14/04/2014 09:29 BST | Updated 13/06/2014 06:59 BST

Finding the Gift in a Bad Day

We have all had days when we are convinced the world is against us or that the chaos we are currently experiencing will never end. Each negative circumstance seems to lead to another, and another and so on.

You may wonder, as we all have on a bad day, whether anything in your life will ever go right again. But a bad day, like any other day, can be a gift.

Having a bad day can show you, if you choose to notice, that it is time to slow down, change course or simply lighten up. A bad day can help you gain wisdom you might otherwise have overlooked or discounted.

Bad days can certainly cause you to experience some uncomfortable feelings you would really prefer to avoid. That same bad day may also give you a potent means to learn more about yourself.

You may think that a bad day is one where you have missed an 'important' meeting because your car broke down or the washing machine broke or you received a piece of very bad news earlier in the day.

Several misfortunes that take place, one after the other, can leave us feeling vulnerable and intensely aware of our fragility.

Although it is good to remember that bad days can only have a long-term negative effect on us if we allow them to.

It is a good idea to ask yourself what you can learn from these kinds of days. The state of your bad day may give you a clue that you need to stay in and hibernate or let go of your growing negativity. It can give you a clue that you need to slow down and cut down on your workload.

Bad days also contribute to the people we become. Though we may feel discouraged and distressed on our bad days, a bad day can also teach us patience and perseverance.

When you think back to that bad day you have just experienced, is there something positive that came out of it? For instance, when you missed that 'important' meeting because your car broke down, was there an accident on the road ahead that you avoided? Or did you suddenly feel ill and were able to get the help you needed straight away, rather than waiting until the end of the meeting?

Think very hard about what happened on that bad day, was there anything positive at all that happened? If so consider what would have happened if the day had gone as you originally planned. Smile if you find the gift in your bad day.

It is definitely important to remember that your attitude drives your destiny. It is also good to remember that one negative experience does not indicate that it is the beginning of an ongoing streak of bad luck.

A bad day is memorable because it is only one day among many good days. Otherwise, we would not even bother to acknowledge it as a bad day. Be aware that you are not being singled out, everybody has bad days. You are not alone, the world is not against you.

Remember, tomorrow is a brand new day.