There is no failure to be found in any female brave enough to go through the process of childbirth, no matter what that process may be. There is no such thing as "giving in" or taking the "easy option" when it comes to childbirth.
International Women's Day is an artificial construct, but so is a banana split. It's still a rare and delightful invitation to sit down with a spoon or a microphone and talk about issues that affect women around the world.
Your body shape has changed. Your skin, muscles and other connective tissues stretched during your pregnancy and have not yet returned to their previous level of tension. This has probably led to an excess of skin/flesh immediately above or actually hanging over your scar.