At the hospital our worst fears were confirmed. "I'm so sorry, he's gone" the sonographer said. The pain and heartache can't be described. The shock lived within us for several months as we wanted to know why our baby boy was gone so soon.
Stillbirth is still a difficult subject to raise with pregnant women. There is a taboo about it as if by talking about stillbirth, you are making it a possibility. We believe that if you deliver that message in the right way, it doesn't have to be scary.
Now if the decade I spent as a home-based wine rep taught me anything, it's that wearing pyjamas at midday is perfectly acceptable, and in no way related to productivity. In this case my husband had in fact been working for an hour, and the toddler and I had half-peeled a banana (it is sometimes related to productivity).
Giving birth to a stillborn infant is a tragedy for any parent and their family. These babies die either in late pregnancy or during the process of giving birth; deaths earlier than 28 weeks are called miscarriages.
We made the heartbreaking decision to withdraw her life support. It was the kind thing to do. She had fought such a brave fight but now her little heart couldn't cope. Our little girl died because her heart was too big. At least we were able to have one cuddle without wires and machines as she died. She died in the arms of parents who loved her so much. I hope she felt that love.
All birth shaming does is teach women that all births are equal but some are more equal than others. You are telling us our bodies failed, we are lesser mothers. Let us change this dialogue and swap it with real ways to change how we as women view our bodies and our births.
I hold in my hand a press release from the UK Screening Committee with recommendations for the staged rolling out of the new Non-Invasive Prenatal Tests, or #NIPT. These tests look for a woman's 'risk' factor of having a baby with Down's syndrome, Patau syndrome or Edward's syndrome.
Fear can hold us back in all aspects of our lives and childbirth is no different. If you expect a difficult birth, you're much more likely to get one. If you are positive and have the right tools to help you cope, you're much more likely to have a good experience. In a nutshell, that's what hypnobirthing is all about.
You worry that the longer you take off the easier you'll be forgotten. There's always a younger, cheaper version of you out there, more than willing to fill your Louboutins, so keeping in touch days quickly turn into 'don't forget me' days.
Being pregnant is undoubtedly a blessing. And some of us are doubly blessed in that we sail through pregnancy with very few twinges and are constantly heard saying, "I'm pregnant, not ill". Then there are those of us that have every symptom under the sun, and absolutely demand that you give up your seat so we can rest our cankles.
My stance back then was one of confusion at why anyone would have a problem with it, especially when there is so much nudity in today's society but also, especially as pregnancy is such a natural and truly incredible phenomena.
With only 11 weeks left until the arrival of baby View From a Daddy, the preparations better start with vigour now the tree is down!
Maintaining a healthy weight gain during pregnancy will make it much easier to regain your pre-baby figure after the birth - experts at NICE (the National Institute for Clinical Excellence) have identified pregnancy and the early months after the birth as the time when women are most susceptible to putting on weight.
Having long-term depression and taking medication does not preclude women from having children. I am living proof of this. That is why I want to share my story.
Childbirth is a defining moment in any persons life, and brings with it mixed feelings of anticipation, excitement and anxiety. However as a woman's due date draws near a large percentage of time is spent visualising labour and how she may want her experience to play out.
It's a subject I hoped to never write about again, but thanks to our friend Kim Kardashian, I'm back talking about 'placentophagy' - otherwise known as eating your own placenta. Yum yum!