Fatherhood

Dad Phrases

Tom Price | Posted 15.03.2017 | UK Parents
Tom Price

And there it is. That first moment in the day when you hear your own dad come streaming out of your mouth like a song you long since thought you'd forgotten but in fact remember every single word to. That's right. Dad phrases are exactly like 'Never Ever' by the All Saints (try it - it's in there I guarantee).

Five Ways In Which My Four-Year-Old Helps Me Stay In The Present Moment

Huw Evans | Posted 09.03.2017 | UK Parents
Huw Evans

When I became a dad to a daughter I had a friend who said that this would be the greatest love story of my life. At the time I shrugged it off as I am also a father to two sons. However, around the age of two my daughter started spending more and more time choosing to play with me over her mother (which was upsetting to my wife) and I began to understand what my friend had meant.

I Thought Childbirth Was No Big Deal. Then My Wife Nearly Died

Quora | Posted 06.03.2017 | UK Parents
Quora

It reminded me of an overflowing bath. Suddenly, all joy was gone. I went to my newborn daughter, who was lying on my wife's chest, and I tried to talk, but my heart had started pumping ice around my body. I told everyone I was going to pass out and just as they sat me on the chair, I did exactly that.

Learning To Let Go And Let Dad Shine!

Kylie Abreu | Posted 17.02.2017 | UK Parents
Kylie Abreu

As I continue to recover from my recent surgery, I have realised in the last week how important my partner's role is for our son's development. Of course, I have always known that my son needs his daddy but when your partner works offshore and you are the one running the household, often alone raising your child it is easy to forget

Father Shoots Son

Lee Carnihan | Posted 09.02.2017 | UK
Lee Carnihan

It was early afternoon on a sunny Friday in the summer holidays. My dad had taken some time off work to look after me and my brother while mum was a...

First Rule Of Sleep Club...

Dean Nicholls | Posted 16.01.2017 | UK Parents
Dean Nicholls

I'd philosophise about our ancestral patterns of sleeping, about parenting of an ancient time when babies stayed close to their parents through the night for fear of predatory creatures. I, in my sleep deprived fog, decided that's what we were doing.

A Dad Told Me Paternity Leave Would Send Me Crazy. He Was Wrong, I Loved Every Minute

Owen Bennett | Posted 03.01.2017 | UK Parents
Owen Bennett

The saddest aspect of the whole affair is that Lucia will never be able to join in with me when I reminisce about this time in years to come. She will have no memory of the three months we spent together and how much fun we had.

Patriarchy Two Point O

Tim Wilson | Posted 19.12.2016 | UK Parents
Tim Wilson

We discussed me leaving work. I'd never thought about it, and being honest, the thought of it terrified me. I tried to get to grips with it - giving up a year of work - but I really, really struggled. I realised how much I've been programmed to expect a life of 'old-school masculinity', desk- and duty-bound.

Three Person Babies: Who Do We Recognise As Parents And Why?

Lisa Webley | Posted 16.12.2016 | UK Parents
Lisa Webley

English law provides that the person who gives birth to the child is automatically the legal mother, and the man who undergoes fertility treatment with that woman is the legal father regardless of whether it was his sperm that was used to create the child.

On Thin Ice

Kevin Fleming | Posted 16.12.2016 | UK Parents
Kevin Fleming

The pain begins before anyone hits the ice. Like some kind of head hood before the waterboarding you have to get the skates on the feet. In my case it was 8 feet. My wonderful wife Stacie, the keeper of important knowledge like UK shoe sizes, was kept late at the office with a call.

Great Expectations Of Being A New Parent

Helen Miller | Posted 05.12.2016 | UK Parents
Helen Miller

For most of us, we change as people when we become parents. On the whole we grow and become better people. However in the transition period, that change in who we are, our identity, can cause great confusion. Once a confident and independent adult, you begin to question your abilities. Failing it appears, is not an option.

Fathers and Sons - Staying Connected: A Suicide Prevention Measure

David Simpson | Posted 04.12.2016 | UK Parents
David Simpson

The one thing I would like to change about my dad is 'his temper'. So said one eight year old in Donegal, Ireland. He was not alone. Several hundred b...

Dads, Let's Talk About Puberty

Richard Shorter | Posted 30.11.2016 | UK Parents
Richard Shorter

Isn't it about time we dads learnt to talk about puberty? About unwanted erections, hormones and changes that happen to women? And to do it without embarrassment and code words, as if any of it were something to be ashamed of?

I'm Terrified Of Passing Toxic Masculinity Onto My Sons

Chris Napier | Posted 30.11.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Chris Napier

bmm banner.jpg I don't want my sons to share the programming which has crippled me. I don't want them to grow up in a world which victimizes boys for showing weakness and which treats mental health issues without compassion.

A Week With My Dad Taught Me About The Man I've Become

Ayo Akinwolere | Posted 30.11.2016 | UK Entertainment
Ayo Akinwolere

bmm banner.jpg For the first time, I noticed my father's vulnerability: we would walk down the street and he'd budge up really close to me like a child afraid of his surroundings. We'd go to the pub and I'd order for him because he wasn't quite sure how to navigate his way around a hipster East London brewery. It felt great. The balance of power had shifted slightly and I wasn't so afraid of him anymore.

A Boy Who Is Prepared For Prison, Or Love And Life?

Dr Paul Wood | Posted 30.11.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Dr Paul Wood

I grew up as a younger brother among four boys who liked to fight. Like many before me, I received clear messages from society about what emotions a m...

Let's Start A New Debate About Fathers

Shane Ryan | Posted 29.11.2016 | UK Parents
Shane Ryan

bmm banner.jpg It is logical that developing pathways of support for this young man and thousands like him could change the life chances for both father and child. In turn, that would bring cost benefits to service providers like local authorities, as well as creating a positive social value in breaking the negative cycles we have seen for so many years.

The Surprising Benefit Of Writing A Gratitude Letter To My Father

David Roland | Posted 24.11.2016 | UK Lifestyle
David Roland

bmm banner.jpg The gratitude that the writing and reading of my letter evoked in me 10 years ago remains. When I recall that day, as I often do, I bathe again in the memory of being a 'wonderful son' to a wonderful father.

Giving The Gift Of Self-Belief To A Child

Michelle Gant | Posted 21.11.2016 | UK Parents
Michelle Gant

How to do this, however, is another question. Fair to say I'm no expert: some days it feels like I'm winging this parenting thing. But, I do have some thoughts about how I might be able to help her self-esteem to grow.

Is The Male Abortion Ever Okay?

Hannah Greaves | Posted 17.11.2016 | UK Parents
Hannah Greaves

I am interested in this dilemma as I personally have had the experience of this definition of the male abortion. I chose to continue with a pregnancy that my (at the time) partner did not want. He and his family severed all ties and physically distanced themselves. He had no experience of the pregnancy past the 10 week point, he is not on the birth certificate and has never made any contact with his biological son.

A Message To Brands Who Want To Make Dad 2.0 Their New BFF

Dan Flanagan | Posted 15.11.2016 | UK Parents
Dan Flanagan

Unfortunately, the marketing world has yet to catch up with the reality of modern parenting. In advertising, dad is still the hapless sap who simply can't get anything right. He burns any foodstuff that dares venture close to the oven, stares blankly at the mere mention of putting the washing on

Tales Of A Single Mum

Angelina Osei | Posted 15.11.2016 | UK Parents
Angelina Osei

Out of the single mums I do know, we are all hardworking professionals, some with mortgages, some privately renting and yes some in local authority buildings, but what strikes me with all of us and when I say us, I'm talking about from personal experience from those around me. What strikes me is the strength that we all have.

New Research Shows That Almost Half Of Young Men Would Find It Difficult To Talk To Their Dads About Mental Health

Brian Dow | Posted 01.11.2016 | UK Parents
Brian Dow

bmm banner.jpg Our sons will be no lesser men and we no lesser fathers if we start by acknowledging our own difficulties, so that we normalise conversations around mental health in the same way we would consider it our duty as dads to encourage our sons to think and talk about good physical health.

A Stay-At-Home Dad Is Not A Kept Man

John L. Adams | Posted 28.10.2016 | UK Parents
John L. Adams

I admit, I miss the income I once had. I would like to make a greater contribution to the household budget. This, however, is partly down to the age of our children. Our youngest daughter starts school next year and I see light at the end of the tunnel. Until that time, I am quite happy with how things are. My wife is free to concentrate on her career while I have taken on the main responsibility for looking after the children.

Why Are Fathers 'Shunning' Shared Parental Leave?

Ben Black | Posted 09.08.2016 | UK Parents
Ben Black

thriving families.jpg So SPL has failed? Absolutely not. It was always going to take time. Getting the legislation through was a massive achievement. And even a few fathers successfully taking it up is a success. What happens next is the important bit.