Abuse

Unravelling My Thoughts

Rachel Lamb | Posted 05.04.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Rachel Lamb

Admitting that I needed help to organise that box of emotions I'd pushed to the back of my mind for so long was a huge milestone for me. Going from an abusive relationship, to escaping and feeling strong and empowered, to finally coming to terms with the fact that I can't deal with it on my own, is one hell of a realisation.

Ride For Murdered Women

Jean Hatchet | Posted 28.03.2017 | UK
Jean Hatchet

Yesterday a judge told a man who forced a woman to drink bleach, hit her with a cricket bat and urged her to kill herself that he could walk away and ...

A Mum's Experience Of Abuse

Jennifer Gilmour | Posted 24.03.2017 | UK Parents
Jennifer Gilmour

Having children changes your life in so many ways, not least because you acquire a protective instinct that makes you want to protect them from harm or hurt. I remember feeling this protectiveness instantly when my first child was born.

How Raw Is 'Too Raw'?

Dr Diahanne Rhiney | Posted 20.03.2017 | UK
Dr Diahanne Rhiney

I know that triggers are complex, unpredictable and create unique reactions. As a psychologist, I get that. What I don't get is how an honest and real talk featuring a few clips can be 'too raw' when it comes to the ugly field of Domestic Abuse.

Let's Start With The Children

Shahida Rahman | Posted 07.03.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Shahida Rahman

Not bad... for a girl. It almost sounds like a compliment, doesn't it? We have all heard comments like this and, whether we bristle at the low bar ...

The Right Care - Instead Of "Chemical Restraint"

Rhidian Hughes | Posted 07.03.2017 | UK
Rhidian Hughes

Mike*, who has a complex learning disability, had been on high doses of anti-psychotic medication for so long, that no one can remember when the drugs...

Kicking The Kyriarchy Episode 09: Relationships

Elena Guthrie | Posted 05.03.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Elena Guthrie

Did things end well? Or not so well, and you explain the animosity by declaring that they were 'out of their mind', 'crazy' or 'unhinged'? This kind of language is harmful and enormously disrespectful of people with mental health problems, so we wouldn't normally use it - but here it's important to use those labels.

When Is An Abuser Not An Abuser?

Jean Hatchet | Posted 22.02.2017 | UK
Jean Hatchet

To my particular abuser, who did many but not all of the things above, I say this. Every time I say sorry for no reason. That's on you. Every time I flinch at a raised voice. That's on you. Every time I wake sweating from a nightmare of what you did. That's on you. Every time I cry remembering the things you did and said. That's on you.

How Seeing A Children's Home As A Place Of Hospitality Could Help Us Create A Sharing Society

Jonathan Stanley | Posted 10.02.2017 | UK
Jonathan Stanley

George Lyward always insisted, invariably after a longer than anticipated by the questioner pause, that Finchden Manor, the pioneering residential com...

Fifty Shades Darker Isn't Empowering, It's Abuse

Caitlin Roper | Posted 13.02.2017 | UK Entertainment
Caitlin Roper

So what happens when a film series of this magnitude frames domestic abuse and male violence against women as sexy and desirable? What message does it send to women and girls, and also to men and boys? Who benefits from widespread acceptance of the belief women and girls secretly want and enjoy sexual violence?

Physical Violence In A Relationship

Nigel Higgins | Posted 08.02.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Nigel Higgins

For years the stigma attached to men being abused by the women in their lives has been swept under the carpet because society doesn't sit well with this kind of behaviour. You will get the usual, my god you are a man, how could a woman hurt comment, but how wrong could people be?

Respect Not Hate - Online Or Offline

Dragana Brown | Posted 07.02.2017 | UK Tech
Dragana Brown

This is a vicious cycle that needs to be broken, for if we don't we are already reaching an impasse that threatens to plunge us deeper into the dark vaults of internet and with that into greater destruction, something we absolutely must look now.

Why Care Regulation Needs to Change

Dr Simon Duffy | Posted 27.01.2017 | UK Politics
Dr Simon Duffy

The Care Quality Commission or CQC has probably one of the most important jobs in the country: to make sure that people who need care are safe from abuse. Unfortunately the evidence is that they are failing in this task and they are bound to fail because of how they are organised and how they think.

Elder Abuse - A Forgotten Human Rights Issue?

Gary FitzGerald | Posted 23.12.2016 | UK
Gary FitzGerald

In the UK, human rights are often seen as an international issue - one enacted in dusty prisons in foreign lands - rather than one that affects us closer to home. However, it can be argued that older people in the UK are one significant part of the population that routinely has its human rights denied...

Every Survivor Matters

Rosie Burnham | Posted 19.12.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Rosie Burnham

Deep down I know change is happening slowly but we mustn't forget that every survivor matters, every survivor should be listen too equally.

Grieving The Loss Of Self

Rachel Lamb | Posted 16.12.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Rachel Lamb

How do you grieve for something that's not a physical being? You haven't lost a relative or friend, or your dog that you've had in the family since you were small. You don't get the usual 'I'm sorry for your loss', because have you actually lost anything? For anyone who's been through or going through this then of course the answer is yes.

It's Already Hard Enough: When Teacher Complaints Are Teacher Abuse

Anna-Christina Connelly | Posted 09.12.2016 | UK
Anna-Christina Connelly

If you've ever worked in any school, in any capacity, you will probably have been warned about certain parents. They are the kind who will always q...

We Must Blow The Whistle On Child Abuse In Football

Peter Wanless | Posted 06.12.2016 | UK
Peter Wanless

It essential that we continue to emphasise and support organisational awareness and action, but also help parents and carers act in an informed manner where they can also help encourage good child protection. The NSPCC will also continue its systematic work in schools to help develop a resilience in children that helps them speak out and stay safe.

Surviving Is Hard

Jennifer Gilmour | Posted 18.11.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Jennifer Gilmour

My name is Jennifer and I am a young married mum of 3 children. I am also a 'survivor'. I often think that being a 'survivor' to some extent defines...

Escape from Abuse On The Emotional Rollercoaster

Rachel Lamb | Posted 10.11.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Rachel Lamb

Escaping from abuse isn't as easy as 'just leaving'. You can't get up and walk away when you decide you've had enough. I wish it was that easy. It is often a long process, a long time of wanting to do it but not knowing how. Then comes how to do it, you need a window of opportunity, a carefully devised plan of action to minimise any threat to your safety.

His Changing Behaviour

Rachel Lamb | Posted 21.10.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Rachel Lamb

I spent half of the night messaging him and talking to him on the phone. The end result was me going home early. In my mind this was a triumph for me, I'd managed to go out. However for him, it was also a triumph, a much bigger, much more overpowering triumph. Mine dwarfed in comparison. He knew he'd won.

The Reaction To Evans' Acquittal Is Bound To Do Damage

Mia Doring | Posted 19.10.2016 | UK
Mia Doring

Considering that most rapists walk free from court, or never even make it to court in the first place, what is off-putting, what is frightening, and what is silencing, is the hysterical, gleeful, response from men and women, denigrating the complainant with a level of passion about rape which I never see in response to an actual rape conviction.

We've Got To Start Joining The Dots Between Poverty And Abuse

Katharine Sacks Jones | Posted 03.10.2016 | UK
Katharine Sacks Jones

If we want to ensure that women's life chances aren't narrowed by gender, that girls born today won't face the limitations and closing off of opportunities caused by the combination of poverty and abuse, we've got to start joining these dots.

'Categorical Disaster' As Another Key Figure Quits Child Sexual Abuse Inquiry

The Huffington Post | Louise Ridley | Posted 30.09.2016 | UK

The national probe into child sex abuse will not work in its current form, a key group representing victims and survivors has warned. The Inquiry i...

Helen Is Set To Face Rob In Family Courts - Here's How We're Campaigning For Real Helens With Child First

Polly Neate | Posted 14.09.2016 | UK
Polly Neate

Life imitates art again. As Helen faces Rob in the family courts in The Archers, our Child First campaign, which is calling for radical change to the family court system in order to protect survivors of domestic abuse and their children, is going to Parliament.