We need alternatives. People need to meet instead of fear each other, exchange dialogue rather than hurl insults or fire bombs, build a peaceful society united by common values, rather than one divided by hatred.
Talking to Mohammed over a coffee a few days after the meeting, he praised Dr Musharraff for a lifetime serving Muslims in Nottingham. But I sensed, though he is far too gracious to spell it out, Mohammed believes that the next generation needs to be more direct and actually start dictating the discussion - a luxury never really available to Dr Musharraff.
The word 'change' is stuck in my mind. Not only as a result of the big event that made London the live stage of a global wake up call about female empowerment - Chime for Change - but moreover for the sense of urgency that the recent news has stirred in me.
As an army wife, I think of Lee's death in the way that I think of all 444 service personnel that have died on operations in Afghanistan, with a heavy heart and a nagging thought that it was a tragic waste of a young and promising life.
Some people say Britain is a responsible, tolerant country, proud of its multicultural heritage. I don't see it. I see the national press and an alarming amount of people willing to demonize the faith of 1.4 billion people because of the actions of a very small minority.
Anjem Choudary does not have a job, receives state benefits to support his family, and spends his time spouting all sorts of rubbish including his hatred for this country, his desire to take money from the non-Muslims, his declaration of global Jihad against everyone, and his glorification of violence and death. Why is Anjem Choudary still freely walking our streets?
In the vexed discussion about extremism and radicalisation, foreign policy is the issue that dare not speak its name. Our leaders zealously police the parameters of the debate, pre-emptively warning off those who might dare connect the dots between wars abroad and terror at home.
To claim that Western politicians bear true responsibility for what happened in Woolwich is to argue that the killers themselves do not bear responsibility, presumably because their ability to exercise moral judgement was overridden by... what, precisely? By a peculiarly Muslim fury?
Before starting I want to make clear I am not making these criticisms to attack but for a purpose - so we can develop, understand and tackle the probl...
Extremists on both sides have a shared agenda: division, distrust, anger and violence. The answer is not for us to move further from one another, crouched in opposing fortresses constructed from vindictive words. We need now to move closer to one another, to understand one another.
23 May, 2013, Idlib, Syria. A young British-Asian Muslim from Willesden dies while working in a field hospital. Dr Isa Abdur Rahman was volunteering as a doctor in a country where medics treating civilians have been tortured and killed. Hospitals are routinely attacked and there is a dire shortage, therefore, of medical staff willing to work under such circumstances. Isa was my nephew. He was 26. His name means 'Jesus', who is also named as a prophet in the Quran. In the Quran, Jesus' death is different but he still dies a young man striving for good. Isa felt this was his 'jihad', his 'struggle for good'.
The attack on Lee Rigby cannot be condemned enough. But that must not lead us to condemn whole communities who - even if they have their doubts about British and US foreign policy - also have nothing but condemnation of those murderous acts in Woolwich.
It is not yet clear whether anymore could have been done to protect him - it appears the two suspects were well known to the security services and it is not yet clear that extra powers for our security services would have made a difference.
I'm more curious as to just what constitutes "inciting hatred and division". After all, if we're going to ban all groups that incite division, perhaps Theresa May can start with her own political party.
This group of zealots was quick to exploit the murder, in Woolwich, of soldier Lee Rigby. They enthusiastically took to the internet and streets to press home their discourse of division. I am, of course, referring to the English Defence League.
This murder is a reminder of how damaging a crime can be to the wider community... as a proud British Muslim I am not afraid to admit that seeing the story in the morning papers made me uneasy - just as I felt uneasy after the 7/7 bombings.