December Is The Most Stressful Month For Couples, Study Reveals

Couples Argue Most In December

The Huffington Post UK   First Posted: 15/12/2011 17:20 Updated: 16/12/2011 13:32

Although it's meant to be the season of goodwill and happiness, December is the month couples argue the most, with one in 20 doubting their relationship will survive past Christmas Day.

The study by Seddons found that one in five are already considering splitting up with their partner and blame money worries, entertaining extended family members and sharing the workload over Christmas as the main triggers.

Almost one in five admitted that they dread Christmas as they know it'll cause a string of rows with their partner.

Out of the 2,000 people questioned, the average couple argued four times a day - 124 throughout the whole of December. For some (23%), it became so bad, they decided to walk out on their relationship for good in December.

However, for 16% of those who split, they admitted that the separation was purely down to them wanting avoiding buying their partner a Christmas gift…

"The quest for a perfect Christmas and keeping everyone happy can often result in couples neglecting each other or just bad communication," says Head of Family Law, Deborah Jeff.

"By keeping a sense of perspective and being willing to compromise, your relationship needn't be a casualty of the season. Even something as simple as having planned some time for just the two of you once all the entertaining is over can support your relationship over the Christmas period.

"But if the issues are still there in the New Year, get specialist legal advice and consult a relationship counsellor before making any long-term decisions."

If you argue with your partner at Christmas, find out how you can keep the stress out of your relationship with these expert tips from life coach, Sophia Davis.

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05:09 AM on 12/19/2011
Maybe men and women are just too different to do anything well together and would usually be better off just calling it quits.
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08:22 PM on 12/19/2011
It's headed that way for sure. The gap between the sexes is growing wider. With more and more people complaining about their unhappiness with the other gender, everyday on millions of blogs each day.

I have found 'Friends with Benefits' to be a much better alternative.

FWB eliminates stress as there are no expectations, and therefore no complaints. At least that's been my experience now for several years. If my 'friend' decides to find a committed relationship, she does, and I simply move on. Everyone is happy.
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01:28 AM on 12/19/2011
Ho ho frickin' ho
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02:13 AM on 12/18/2011
We're having a great December. We both happen to have our birthdays in December (two days apart!). So between that and Christmas and the other 7 (yes, count 'em 7) family birthdays that fall between Thanksgiving and New Year, we simply don't exchange gifts. We treat ourselves to a nice dinner, splurge on a schmancy bottle of wine, and let the craziness swirl around us.

Today we spent a perfectly delightful day planning and picking our our Christmas dinner menu, watching Christmas movies, and doing some last minute internet shopping.

It doesn't have to be crazy. But it will be if you let it.
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04:28 AM on 12/20/2011
Wonderful..my husband and I never get each other gifts for "special" days. Never did when younger, either. We do things all year that brings us pleasure. Living, loving, laughing is the best gift for a marriage or relationship. We golf..casino it..take a few days exploring special cities in state..as retirees now, we can go at inexpensive rate times and get senior discounts, to..LOL

We are now at the age where all the grand kids (blended families...so, 11 of them and a 1 year great grand son..thanks to our son-in-law) are older..so, we give the families a group check for a family gift. Some years they buy zoo or science center family passes. Some years a family fun center or aquatic park....one year a new computer for them and printer...and this brings them joy as they use them all year round...and such pleasure for us, too:>)

Tea....A happy and healthy New Year to you and yours, friend:>)
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04:38 AM on 12/20/2011
And a lovely, loving, prosperous New Year to you and yours Tea!
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05:02 PM on 12/17/2011
this is bbbbbbbssssssssssssssssssssss
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12:23 PM on 12/17/2011
My Father was a Psychiatrist, the telephone rang incessantly during the Christmas Holiday's !

I concluded that many things must be wrong with People.

Especially during the Season of Gifts and Love and Family.

Forgive, Smile and Forget the Grudges ?
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01:06 AM on 12/17/2011
"Almost one in five admitted that they dread Christmas as they know it'll cause a string of rows with their partner. "

Not just their partners. when I taught school and kids returned from their Holiday recess, I would ask them who relatives had visited them during the holidays. Just about every hand went up. When I asked them if there were any arguments or fights. Just about every hand went up. Seems like there were always a lot of unresolved conflicts that had festered during the year. there are very few stress-free holidays if one is planning the "perfect" Holiday. There's no such thing. Best to disappear and leave the relatives behind.
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09:51 PM on 12/16/2011
Stop spending all his money, then Feb would be the most stressful, as it should be.
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09:12 PM on 12/16/2011
What people have to stop doing is planning "the perfect Christmas"...the expectations are so high that it's hard to not be in a bad mood over the whole thing.
06:03 AM on 12/16/2011
Best to keep Egos out of the way - everything is more enjoyable then! :-)