32)
Open Image ModalConstantly Kindle The Flame(07 of32)
Open Image ModalBut Don't Forget Intimacy(08 of32)
Open Image ModalIt’s hard to get revved up for sex when you’re feeling disconnected from your partner. Don’t forget to work on your intimacy as well, in big and little ways. Send a quick note during the day, or text just to say you’re thinking of your spouse. Make a point of touching more often. Talk about how you’re feeling and where you’re struggling. Fostering those connections will make it easier to make sex a priority, and remind you why you’re with this person in the first place. (credit:ImagesBazaar via Getty Images)
Make A Sexual Bucket List(09 of32)
Open Image ModalAre there things you've always wanted to do in bed, or want to do again? Work on your sexual bucket list together, Wright says, and go to it when you find yourself with some time to spend on it. (credit:Jacobs Stock Photography via Getty Images)
Simplify (10 of32)
Open Image ModalNot every surface in your house has to be spotless. Not every meal has to be made from scratch. If hiring a bi-weekly cleaner and ordering takeout on Fridays means you have more time for each other, so be it. Sometimes you have to spend money to make whoopee. (credit:Eastphoto via Getty Images)
Turn Off The Big Black Box(11 of32)
Open Image ModalDo you have time to watch "Scandal?" Then you have time to get busy! Set the DVR and get to it. We think Olivia Pope would approve. (credit:GeorgeRudy via Getty Images)
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Open Image ModalTalk About Sex (13 of32)
Open Image ModalEat Healthy (14 of32)
Open Image ModalPick Up Some Chores (15 of32)
Open Image ModalWant to put your partner in the mood for better sex? “Help around the house,” says Mandel. “The best foreplay happens outside the bedroom. By helping with chores and errands, you make them feel valued.” (credit:Shutterstock)
Exercise (16 of32)
Open Image ModalBut Don't Over Do It (17 of32)
Open Image ModalIn Fact, Work Out Together (18 of32)
Open Image ModalIf exercise is good, then exercising with your lover is an even better sex tip, says Mandel. “Working out together ensures that both libidos and endorphins will be up,” she says. “Since you’re both already sweating, take it to the next level. Stretching together is also a good idea.” (credit:Shutterstock)
Abstain A Bit(19 of32)
Open Image ModalAbstinence as a sex tip? Believe it or not, it’s a surefire way to improve sex and make your next encounter with your lover even more exciting. “Practice abstinence for a couple of days, a weekend, or a week,” says Mandel. “Abstinence does make the heart grow fonder and makes you lust after forbidden fruit.” (credit:Shutterstock)
Plan For Sex (20 of32)
Open Image ModalIt may not sound that romantic, but Dr. Simmons says it’s a great way to improve your sex life and satisfy women. Construct a plan for having sex, he suggests: “Setting aside time or arranging opportunities for sex is very important, especially for busy couples or those with children. Don’t let the frequency of sex dwindle due to fatigue or the inability to find the ‘right time.’” (credit:Shutterstock)
Send Your Partner A Text(21 of32)
Open Image ModalMake use of technology. Want to keep her in the mood for sex later that night while you’re stuck at the office? Use your cell phone or e-mail. “Send her sexy messages throughout the day,” advises Mandel. (credit:Shutterstock)
Compliment Her (22 of32)
Open Image ModalWant a foolproof way to drive her wild and ensure better sex? “Find a particular feature, and tell her that she is the best in this class,” says Mandel. (credit:Shutterstock)
Focus On Relaxation (23 of32)
Open Image ModalMen like to get excited for better sex, but women are more likely to get in the mood through relaxation. “Wash her hair in the shower or massage her scalp to relax her,” says Debbie Mandel, a stress management expert and author of Addicted to Stress. “A woman needs to be relaxed before she is ready to receive.” (credit:Shutterstock)
Foreplay(24 of32)
Open Image ModalRegardless of how you get revved up for better sex, Matthew N. Simmons, MD, PhD, of the Glickman Urological and Kidney Institute in Cleveland, suggests not skimping on the foreplay — no matter how long you have been together as a couple. “Foreplay contributes greatly to stronger orgasms and improved sex,” he says. “Gearing up your autonomic nervous system will increase sensitivity, excitement, and strength of orgasm. Your patience and attentiveness will pay dividends.” (credit:Shutterstock)
Think Like Your Partner (25 of32)
Open Image ModalLet Them Take The Lead (26 of32)
Open Image ModalMen so often take the lead in bed. Sometimes, the key to better sex is letting her be in charge. “Don’t be afraid to let your mate lead,” says Joyce Morley, EdD, a licensed counsellor in Decatur, Ga. “Allow your mate to initiate sexual pleasure on occasions, as well as taking the top position.” (credit:Shutterstock)
Don't Overlook Lubricant (27 of32)
Open Image ModalAccording to Bencivenga, there’s no shame in using lubricant to satisfy women. “Many guys think that since women get wet, if we aren’t wet, then we aren’t into it,” she says. “That’s not true. Sometimes, whether it’s stress, certain times of the month, or fatigue, women can have a hard time getting physically aroused even when they are mentally in the game. Lubricant in the bedside drawer is your new best friend.” (credit:Shutterstock)
Switch It Up(28 of32)
Open Image ModalIf you’re experiencing a case of the “same-old, same-old,” working on adding a little variety is the key to better sex, says Simmons. “Spice things up by planning and discussing variations on your usual sexual habits,” he explains. “Lingerie, toys, new positions, and other creative additions can enhance intimacy and orgasm.” (credit:Shutterstock)
Change Locations (29 of32)
Open Image ModalAnother way to add variety and improve sex life, suggests Mandel, is to try some place new. “Do it in different places to experience a different energy,” she says. “Take it outdoors if you are overwhelmed with technology and want to get back your natural rhythm.” (credit:Shutterstock)
Just Don't Have Sex, Make Love (30 of32)
Open Image ModalDoes it feel lately like it’s just sex? “Try making love,” advises Dr. Morley. “You make love with that special someone, but you have sex with anybody.” (credit:Shutterstock)
Use Touch Even Without Sex (31 of32)
Open Image ModalEven when you’re not having sex, you can still improve your sex life by using touch in an intimate, but not sexual, way. “Touching is important, but doesn't always mean sex,” says Morley. “It is important to be intimate with your mate by touching her with love and affection on a daily basis. Kiss daily, and don’t be afraid to allow her to reciprocate.” (credit:Shutterstock)
Take Care Of Your Penis (32 of32)
Open Image Modal “Take good care of your penis,” says Dr. Simmons. “Penile injury is usually sustained when your partner is on top or when the penis buckles from missed penetration. If things are getting out of hand, ask your partner to ease up. If you suspect a penile fracture due to a perceived ‘pop’ followed by bruising, see a urologist immediately.” (credit:Shutterstock)