26/08/2016 09:34 BST | Updated 26/08/2017 06:12 BST

Reclaiming Your Power

There is an innate awkwardness to being human. With each decision we make, there is the potential for self-doubt and it is this-self doubt that forms the root of insecurity--a complex emotion that is made up of equal parts of inadequacy, isolation, fear and hopelessness. Yet these feelings of insecurity, that prevent us from fulfilling our potential, are nothing more than perceptions. They are our thoughts, which pop in and out of our heads at any moment. And we don't have to believe any of them.

We feel unconfident and unsure of ourselves because we think we are unconfident and unsure. Banishing insecurity is often simply a matter of challenging ourselves in order to prove that we are indeed intelligent and able. Listen to those thoughts, are they really telling us that we are unconfident and insecure, or are they telling us what we believe we deserve?

When we are feeling insecure, we perceive ourselves as incapable of meeting life's challenges. Fraudulent and unworthy of true happiness. We move through life plagued by a perception that others are judging us and think we are lacking. This is generally not the case as most people are far more interested in what you think about them than thinking about what they think about you.

As a result of all this thinking and believing every thought, we rob ourselves of our personal power and render ourselves unable to feel positive about the choices we make. Everyone feels insecure from time to time, and if you should find yourself with feelings of insecurity, endeavour to understand its source. Perhaps you were repeatedly berated as a child. That is in the past and cannot be changed, but your thinking about it can be changed. Accept the past, let it go. Remember, we can only live in this moment, not in the past and not in the future, only now.

Perhaps you rarely receive positive reinforcement for the work or deeds that you do. Give yourself that positive reinforcement. Be proud of your achievements, however small or large.

When you have pinpointed the origin of your insecurity, turn your focus on to your abilities. The more you utilise your personal power--by taking risks, facing challenges and acting decisively--the stronger it will grow.

Remember that insecurity is an emotional interpretation of your value unconsciously based on doubt, shame and fear. And all those emotions we feel in the moment, our thinking helps us to feel our emotions.

As you overcome those underlying emotions through courageous action and copious self-love, you'll discover that you are capable of achieving more than you ever thought possible.

Remember not to get caught up in the past, it is gone and cannot be changed. Don't get caught up in thoughts about the future, it hasn't happened yet. The future knows nothing about you and therefore cannot have any effect on you. Live in the moment. Feel good.

When you are feeling good remember that smiling opens the heart. Good feelings for others are like ointments that heal wounds and re-establish friendships and relationships. Good feelings are generated in the mind, your thoughts, they are transmitted through your attitude and are reflected in your eyes and smile. Smiling opens the heart and a glance can make miracles happen.