I've Got a Confession to Make About My Body and You May Not Like It

Periods aren't pornographic and they certainly shouldn't be offensive. They are a regular reality for half of the world's population and, let's be honest, without them humankind wouldn't exist. So the idea that an Instagram user could be offended by a picture of a woman whose period had leaked through her PJs onto her bed sheets is downright ridiculous.
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It's taken me almost 18 years to pluck up the courage to say it publicly, but here goes: I am a woman and I have periods.

I had my first period aged nine (I was in primary school) and it's happened about once a month ever since. It lasts for about five days at a time (sometimes longer), it can be painful but it is always really annoying and inconvenient.

Most women menstruate, but we rarely talk about it. We hide tampons up our sleeves en route to the loo, we whisper when asking friends for a spare sanitary pad, and we exclude guys from any conversations about women's things.

The idea of me menstruating once a month - whether you're a close friend, colleague, stranger or even my mum - probably makes you feel a bit... icky. Writing about my period makes me feel a bit icky too, so much so that I was tempted not to blog about it at all.

Until now, I've never really thought about this revulsion or aversion. But when I learned that a photograph of a woman on her period had been reported and removed from Instagram (not once, but twice), it became clear that this anti-period problem runs far deeper than my own experiences.

This photo, by artist Rupi Kaur, was removed from Instagram twice. It has since been restored with a full apology.

Periods aren't pornographic and they certainly shouldn't be offensive. They are a regular reality for half of the world's population and, let's be honest, without them humankind wouldn't exist.

So the idea that an Instagram user could be offended by a picture of a woman whose period had leaked through her PJs and onto her bed sheets is downright ridiculous.

You might think there are bigger things to worry about in the world than a picture of a period stain being removed from social media, but this censorship is symptomatic of a wider problem that forces women to shrink to fit a culture that simply doesn't allow us to be women.

Cellulite, pubic hair, nipples and breastfeeding are just a handful of the female experiences airbrushed out of daily life. These experiences are therefore considered the other and that causes repercussions the world over.

In the west, the knock on effects of such attitudes are well documented. They cause everything from body image anxiety to insecurity.

Around the world however, the plot thickens. Women are excluded from society when they have their periods. They are unable to work, unable to go to school and ultimately unable to interact with the wider world.

Part of this is bred from a culture of shame, but it is also down to poor sanitary resources. While there are fantastic organisations, such as SHEVA, working to provide menstrual hygiene resources for women to help combat this absence from public life, it simply isn't enough.

It's up to all of us - women, but also men - to normalise periods by talking openly to our friends, mothers and daughters. After all, 52% of the population get them.

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Nicknames For Periods
(01 of13)
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What it sounds like: A really bad horror film about a group of teens who drive their car out into the woods and get haunted by a ghost.
But what you're actually referencing: There are cramps, and yes, blood to deal with, but getting your period isn't a curse of any sort — it's part of being a woman of a certain age. Periods involve our ovaries releasing eggs, while hormonal changes prepare our uteruses for pregnancy. See ... not so scary.
(02 of13)
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What it sounds like: A really cool and urban aunt who likes to listen to hip hop and buy vinyl records
But what you're actually referencing: Aunt Flo only visits once a month (a 28-day cycle to be exact). She is kind of uncomfortable, annoying and her conversations never stops flowing...
(03 of13)
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What it sounds like: Your really really really old aunt who has a kind soul.
But what you're actually referencing: Similar to her sister Aunt Flo, Aunt Rose seems to be the nicer of the two: Because we all know things like rose petals and rose bushes resemble menstruation.
(04 of13)
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What it sounds like: Like you have a giant wound and you can't stop bleeding. Ever.
But what you're actually referencing: You're being pretty literal here, but yes, a period means you're bleeding from your vagina.
(05 of13)
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What it sounds like: A really trendy urban cafe.
But what you're actually referencing: The dot/dots that appear on your liner, pad and sometimes on your bed sheets and underwear. Also, dot = period.
(06 of13)
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What it sounds like: Not just any friend, but a really annoying friend you don't like.
But what you're actually referencing: Sometimes we try to make the best of what life throws at us by staying positive and remembering our periods can be our friends.
(07 of13)
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What it sounds like: When the plumbing went wrong ... for a week.
But what you're actually referencing: Again, the leak refers the constant flow of blood coming out of your body. We also assume people are referring to leaks they get on their pants or bedsheets. The worst.
(08 of13)
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What it sounds like: Time of the month sounds like a hush-hush thing that happens to your body that only you and members of a secret club understand.
But what you're actually referencing: TOTM refers to time of the month when your period is taking place — just so we're all on the same page.
(09 of13)
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What it sounds like: A newsletter or a magazine that comes out once a month
But what you're actually referencing: To add emphasis that everything is cool with your flow and your period only happens once a month.
(10 of13)
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What it sounds like: Teenage slang
But what you're actually referencing: PMS actually stands for premenstrual syndrome, and isn't a synonym for your period at all.
(11 of13)
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What it sounds like: A dirty old cloth you use to wash your dishes and floor
But what you're actually referencing: The rag is closely related to the pad or tampon we wear during periods... and how uncomfortable it is. It's also an unfortunate visual.
(12 of13)
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What it sounds like:This river in China!
But what you're actually referencing: We're not sure with the obsession of words like "river," "water" or "flow" when it comes to describing your period. Our best guess? The assumption that when a woman is on her period, she is forever bleeding.
(13 of13)
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What it sounds like: It sounds like what it is, the bleeding elevator from the 'The Shining.'
But what you're actually referencing: Periods are scary and women bleed and if you see/talk about this blood, something terrible will happen. Get a grip, people — the only thing frightening about periods is using phrases like "the shining" to describe it.