What did you learn about breastfeeding in school? Chances are - not much. Whether you were a pupil in the 1950s or the 1990s, it's unlikely you were told anything at all about nursing a baby, because breastfeeding has never ever been a statutory requirement on the National Curriculum, and it still isn't, even today.
Teenagers are taught about alcohol, emotions, contraception, cultural diversity and more as part of their PSHE lessons. But breastfeeding? Telling girls how to do that is dangerous and downright disgusting, according to many commenters in this recent article in the Daily Mail about a pilot scheme in Merseyside teaching the benefits of nursing to 14-year-olds.
Revolting!! Don't teach them how to read and write but teach them how to breastfeed...ye Gods.
Teach them how to respect themselves, how to say NO and how to keep their legs closed, along with teaching them to read and write!!
These idiots should be locked up so they cannot do our children any more harm. It's idiots like these that only make underage pregnancy worse.
Even an 'expert' was quoted, Norman Wells, from the (somewhat conservative) Family Education Trust:
With the age of consent remaining at 16 and the average age at which women have their first child in the UK being almost 28, there is no pressing need to teach girls of 14 about breastfeeding.
Of course, this IS the Daily Mail, a paper best read with your head strapped to the back of your chair to prevent you from planting your face intermittently into your keyboard. But still - it can't be denied, there does exist an underlying cultural distaste of breastfeeding, an activity that many grown women are still reluctant to attempt 'in public'.
There's a squeamishness, not just about milky mammaries, but about women's bodily functions in general, that makes it unsurprising that folk feel uncomfortable when we talk about them to school children. And there still persists the mythology that by giving our children accurate information about the sexual functions of their bodies, we are somehow inadvertently 'marketing' the idea of dropping out and becoming that most feared of stereotypes: a teenage mother.
Better, then, to talk down the whole motherhood thing, and paint it in a negative light wherever possible. They certainly did this at my school in the 80s, where we were shown a film of a woman giving birth that caused one girl to actually faint and put the rest of us off procreating for at least another 20 years. The image of a woman in Deidre Barlow glasses, flat on her back on a bed and having some sort of horror movie version of dentistry done to her nether regions stays with me still, and certainly accounts in part for the terrible fear of childbirth I had when pregnant for the first time at 32.
According to new research, as many as one in three post partum women are suffering Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, to which fear can be a major contributing factor.
The research, from Tel Aviv University, was pretty narrow - it only looked at 89 women in Israel - but I still think it's worth our consideration. Whether or not it's true that one in three of us get PTSD, it is the case that most women begin labour filled with scaremonging misinformation. The fact that women's bodies are designed to give birth brilliantly and that birth can be enjoyable is rapidly becoming one of the best kept secrets of the modern age.
Even the researcher, Professor Strous, appears to have missed the point, suggesting the solution might lie in "better counselling about pain relief and making sure that patient's bodies are properly covered during labour and delivery." This, "take-more-drugs-and-keep-your-shirt-on-luv" attitude ignores the grass roots of the problem - women are only fearful because they are completely misinformed and are anticipating a Deidre Barlow dentistry moment when they could be preparing for the most life-enhancing and empowering day of their life.
Do we dare teach our daughters how incredible their bodies can be? Can we tell them the real truth of how beautifully they can birth and feed their babies? Or should we continue to "start them young" on the myth that it's all a bit yucky and horrific, in the hopes that they "keep their legs closed."
Maybe, just maybe, if we risked telling them the facts, they would learn the lesson that their bodies are incredible, functional, powerful, capable and worthy of deep respect. But could they find any women to teach that? Since the opposite has been taught in schools for as long as we can remember, that might be tricky.
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But even though it is natural, it certainly is difficult. Breastfeeding - and body education in general - is stigmatised by attitudes like yours allowing them to remain steeped in shame and guilt... and just why shouldn't the boys learn about female bodily functions?!!
The horrible comments above regarding young girls being sexually active and to "keep their legs closed" just shows how overly sexualized people are making children and how oppressive people are being over other peoples sexualities before they are even sexually active!
I would love to see these types of programs in school. Unfortunately all our schools are teaching right now is the type of ignorance you see in the comments in the article and thats why I home-school.
Comments so far missing the point that the breastfeeding education we offer *during pregnancy* is terrible! Midwives are so afraid of being accused of discriminating against mothers who choose not to breastfeed, they often struggle to say anything useful at all - the check-list they run through is pitiful. Add to that the natural prime concerns of the pregnant woman: the health of her baby in utero and the upcoming birth. Breastfeeding needs normalising across society, schools can be part of that. But fourteen is too late to start!
"Kids ask what breasts are for, they're told they give food to babies." This made me laugh. Most wouldn't list that as the prime function of breasts - if they did then who the heck would have a problem with nursing in public?! It's a minority of children who know that breasts make milk; an even smaller minority will have actually seen a mother and baby nursing. I have been surrounded by friends of my children, watching me feeding our newborn baby, and asking, "Where is her bottle? Doesn't she need other food? How does your body know to make milk? What happens if she doesn't feed for a while? How do you know she is really getting milk out? Doesn't it hurt?" They had never seen anyone breastfeed before aged 8-13.
Since learning how to breastfeed is caught not taught, that explains a lot about the rates in this country.
Just a women nursing her baby in front of school children would have such an impact, I think.
I also think birth is 'caught not taught' as well, and that to see images of women birthing in a different way to the 'norm' e.g. One Born Every Minute, would be a great seed to plant in the minds of young people.
Oh and I had PSHE lessons (I'm 19, I only finished secondary school one year ago), and those classes were mostly rubbish and there was a strong lack of information about sexual health or responsible parenting. Yes parents should be the teacher when it comes to family and home life and how to take care our ourselves and future children, but I can't help but feel that the reason for at least some societal problems is that people are not getting at least a minimum education at school about how to run home and work and family lives in a responsible and effective way.
As for teaching about breastfeeding....if it was added to the current info on puberty/sex/birth then why no? Sex ed from a younger age clearly works in The Netherlands (lowest teen pregnancy rates in europe?). Although sex may be illegal under 16 there were plenty of girls at my school going at it from 14, and many had children not long after leaving school with little idea what they were in for. But they all seem to have managed ok - i'd be interested to know if education would have made a difference.
http://www.the-mule.com/2012/07/natural-empowering-birth-directory-of.html
the experience was better in holland than in germany because home birth is still fairly normal, midwifes have complete autonomy and the whole system is still geared toward it while in germany you have to fight for it and thee needs to be a gynecologist on standby.
i recommend that you read/watch some different things to get less scared. sheila kitzinger is great [ about birth and breastfeeding ] and '' spiritual midwifery '' is still as well even if it seems all 70s hippyish.
Yes, we teach younger children the facts on alcohol, sex, emotions - we don't have the option of a 14 year old telling us "oh, in 9 months time I'm planning on indulging in some alcopops, followed by some underage sex. I'll probably be having some mixed feelings about all that, so do you think you could clue me in on the facts before this so I may make an informed decision?"
But we do have that time frame if a woman gets pregnant. That's when she gets all the information she needs on breastfeeding. In the meantime, she can see the facts plastered all over the UK.
Oh, I saw that video in school too. It caused most kids a major cause of the giggles. It certainly didn't cause anyone "terror". Childbirth is like breastfeeding and pregnancy and most other bodily functions. A simple, necessary and important part of life, and one which I for one don't see the point in overly complicating by turning it into a political or social issue. Kids ask what breasts are for, they're told they give food to babies.
Anything more complicated can be left till it's actually pertinent for the prospective mother, surely?
It's not just the Deidre Barlow films that leave most women in fear of giving birth, and often keen to be numbed by drugs throughout the experience. The films are just a small part of a whole load of cultural messages that birth is something to endure and that is unlikely to be possible without rather a lot of unpleasant medical help. You only have to watch shows like One Born Every Minute to see women on their backs and begging for drugs, surrounded by medical staff telling them when and how to push. When I was first pregnant, I thought this was how you gave birth, and I was 'shocked' when I read birth stories and watched films of women giving birth calmly, standing up or kneeling in birth pools, and catching their own babies. I wished I had grown up with these images or had been shown them in school. They would have had a great impact.
Perhaps the difference in opinion is coming with age - I'm in my mid twenties and have no had children yet, but I certainly have had more exposure to the 'calm' style of births you describe, and had insight into a wide variety of birthing styles and experiences from women who have already started families. I know the internet is often lauded as the source of all evil information for youngsters and a too-much-exposure-too-soon, but I certainly feel that having grown up in an information age, where knowledge really is at your fingertips, I, and others of my generation, have the power to seek out the vastly different experiences of motherhood - those home births and meditation pools, and those with complications and medical intervention.
I would go as far as to suppose we are on the same page about this - that access to information is an empowering thing and one which should be encouraged and celebrated. Perhaps it's just deciding on the where, when and why that is the more challenging aspect of the discussion!
that was more than 20 years ago when we still read books and watched tv and getting information was limited.
I think that people also feel that nudity of any kind is a private thing, and I don't agree with celebrities having the boobs hanging out is any more acceptable than any other kind of public nudity, although I believe it's much more of an acceptable reason to be feeding a child than simply because the person has no self-respect.
I personally recognise the healthier nature of breast milk for babies, but I have to say that no matter what, I will use a breast pump because I do not want to directly feed my baby from my breasts. I do think it's rude to say "EW! Gross!" to anybody's lifestyle choice of feeding their child though and whilst I have that reaction to the hypothetical thought of myself being breastfed, I would never judge another person's choice of feeding.
I think the key things about this issue are to keep people properly informed, to teach acceptance, and to allow freedom of choice.
Teaching breastfeeding and positive birth in schools isn't of course a solution to all this, but it might help.
I really hope you grow to accept your breasts as having different functions for different moments or needs, just like your mouth can eat and, um, do other stuff, and just like your vagina can give birth, and um, do other stuff.
Incorporate everything into the school curriculum and children will inevitably miss out on the BASICS. Why force children to learn about something that 50% of them will never be able to do?
Women who choose to breastfeed will learn about when they need to learn about it and let's face it, women who have given birth are the ones who tell their friends about their experience - if they exagerrate it or dumb it down who does that benefit?
Each woman is different, each labour is different and the choice about whether to breastfeed or not is probably more due to their experiences of family life than anything they might be forced to learn in a classroom.