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The 11 Signs That He's Just Not That Into You

Picture this: You're dating a guy and things seem to be going great! The chemistry is hot, you have loads to talk about but then all of a sudden, something changes. He stops returning your calls and begins changing plans at the last minute...

Picture this: You're dating a guy and things seem to be going great! The chemistry is hot, you have loads to talk about but then all of a sudden, something changes. He stops returning your calls and begins changing plans at the last minute. He barely pays attention when you talk or constantly has a "big project" at work he needs to take care of. The next thing you know, it's been two weeks since you've spoken and your friends tell you he's dating someone new. So how can you tell when a guy just isn't that into you before you get your heartbroken? Here are 11 signs to look out for.

1. He only texts you when he's drunk.

Or when he wants to hook-up. Other than that though, if you're the one who always initiates conversation or asks to hangout, chances are he doesn't want to get a dialogue or another date in the works.

2. He doesn't want to meet your friends and family.

When a guy has one foot out the door, the last thing he wants to do is suffer through an evening with your parents or hang out with your girlfriends at the bar. Simply put, if he's not investing in you, he's definitely not going to want to invest in perfect strangers who will no doubt hate him when he inevitably breaks your heart.

3. He says things like: "I don't know what I want right now..."

This statement should be followed by "but I know I don't want you", because that is basically what he's saying, just in a nice way in an attempt to spare your feelings.

4. He's great at ghosting.

Ghosting is when you're dating a guy and then poof! He's gone! If a guy disappears for days on end, cancels or flakes on plans or doesn't respond to text messages and calls for a week, he's probably losing interest and is hoping he can just fade away without a big dramatic conversation.

5. He doesn't want to sleep with you.

Unless he's a total jerk (see #1) most men would feel too guilty having sex with a woman they aren't interested in to fully enjoy it. If a guy begins pulling away sexually and stops being affectionate, it could be a sign that the end of your relationship is near.

6. He doesn't make time for you.

These days, we are all busier than ever and it's unfair to think that a man should never cancel plans. However, if he's constantly using work as an excuse not to spend time with you, remember one thing: If you were very important to him, he'd make time. He'd drop by your office on his lunch break to see you for 10 minutes, he'd invite you over for a cocktail after a long day. If no effort is being made to see you, it should tell you a lot and it might not be what you want to hear.

7. He's always dating other people.

Unless you've had "The Talk", it's perfectly acceptable for a guy you're dating to be hanging out with other women as well. At one point or another though, he's got to decide who he wants to be with. If you're hoping for an exclusive relationship but he seems unwilling to commit, it could be because he's just not done playing the field.

8. He doesn't support you.

When you're going through a hard time, or just having a terrible day, the man you're dating should be a pillar of support, someone you can count and lean on. When the going gets tough and he's nowhere to be found, it's a sure sign that he isn't in it for the long haul, and that he will only continue to let you down in love and in life.

9. He doesn't include you in his life.

If you've been seeing each other for a while, and have yet to meet any of his friends, family or coworkers it could be a sign that he's not sure that he wants to let you into his life completely. When a man is really into a woman, he can't wait to bring her around his inner circle and introduce her to those closest to him. If that isn't happening, it might be worth taking a step back and asking yourself why...

10. You feel it in your gut.

There is much to be said about women's intuition and most of us know when we are forcing the issue-when we are calling and texting too much and when our feelings aren't being reciprocated for one reason or another. No matter how much you want someone to love you, sometimes things just don't pan out. If you feel yourself acting desperate or behaving in a way that you might regret later in an attempt to gain his affection, try to remember that there are plenty of other single men in the sea and no man is worth going all Fatal Attraction over.

11. He tells you.

This might seem extremely obvious, but unfortunately it's not. Saying things like: "I don't want a relationship right now" or "I'm really happy being single" are just more ways a guy is trying to be honest to you and to himself. He's trying to let you down easy without resorting to ghosting. Please don't tell him that you'll wait for him until he does want a relationship, instead keep your pretty head up, wish him well and move on to a guy who can give you what you want, and deserve, right now.