From a young age we are taught that forgiveness and acceptance is the key to happiness. But have these teachings been misconstrued to such an extent that we now have a warped view of what actually deserves forgiveness and acceptance? Do we now unconsciously gravitate towards destructive relationships, believing that without pain there can be no real passion?
Here is a young woman in a popular holiday destination for those with a limited budget - I'm not going to assume that she's working class, but I'm certain the journalists will have done. She having fun, she's drinking, she's apparently being sexual on her own terms. Someone filmed it and the whole thing went viral - oops. Enter the tabloids with their guidebook to acceptable women's behaviour and pronounce her unclean, apparently we've found a "new low" ... It's not long before social media is calling her "actual vermin" and a "repulsive slag". I failed to find anyone (other than feminists) criticising the men in any way, the woman in question has had her name and photo all over the internet today; where are the men?
I regularly receive Twitter comments ranging from the tame and jejune 'fag', 'fudge packer', 'cock sucker', 'spazzy' and 'ugly cunt' to the more personal and nasty 'you should have been kicked out of your mums womb', 'I'd slit your throat fag', 'You should get raped with a machete' and 'Hitler had the right idea. Put you faggot bastards in an oven at 230 degrees until crispy'.
I've been down the aisle more times than I care to consider, and I've got an equal number of divorce papers. So who the hell am I to talk about relationships? Well, I'm happy to say I've learned an awful lot about the truth of them, both good and not-so-good, and how they impact our lives and decisions.
Vilification of benefit claimants and disabled people is endemic, perhaps the government should just stitch on the black triangles and be done with it or bring in the Welfare Games to keep us at a more manageable number and remind us how grateful we are for all the 'pitty money' (in Simon Stevens words) that we get.
I happened to read a story, which has now gone viral about an 11 year old boy with autism, living in Michigan who while sat in his classroom got his head stuck in a chair. This in itself is most upsetting but what upset and made me feel both anger and disgust was the teacher's reaction to this incident.
If you spotted Camilla Carr and Alla Little in a café drinking lattés, chatting, giggling and sharing photos on their smartphones, you might think they were friends out shopping and catching up on old times. You wouldn't think they were discussing their imminent talk to corporate bigwigs about How To Cope - when kidnapped, threatened with execution, mentally tortured, raped and treated like an animal.
When I wrote last week's blog post, about why antifeminism ought to be viewed in a better light, I expected it to be controversial (although I wrote it because I thought it needed to be said, not because of any desire to 'be controversial'). This led to tweets from people on both sides of the debate... So, whether you're a fellow blogger, a standard Facebook or Twitter user, or even a politician, here are my personal tips for dealing with the anger of the internet.
Feminism shouldn't be a gendered concern. By this I mean that feminism shouldn't be something that only women care about. As a man, I don't profess to need feminism as much as my female friends. I'm not the one being held back because of my gender, or having obscenities thrown at me in the streets...