'I Am Holly' Anti-Bullying Video Captures The Chilling Fear Many Children Face Alone

Heartbreaking Anti-Bullying Video Captures Chilling Fear Many Children Face Alone
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The fear experienced by victims of bullying has been captured in a heartbreaking video called I Am Holly.

The clip was made by students and teachers at Bedford High School, in Wigan, to mark Anti-Bullying Week.

At first the subject of the video, Holly, struggles to talk about what is happening to her.

"Right now I don't like anything," she says.

"I am Holly and I am scared."

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This reluctance to talk is something many parents whose children have been bullied may recognise well.

"I guess I am bullied," says Holly, before finally being able to admit:

"I am being bullied and I don't know why."

"I think of what they might do to me, how they will hurt me and one day they do," she continues.

"Everyone hates me and I feel scared alone and worthless."

A heart-wrenching scene sees Holly walking alone through the autumn leaves as the voice over states three chilling words:

"They are here."

But although Holly may feel like she's alone, she isn't. Watch the video above to see how her fellow students come to her rescue.

"Bedford High School students stand together against bullying," reads the school's statement on YouTube.

"If you are being bullied, you are not alone. Speak to an adult that you trust. "

Bridget Moss, assistant head at Bedford High School told HuffPost UK Parents: "The response we've had to the video has been overwhelmingly positive, from governors, parents and students.

"We've been showing it in special assemblies for all of the students because of it being Anti Bullying Week this week."

"We are an inclusive school. We serve a very diverse community and we've got a highly successful pastoral team.

"We have a member of staff on the corridors every hour so incidents and issues are picked up very quickly. They also reward students and keep the school a positive place.

"If there is an incident of bullying, students know they can go and see their pastoral guidance officer at the next breaktime and they'll get a listening ear and then it will be investigated."

Bedford High School students came up with the idea of focusing the video on a child learning she is not allone, as it fits in with the school's inclusive philosophy.

"We call ourselves team Bedford," Moss explains. "And we do view ourselves very much as a team. We regularly review what's in place to support our most vulnerable young people."

Students in the Year 7/8 drama club worked with video production company Northstar Digital to make the film, which was shot and edited over a week. Taking the starring role is 11-year-old Kara Mitchell.

“I wanted to be involved because this is really what some people have to go through,” said Mitchell. “They shouldn't have to. They are not alone at Bedford. We will stand together against bullying.”

Moss believes the video has helped teach students that they can come forward about incidents of bullying, including those that occur outside of school hours.

"Like all young people now, so many of our students complain about inappropriate communication on social media," she explains.

"Often things have happened over night to young people in their bedrooms when they've picked things up on their phones or tablets and that comes into school.

"We've got a duty to ensure that whatever is said between young people in their own time, - which isn't always positive and young people often seek attention online - that we are there to support them."

The advice from the Anti-Bullying Alliance to any young person who is being bullied is simple — tell someone.

Advice that Bridget Moss echoes: "It can be a friend, your parents or a teacher but if bullying is making you miserable, you must tell someone so together you can put a stop to it.

"If you don’t feel comfortable speaking to someone you can always use the Childline number or visit their website for advice.

"Bullying takes many different forms today and negative communication on social media can do a lot of harm.

"If you're being bullied in this way, you should seek help and consider limiting social media communication with those causing the damage."

Bedford High School Headteacher Helen Phillips said: "We would like to see this film used as a resource for young people across the country.

"If just one young person decides to take action against bullying as a result of watching it, then it will have served its purpose."

The Childline freephone helpline number is: 0800 1111 or you can visit: www.childline.org.uk.

How To Talk About Bullying
DO: Tell Them They Are Not Alone(01 of11)
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Bullying can be an incredibly isolating experience, and many victims feel that they are alone–that something about them, specifically, has brought this on. Explain to your child that bullying is something that can happen to anyone: boys, girls, preschoolers, high schoolers, kids at large schools and kids at small schools. This means there is a large group of people impacted by bullying, and if we all work together, we can certainly make a difference. (credit:Shutterstock)
DON'T: Suggest They "Just Ignore It"(02 of11)
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A common reaction to bullying is encouraging the victim to ignore the bully. "They just want a reaction," people say, and if you deny them the reaction, they'll go away. That's not always the case. Sometimes, when the bully realizes they are being ignored, they can feel a sense of power over their victim that can actually make the situation worse. (credit:Shutterstock)
DO: Check In Regularly(03 of11)
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Asking your child basic questions about their day and their experience at school can help you catch a problem sooner. Ask how a specific class was, or who they sat with at lunch. Ask who is trying out for the team, or who is going to local fair that weekend. These harmless questions tell your child that you care, but they can also help you detect changes in your child's situation that may indicate a bullying problem. (credit:Getty Images)
DON'T: Suggest Your Child Stand Up To The Bully(04 of11)
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While helping your child prepare a speech or enrolling them in self-defense courses might seem like an empowering solution, you're sending the message to your child that this problem is theirs, and that they have to handle it alone. Instead, discuss what some solutions might be and involve your child in the decision making process. (credit:Shutterstock)
DO: Set Boundaries Online(05 of11)
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The National Crime Prevention Council reports that 20 to 43 percent of middle and high school school students have reported being victims of cyber bullying. Encourage your child to protect themselves by following these two guidelines:1. Never say or do anything online that you wouldn't say or do in person. 2. Never share any information that you wouldn't tell a stranger. (credit:Shutterstock)
DON'T: Express Disbelief(06 of11)
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While we'd like to think we know everything about our children and their friends, don't express disbelief if they say someone has done something that shocks you. Your child needs to know that they can trust you. Asking them to provide evidence or saying that someone "would never do that" can come across as you taking the side of someone other than your child. Instead, be as supportive as possible and listen to their side. (credit:Shutterstock)
DO: Encourage Them To Speak Up(07 of11)
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A recent study of children ages 9 to 12, showed that 56 percent said that they usually either say or do something to try to stop bullying or tell someone who can help (Brown, Birch, & Kancherla, 2005). Make sure your child knows who he or she can talk to if they have something they want to share, whether that is you, a school counselor, a teacher or a coach. (credit:Shutterstock)
DO: Discourage Password Sharing(08 of11)
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Explain the importance of keeping online passwords private, even from close friends. Your child may be thinking that sharing a password with a close friend is harmless and convenient, but explain that anyone with their password could impersonate them online and embarrass them. If they insist that the friend would never do that, remind them that the friend could share their password, either intentionally or unintentionally, and someone else would have that same power. (credit:Shutterstock)
DON'T: Take Matters Entirely Into Your Own Hands(09 of11)
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While your first reaction may be to protect your child by calling the parent of the bully or confront the child yourself, this is not always a good solution. Not only is this this rarely effective, it may even prove fodder for additional bullying. Your child wants to feel empowered and involved in the solution, so discuss options with him or her and work together to decide on a plan of action. (credit:Shutterstock)
DO: Be Patient(10 of11)
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Your child may be embarrassed or afraid to talk about what is happening to them. This is normal. Rather than pressuring your child into speaking before they are ready, just make it clear that you are willing to listen and be a source of support for them. Once they feel comfortable, they will know that they can open up to you and seek your advice. Better yet, if you've had this conversation preemptively, before a problem arises, your child will know right away that you can be their partner in finding a solution. (credit:Shutterstock)
DO: Find Resources Online(11 of11)
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Green Giant's Raise A Giant site includes a page that lets you read letters other parents have written to empower their children. You can write your own letter and explore their other resources, including videos and sharable infographics. PACER's National Bullying Prevention Center site also has a page with resources like informational handouts, fact sheets, educational toolkits, and the "We Will Generation." You can also browse the video page to see if some of their video resources would be helpful for you or for your child. Green Giant's Raise A Giant site includes a page that lets you write a letter to empower your child, but you can also read the letters other parents have written to inspire your talks with your child. (credit:Shutterstock)