Fatherhood

Great Expectations Of Being A New Parent

Helen Miller | Posted 05.12.2016 | UK Parents
Helen Miller

For most of us, we change as people when we become parents. On the whole we grow and become better people. However in the transition period, that change in who we are, our identity, can cause great confusion. Once a confident and independent adult, you begin to question your abilities. Failing it appears, is not an option.

Fathers and Sons - Staying Connected: A Suicide Prevention Measure

David Simpson | Posted 04.12.2016 | UK Parents
David Simpson

The one thing I would like to change about my dad is 'his temper'. So said one eight year old in Donegal, Ireland. He was not alone. Several hundred b...

Dads, Let's Talk About Puberty

Richard Shorter | Posted 30.11.2016 | UK Parents
Richard Shorter

Isn't it about time we dads learnt to talk about puberty? About unwanted erections, hormones and changes that happen to women? And to do it without embarrassment and code words, as if any of it were something to be ashamed of?

I'm Terrified Of Passing Toxic Masculinity Onto My Sons

Chris Napier | Posted 30.11.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Chris Napier

bmm banner.jpg I don't want my sons to share the programming which has crippled me. I don't want them to grow up in a world which victimizes boys for showing weakness and which treats mental health issues without compassion.

A Week With My Dad Taught Me About The Man I've Become

Ayo Akinwolere | Posted 30.11.2016 | UK Entertainment
Ayo Akinwolere

bmm banner.jpg For the first time, I noticed my father's vulnerability: we would walk down the street and he'd budge up really close to me like a child afraid of his surroundings. We'd go to the pub and I'd order for him because he wasn't quite sure how to navigate his way around a hipster East London brewery. It felt great. The balance of power had shifted slightly and I wasn't so afraid of him anymore.

A Boy Who Is Prepared For Prison, Or Love And Life?

Dr Paul Wood | Posted 30.11.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Dr Paul Wood

I grew up as a younger brother among four boys who liked to fight. Like many before me, I received clear messages from society about what emotions a m...

Let's Start A New Debate About Fathers

Shane Ryan | Posted 29.11.2016 | UK Parents
Shane Ryan

bmm banner.jpg It is logical that developing pathways of support for this young man and thousands like him could change the life chances for both father and child. In turn, that would bring cost benefits to service providers like local authorities, as well as creating a positive social value in breaking the negative cycles we have seen for so many years.

The Surprising Benefit Of Writing A Gratitude Letter To My Father

David Roland | Posted 24.11.2016 | UK Lifestyle
David Roland

bmm banner.jpg The gratitude that the writing and reading of my letter evoked in me 10 years ago remains. When I recall that day, as I often do, I bathe again in the memory of being a 'wonderful son' to a wonderful father.

Giving The Gift Of Self-Belief To A Child

Michelle Gant | Posted 21.11.2016 | UK Parents
Michelle Gant

How to do this, however, is another question. Fair to say I'm no expert: some days it feels like I'm winging this parenting thing. But, I do have some thoughts about how I might be able to help her self-esteem to grow.

Is The Male Abortion Ever Okay?

Hannah Greaves | Posted 17.11.2016 | UK Parents
Hannah Greaves

I am interested in this dilemma as I personally have had the experience of this definition of the male abortion. I chose to continue with a pregnancy that my (at the time) partner did not want. He and his family severed all ties and physically distanced themselves. He had no experience of the pregnancy past the 10 week point, he is not on the birth certificate and has never made any contact with his biological son.

A Message To Brands Who Want To Make Dad 2.0 Their New BFF

Dan Flanagan | Posted 15.11.2016 | UK Parents
Dan Flanagan

Unfortunately, the marketing world has yet to catch up with the reality of modern parenting. In advertising, dad is still the hapless sap who simply can't get anything right. He burns any foodstuff that dares venture close to the oven, stares blankly at the mere mention of putting the washing on

Tales Of A Single Mum

Angelina Osei | Posted 15.11.2016 | UK Parents
Angelina Osei

Out of the single mums I do know, we are all hardworking professionals, some with mortgages, some privately renting and yes some in local authority buildings, but what strikes me with all of us and when I say us, I'm talking about from personal experience from those around me. What strikes me is the strength that we all have.

New Research Shows That Almost Half Of Young Men Would Find It Difficult To Talk To Their Dads About Mental Health

Brian Dow | Posted 01.11.2016 | UK Parents
Brian Dow

bmm banner.jpg Our sons will be no lesser men and we no lesser fathers if we start by acknowledging our own difficulties, so that we normalise conversations around mental health in the same way we would consider it our duty as dads to encourage our sons to think and talk about good physical health.

A Stay-At-Home Dad Is Not A Kept Man

John L. Adams | Posted 28.10.2016 | UK Parents
John L. Adams

I admit, I miss the income I once had. I would like to make a greater contribution to the household budget. This, however, is partly down to the age of our children. Our youngest daughter starts school next year and I see light at the end of the tunnel. Until that time, I am quite happy with how things are. My wife is free to concentrate on her career while I have taken on the main responsibility for looking after the children.

Why Are Fathers 'Shunning' Shared Parental Leave?

Ben Black | Posted 09.08.2016 | UK Parents
Ben Black

thriving families.jpg So SPL has failed? Absolutely not. It was always going to take time. Getting the legislation through was a massive achievement. And even a few fathers successfully taking it up is a success. What happens next is the important bit.

Fitting Work Around Fatherhood

Oli Reed | Posted 04.08.2016 | UK Parents
Oli Reed

thriving families.jpg I've never enjoyed two weeks of my life more than the fortnight of my paternity leave. The immediate love I had for my little boy Sonny, the closeness we felt as a family and the sheer joy of watching that tiny baby turn into a little boy full of personality was the greatest feeling I could ever imagine. And then I went back to work...

Parent or Not, No Single Role Determines Our Value or Future

Karin Sieger | Posted 18.07.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Karin Sieger

here is nothing wrong in having a preference for how we would like our life to be. But rigid single mindedness can lead to vulnerability, when life and those around us do not deliver. We may not have the necessary mental and emotional resilience and agility to bounce back and adjust accordingly. If we are less accepting of the value of others' difference, then we may find it hard, if others struggle with our own difference.

Fatherhood: A Generational Shift

Clair Rees | Posted 21.06.2016 | UK Parents
Clair Rees

Understanding Father's mental health and wellbeing during their transition to fatherhood is an area where significant difference can be made for the wellbeing of the whole family.

Parent-In or Out? Brexit Time Is Here...

Sophia Walker | Posted 20.06.2016 | UK Parents
Sophia Walker

As a working mum, the things that important to me are the things that are also important to you. Free healthcare, good education, job prospects and opportunity for our children - the rich, and the poor.

Bonding With Dad

John Hibbs | Posted 20.06.2016 | UK Parents
John Hibbs

As a new dad, with no experience of a baby before apart from whanging my sister's dolls out of the way by their arms when we were much much younger, knowing that a baby was arriving imminently was quite scary and no amount of antenatal classes, even with life like dolls, could really offer the reassurance that I was looking for.

Father's Day? Wake Me Up on Monday

Emily Cleary | Posted 17.06.2016 | UK Parents
Emily Cleary

When it comes to significant occasions, it'd be fair to say Father's Day has often been near the bottom of my list. My Dad left before I was a year old, I always called him by his first name, we were never the stereotypical father and daughter unit. But we loved each other and, over time, it worked.

Shame and Stigma Led to My Father's Breakdown

Emma Kenny | Posted 17.06.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Emma Kenny

During my father's sectioning, my uncle, brother and I went into his employers and managed to get him retired - a decision that was very difficult for us. This was made even more challenging when our motives were questioned and we ended up being made to feel as if we were trying to squeeze money out of his employers.

Top Five Tips by Dads, for Dads, on Looking After Mental Health This Father's Day

Cal Strode | Posted 17.06.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Cal Strode

With Father's day ahead of us, I got in touch with dads working at the Mental Health Foundation to see what tips they would give to other / prospective dads for looking after their mental health. Here's what they said...

Dear Dad

Judy Reith | Posted 17.06.2016 | UK Parents
Judy Reith

I remember the sound of the tea in your throat as you swallowed it, and you said you remember that of Grandpa too. I remember wanting to be able to make tea for you, and wanting to learn to like tea so I could drink it with my daddy.

A Father's Day Note

Liz Lowe | Posted 16.06.2016 | UK Parents
Liz Lowe

The urgent need for a gift for my husband has found me in a pottery cafe, yet again, ruining perfectly good mugs with our children's painted footprints. The irony is not lost on the toddler, who notes that I am less enthused about her handprints when they adorn the TV screen, the folding doors and my white shorts.