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Can Boys Do Ballet?

Posted: 09/08/11 18:59

"Everyone knows that boys that do ballet do not grow up into well-adjusted men"

I'm a full-time mummy of a 2 and 3 year old, and that means that my eagle eyes are always on the lookout for activities and groups that we can all go along to.Many groups that I come across are age specific and I do struggle to find things to take the gruesome twosome along to together. So you can imagine how I rubbed my grubby hands with glee when I came across a Ballet class for 2 -5 year olds ,boys and girls welcome, being run locally. I emailed off to get the prices  info ready to present to my financial advisor husband one evening after work over a cheeky glass of red.


"No son of mine's doing ballet!" was the response from hubby. I giggled at his macho joking - it was a joke right? Wrong! He was deadly serious - no son of his was doing ballet. It turns out that even in the 21st Century that the thought of hubbys digger loving, toy train wielding son morphing into some sort of Billy Elliot /Wayne Sleep / John Barrowman style of dancer /entertainer shaking jazz hands is most disagreeable.

Not macho enough apparently. Though I am informed that 'if he wants to do karate' then that's dandy.

Shocked to the core I asked my facebook friends - imagining the 'sisterhood' would leap to my defence. But no! Only one person said that they thought that it was a good idea with nearly everyone poo-pooing it, the majority it seems thinks that 'nothings wrong with it but I wouldn't take my son'.

So the question is - Can boys do ballet ? More to the point would you take yours to ballet lessons ?

I wait with baited breath....and in the meantime I can dream....

 

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00:18 on 07/10/2011
My 5 yo boy has been taking ballet since 2, at his school. The other boys are jealous they want to do dance, too. At this age, they really don't know it's not the norm if no one mentions it. Every time they have a presentation he is front and center. All the little girls have a crush on their boy. Now that he's 5, he still does ballet at school, and has begged to start tap. He also plays baseball and is by far one of the best, if not the best boy on the team. He's strong, fast, flexible and probably less likely to be injured because he's well conditioned. In a few months he will move out of ballet and after tap will move into jazz and hip hop, I'm sure. How I convinced my hubby that it would be fine is I challenged him, "For every gay man that is famous and known for his dancing that you can name, I will name a gay athlete." He was stumped, I was not. ;-)
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09:32 on 10/08/2011
I can only speak from my own painful memories. I'm the youngest child and the only son in my family, and when I was little my mum sent me to a handful of ballet classes with my older sister - I suspect, more to get us out of her hair than for any other reason.

My memories of those classes are of deep embarrassment, awkwardness and alienation - I don't even remember if there were any other boys there, I just knew that I didn't belong and I really, really didn't want to be there. Mothers sometimes seem to imagine that their young children have no sense of their own dignity - they are wrong.

If a boy really wants to pursue ballet, then he will only be fully equipped to make such a decision once he is comfortable in his own identity and his own masculinity. Shoehorning a reluctant boy into a situation like that is just mean - and will almost certainly be counterproductive.
been2there
Facts have a liberal bias.
18:26 on 09/08/2011
My son did do ballet--and when he got harassed, he reply way, "I am surrounded by lovely ladies in skin-tight leotards. I get to hold them, too. What's not to like?"
The harassing stopped.
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DocManhattan
09:34 on 10/08/2011
If that was a valid argument for your son, then I would bet he was substantially older than 5 when he took these classes. Very different situation.
17:56 on 09/08/2011
It's "bated breath." As in abated, as in holding one's breath waiting for something.
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Mammasaurus
18:18 on 09/08/2011
Ah yes thanks for spotting that typo for me :)
17:52 on 09/08/2011
You want to send your 2-3-yr. old kids to ballet class and your machoman hubby wants to send the son to karate class. At 2 or 3! What a nuthouse! Both of you. Have you put the kiddies onto to bungie jumping yet? Sky diving?
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18:20 on 09/08/2011
I hardly think ballet and karate are that out of the ordinary ? Are you from the UK - these are the norm over here (as well as rioting so it seems). Pray tell me what sort of activity you would recommend for the little 2 and 3 year olds of today - chimney sweeping perchance?
23:57 on 09/08/2011
Doesn't take much to turn on your stereotyping.