I believe that British Muslim community in general and Pakistani community elders, leaders, Imams and ordinary members in particular must take an uncompromising stance in condemning such people. It is time we all made a pledge to stand together to rid our society of sexual exploitation of all kinds.
The individual at hand insinuated that Hip-Hop was indeed "black music, that's all I'm saying". Whether this was to suggest my friend was less of a black individual because she didn't enjoy this music, was something to consider. He quickly turned his attention back to me, but did drop heavily the mention of 'white rappers' who may take my interest more.
When we think about our wellbeing, we think of avoiding major diseases, being financially comfortable, enjoying our daily lives and achieving our goals. Often we never stop to consider those invisible yet vital qualities of support, understanding and love that are provided by the people we keep close to us.
Informal kinship carers have to date been a largely 'hidden population' who take on a huge burden from the state in providing care, often at very little notice, for children who would otherwise end up in the care system. I know, after a career spent in delivering services to children and their carers.
However, I have noticed that much talk surrounding "Lean[ing] In" has centred mostly on women who already in the workplace. Whilst I have nothing against this, I feel as though younger women, girls of my own generation in the UK who are still in school, are, comparatively, missing out on this exciting 'buzz'.
Today, we live in an era where it has become very socially acceptable to display one's life via social networks. The technology that was devised to meet the necessity for quick and efficient communication has been over-shadowed by the need to flaunt our lives, look important and boost our self-esteem.
My 12-step manifesto for a happier world calls for change not just from our leaders but from all of us. I'm not pretending these are simple changes or can happen overnight. But if we were to put these ideas into practice I'm certain we could create a society which is not only happier, but also more productive, caring, fair, responsible and sustainable.
Personally, I have concluded that while marriage seems like a nice idea, still celebrated by many, and plenty of marriages do last in the long run, it is not nearly so important nowadays. I am not religious, I don't care about having a big wedding and I understand the practicalities of the real world.
Last Wednesday I went on a date. I put on too much make up, then took most of it off. I tried on knee high boots before deciding they made me look like a low rent version of Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman. By the time I ran, breathless, for the tube I'd pretty much metamorphosed into Mary Whitehouse.