Fatherhood

The Night My Daughter Called Out For Daddy, Not Me

Catherine Wiltcher | Posted 14.05.2017 | UK Parents
Catherine Wiltcher

It's the harshest of penalties, and I place the blame squarely on society's shoulders. More specifically, the default setting that generations upon generations of women have adhered to - the mother, the carer. There's no point chucking another 'e' at the middle of that word.

Could EU Plans Hold Key To UK Parenting Leave Reform Post-Brexit?

Jeremy Davies | Posted 03.05.2017 | UK Politics
Jeremy Davies

Paying Parental Leave at the level of Sick Pay (the minimum suggested by the EU) would hardly change that overnight; Statutory Sick Pay in the UK is just £89.35 per week - less than the already-paltry £140.98 that those eligible for SPL can claim.

Problems Picking Nurseries

Chris Newman | Posted 21.04.2017 | UK Parents
Chris Newman

Here is my dilemma. I am somewhat overprotective. With this in mind, the fact that there are videos and news articles about children who get abused or neglected while in a childcare environment, how can you be sure your child is safe?

Dads Are Asking For Help, And We Need To Listen

Maddy Matthews | Posted 16.04.2017 | UK Parents
Maddy Matthews

There's been a discussion in the media recently about men who develop depression after the birth of their child. The crux of the debate is whether or not this can be called "postnatal depression".

I Delivered A Baby Girl On My Firefighting Shift. The Next Day She Became My Daughter

Marc Hadden | Posted 11.04.2017 | UK
Marc Hadden

life less ordinary banner The doctors told me that the baby was already going to a good home but said I should talk to the birth mom and tell her of our interest in adopting the newborn. I did just that - I told her about my family, how we wanted more children and how much we would love and care for the baby girl. I then left, hopeful, and returned to work.

Shared Parental Leave - Two Years On

Ben Black | Posted 05.04.2017 | UK Politics
Ben Black

To all those slightly irritating MPs who screech with rage if anyone mentions the low take-up, I say "relax", we'll get there in the end. And if you hadn't over-egged the likely take-up rates, then the legislation might never have made it over the starting line, so screech away.

Half Of Fathers Would Use Shared Parental Leave

Sarah Jackson | Posted 05.04.2017 | UK Parents
Sarah Jackson

It's now two years since Shared Parental Leave gave families a new way to share care in the first year of their child's life. After two weeks of compulsory maternity leave, eligible parents can share up to 50 weeks of leave and 37 weeks of pay with their partner.

17 Things You Need To Do To Nail A Wedding With A Baby

Andy Johnson-Creek | Posted 04.04.2017 | UK Parents
Andy Johnson-Creek

Weddings. With a tiny baby. What could be worse?! Well, yes - we've all seen and heard the horror stories. But it doesn't have to be that way with some preparation and life hacks!

How (Not) To Tell Your Child Their Beloved Pet Has Died

Ali Russell | Posted 03.04.2017 | UK Parents
Ali Russell

Let's just take a moment to remember Honey Bunny. She was a gentle little rabbit with a spring in her step. And even though she ate her own poo (very common in rabbits apparently), we loved her very much.

Seven Signs That Your 'Baby Brain' May Be Permanent

James Hopes | Posted 31.03.2017 | UK Parents
James Hopes

You pop to the shops for a tin of baked beans. It takes an hour to walk there because your little one has interacted with all 4176 items on the way there, but you finally arrive just before it closes. Another hour later you arrive back home with numerous chocolate items, ice cream, a box of doughnuts and a 12 pack of cider. But no beans.

Dad Phrases

Tom Price | Posted 15.03.2017 | UK Parents
Tom Price

And there it is. That first moment in the day when you hear your own dad come streaming out of your mouth like a song you long since thought you'd forgotten but in fact remember every single word to. That's right. Dad phrases are exactly like 'Never Ever' by the All Saints (try it - it's in there I guarantee).

Five Ways In Which My Four-Year-Old Helps Me Stay In The Present Moment

Huw Evans | Posted 09.03.2017 | UK Parents
Huw Evans

When I became a dad to a daughter I had a friend who said that this would be the greatest love story of my life. At the time I shrugged it off as I am also a father to two sons. However, around the age of two my daughter started spending more and more time choosing to play with me over her mother (which was upsetting to my wife) and I began to understand what my friend had meant.

I Thought Childbirth Was No Big Deal. Then My Wife Nearly Died

Quora | Posted 06.03.2017 | UK Parents
Quora

It reminded me of an overflowing bath. Suddenly, all joy was gone. I went to my newborn daughter, who was lying on my wife's chest, and I tried to talk, but my heart had started pumping ice around my body. I told everyone I was going to pass out and just as they sat me on the chair, I did exactly that.

Learning To Let Go And Let Dad Shine!

Kylie Abreu | Posted 17.02.2017 | UK Parents
Kylie Abreu

As I continue to recover from my recent surgery, I have realised in the last week how important my partner's role is for our son's development. Of course, I have always known that my son needs his daddy but when your partner works offshore and you are the one running the household, often alone raising your child it is easy to forget

Father Shoots Son

Lee Carnihan | Posted 09.02.2017 | UK
Lee Carnihan

It was early afternoon on a sunny Friday in the summer holidays. My dad had taken some time off work to look after me and my brother while mum was a...

First Rule Of Sleep Club...

Dean Nicholls | Posted 16.01.2017 | UK Parents
Dean Nicholls

I'd philosophise about our ancestral patterns of sleeping, about parenting of an ancient time when babies stayed close to their parents through the night for fear of predatory creatures. I, in my sleep deprived fog, decided that's what we were doing.

A Dad Told Me Paternity Leave Would Send Me Crazy. He Was Wrong, I Loved Every Minute

Owen Bennett | Posted 03.01.2017 | UK Parents
Owen Bennett

The saddest aspect of the whole affair is that Lucia will never be able to join in with me when I reminisce about this time in years to come. She will have no memory of the three months we spent together and how much fun we had.

Patriarchy Two Point O

Tim Wilson | Posted 19.12.2016 | UK Parents
Tim Wilson

We discussed me leaving work. I'd never thought about it, and being honest, the thought of it terrified me. I tried to get to grips with it - giving up a year of work - but I really, really struggled. I realised how much I've been programmed to expect a life of 'old-school masculinity', desk- and duty-bound.

Three Person Babies: Who Do We Recognise As Parents And Why?

Lisa Webley | Posted 16.12.2016 | UK Parents
Lisa Webley

English law provides that the person who gives birth to the child is automatically the legal mother, and the man who undergoes fertility treatment with that woman is the legal father regardless of whether it was his sperm that was used to create the child.

On Thin Ice

Kevin Fleming | Posted 16.12.2016 | UK Parents
Kevin Fleming

The pain begins before anyone hits the ice. Like some kind of head hood before the waterboarding you have to get the skates on the feet. In my case it was 8 feet. My wonderful wife Stacie, the keeper of important knowledge like UK shoe sizes, was kept late at the office with a call.

Great Expectations Of Being A New Parent

Helen Miller | Posted 05.12.2016 | UK Parents
Helen Miller

For most of us, we change as people when we become parents. On the whole we grow and become better people. However in the transition period, that change in who we are, our identity, can cause great confusion. Once a confident and independent adult, you begin to question your abilities. Failing it appears, is not an option.

Fathers and Sons - Staying Connected: A Suicide Prevention Measure

David Simpson | Posted 04.12.2016 | UK Parents
David Simpson

The one thing I would like to change about my dad is 'his temper'. So said one eight year old in Donegal, Ireland. He was not alone. Several hundred b...

Dads, Let's Talk About Puberty

Richard Shorter | Posted 30.11.2016 | UK Parents
Richard Shorter

Isn't it about time we dads learnt to talk about puberty? About unwanted erections, hormones and changes that happen to women? And to do it without embarrassment and code words, as if any of it were something to be ashamed of?

I'm Terrified Of Passing Toxic Masculinity Onto My Sons

Chris Napier | Posted 30.11.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Chris Napier

bmm banner.jpg I don't want my sons to share the programming which has crippled me. I don't want them to grow up in a world which victimizes boys for showing weakness and which treats mental health issues without compassion.

A Week With My Dad Taught Me About The Man I've Become

Ayo Akinwolere | Posted 30.11.2016 | UK Entertainment
Ayo Akinwolere

bmm banner.jpg For the first time, I noticed my father's vulnerability: we would walk down the street and he'd budge up really close to me like a child afraid of his surroundings. We'd go to the pub and I'd order for him because he wasn't quite sure how to navigate his way around a hipster East London brewery. It felt great. The balance of power had shifted slightly and I wasn't so afraid of him anymore.