Cheating Secrets: 57% Sleep With Partner And Lover In Same Day

Diary Of A Cheat: 57% Sleep With Partner And Lover In Same Day
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Ever wondered what goes on behind the nation's closed doors? Or rather between the nation's bedsheets, behind those closed doors?

A survey revealing the secrets of Britain's adulterers has shown that an enormous 57% have slept with both their spouse and lover in a 24-hour period.

The research was conducted by AshleyMadison.com, an infidelity dating website whose tag line is "Life is short, have an affair".

Of the 21,600 members surveyed – including 10,900 men and 10,700 women – 88% had cheated on their partner, with 84% of women cheating with five or fewer partners, and 33% of men cheating with six or more.

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Fewer people admitted to being cheated on, but -- of those who had been wronged by a spouse -- many revealed they went on to cheat in retaliation.

Almost half of men surveyed had been with their current affair partner for less than three months, whereas 41% of women had been cheating with the same man for between three to six months, suggesting that women prefer consistency, while men enjoy the thrill of a new mistress regularly.

It also seems the vast majority of cheaters are after an improved sex life. The survey shows that just 22% described their spouse as being good in bed, compared to a whopping 81% who described their affair partner as accomplished beneath the sheets.

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The vast majority of male and female philanderers think that monogamy is an unnatural state for humans. (credit:Alamy)
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The vast majority of male and female philanderers think that monogamy is an unnatural state for humans. (credit:Alamy)
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The majority of UK adulterers still love their spouses and have no intention of getting divorced. (credit:Alamy)
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Adulterers also seem keen to project an image of chastity, with many women telling their husbands that they have had less sexual partners than in reality, whereas in contrast, 73% of women are happy to be honest with their lover about their past sexual history.

Such honesty indicates that there is a camaraderie amongst cheaters, and an understanding that it’s not shameful to have multiple notches on one’s bedpost.

The survey suggests that sexual repression is prone to exploding and that unfulfilled spouses will seek satisfaction away from the marital bed, as the vast majority of those polled admitted to feeling more confident in sharing their sexual needs and desires with their lover than partner.

Perhaps surprisingly, cheaters still have rigid views of what constitutes cheating, with 96% of men and 98% of women believing that kissing someone else is adulterous. In contrast though, as affairs often form with the help of modern technology, only 32% of men thought that ‘sexting’ was transgressive, whilst 67% of women cited it as so.

A divide between the genders transpired when questioned on whether they had cheated when drunk, with 89% admitting to doing so, in contrast to only 49% of women, suggesting that when women cheat, it is a more conscious, sober decision.