How Easy Is It To Find Happiness Like Hector? Here Are Four Quick Ways... 'Guaranteed!'

How Easy Is It To Find Happiness Like Hector?
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In this week's feel-good film, 'Hector and the Search for Happiness',Simon Pegg as Hector is a psychiatrist who realises he's fooling his patients, his girlfriend and himself, and must go on a journey of self-discovery before he can properly say he knows what happiness entails.

But what is happiness, and how easy is it to find it in this era of swift satisfaction or bust, with the daily toil, competition with our peers, estrangement from our neighbours, and the pressure to put a meal on the table and a selfie on the iPhone while we're about it?

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Simon Pegg is Hector. He knows he's not happy, but he's not sure why not...

Mark Wilkinson, a guru for Action for Happiness, assures me it is possible, whatever our circumstances, to feel that bit better. According to Mark, it's all about perceptions and tools, we might not be able to change the often depressing world events around us, but we can control, to some extent, how we feel.

I'm a journalist. I'm cynical by trade and inclination, but I'm also curious, so I agree to sign up to his four-point plan - for one week. Action for Happiness's programme has ten points in total, but we agree not to push it. So, here we go. For seven whole days, I have to...

1. Write down 3 things every day that have made me feel happy and thankful.

2. Perform 30 minutes of physical exercise a day.

3. Respond constructively to other people, their ideas, plans and achievements.

4. Look for ways to perform acts of kindness for others.

On days 1 and 2, my list looks a bit token. "My trip to work went without a hitch." Big deal. "I finally posted an article that I was dreading writing." Well, that's my job. However, gradually these titbits made way for other, deeper stuff. "My friend was unhappy and I succeeded in making her smile" gives me food for thought about what keeps people connected, how it depends on honesty and trust, and how fortunate I am to have friends for bad times as well as good.

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In the film, Hector must examine how he relates to other people

You'd think 'Doing kind things for others' would be a given, but it's a toughie, when the tube only has a finite number of seats, and the rain's pouring over the queue at the bus stop. However, I find myself looking for opportunities to give someone a hand, and a surprised smile of gratitude is (almost) more reward than knowing I can tick this particular box on my week's grid.

'Responding constructively to others' provides the most interesting data. According to Mark, it isn't how we react to our friends' BAD news that matters so much, after all, they're pretty down anyway. It's what we have to say when our intimates present us with GOOD news that determines the strength of our friendships - are we pleased for them? Do we voice our pride and support and shout loudly enough over that little voice inside us asking why we didn't have a better day ourselves, or if they'll remember to ask about us? This is a really tough one, but, once noticed, never forgotten and, goodness me, it makes a difference if you can resist the urge to say "Never mind that, I... " and say instead "That's gerr-eat."

So, here I am, one week later, one grid fully completed, and I have to say my mood is strangely elevated. I feel calm and replete, not worrying about the big stuff, delighting more in the little stuff. It goes without saying that the temperament of one person living in the privileged environs of a democratic country without drought, famine or war might not add up to a pile of beans in the scheme of things, but perhaps this kind of regime serves, if nothing else, as a useful and timely reminder to put our perceived problems in perspective. My friends and colleagues will be the first to say I'm not a fan of any kind of official happiness.org - corporate joy is one of the banes of my life - but just maybe there's something in it. After all, if going to a gym tones up your limbs, why wouldn't a mental workout be capable of doing the same?

By the way, number 2 on that list? I'm not going to lie. 30 minutes of physical exercise a day. It didn't happen. Even if it turns out that everybody can be a little bit happier, as I have to grudgingly admit after my week-long experiment, what can I say about this particular omission? In the words of Tony Curtis, nobody's perfect.

Click here for more tips for happy living from Action For Happiness. 'Hector and the Search for Happiness' is in cinemas now.

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Smile.(01 of17)
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A 2011 study showed that thinking about something that makes you smile can actually make you happier (fake smiles don't do the trick), while 2003 Clark University research found that smiling activates positive memories. (credit:Gettystock)
Go for a run.(02 of17)
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Physical activity boosts the brain's release of endorphins, which are feel-good neurotransmitters that can improve mood and well-being. (credit:Gettystock)
Pray.(03 of17)
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Spirituality and religious involvement is linked with greater well-being and happiness, according to a review of more than 300 studies on the connection between spirituality and health. Prayer is also thought to relieve stress. (credit:Gettystock)
Laugh.(04 of17)
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In addition to relieving stress, laughter can boost mood and reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression. (credit:Gettystock)
Go for a stroll in the park. (05 of17)
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There are many health benefits to spending time in nature, including, perhaps, increased well-being. One UK study showed that subjects were significantly happier when in natural environments as compared to when they were in urban environments. (credit:Gettystock)
Perform an act of kindness.(06 of17)
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Do something nice for someone else today -- it could make you happier, according to University of California research. (credit:Gettystock)
Listen to happy music.(07 of17)
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Students who listened to "happy" music while making a concerted effort to feel happier experienced elevations in mood, according to a small study published this year in the Journal of Positive Psychology. (credit:Gettystock )
Walk tall.(08 of17)
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Walking with an upbeat stride might make you feel happier, according to Florida Atlantic University research. In the study, walkers who were told to take long strides with their arms swinging and heads held high reported feeling happier after a three-minute jaunt than a group that shuffled and looked downwards while walking. (credit:Gettystock)
Meditate.(09 of17)
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Meditation may be helpful in lowering stress levels and reducing symptoms of mild depression, and has been linked with emotional well-being and improved sleep. (credit:Gettystock)
Keep a gratitude journal. (10 of17)
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Be thankful for what you have! A number of studies have found a strong correlation between gratitude and well-being, starting at a young age. Teaching kids gratitude in schools has been linked to boosts in positive emotions and optimism. (credit:Gettystock)
Go on vacation.(11 of17)
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The mere anticipation of an upcoming trip can boost overall happiness for up to eight weeks before you take off, according to a 2010 Dutch study. (credit:Gettystock)
Play with a puppy. (12 of17)
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Your brain may be wired to enjoy playing with puppies. One study suggested that petting a furry friend can increase activity in the left-side of the brain and release higher levels of serotonin, which are both associated with pleasure and happiness. Pet ownership in general has also been linked to an enhanced well-being. (credit:Gettystock)
Take a nap.(13 of17)
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Sleep deprivation can up your stress levels. One experiment showed that after memorizing a list of words, sleep-deprived college students could remember 81 percent of words with a negative connotation ("cancer"), and only 41 percent of positive or neutral words ("sunshine"). What's more, researchers have linked catnaps with improved mood. (credit:Gettystock)
Enjoy a nice cup of tea.(14 of17)
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Noticing and appreciating life's small pleasures can literally rewire the brain for happiness by shifting the brain's negativity bias, according to psychologist Rick Hanson, author of Hardwiring Happiness. "We're surrounded by opportunities -- 10 seconds here or 20 seconds there -- to just register useful experiences and learn from them," Hanson told The Huffington Post. (credit:Gettystock)
Volunteer. (15 of17)
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Helping others could go a long way towards helping yourself. A recent University of Exeter study found that volunteering can boost happiness, ease depression and even help you live longer, Everyday Health reported. (credit:Gettystock)
Have sex.(16 of17)
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Sex might just help you relieve stress and boost well-being. A study by the Institute For The Study of Labor found that people who have sex at least four times a week tend to be happier and less depressed -- not to mention make more money. Plus, it could even keep your heart and immune system healthy! (credit:Gettystock)
Think of happy times.(17 of17)
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Feeling nostalgic about the past can make you feel happier and more optimistic about the future, according to a recent University of Southampton study. (credit:Gettystock)