Fifty Shades Of Grey: Bondage Tips For Beginners (PICTURES)

Fifty Shades Of Grey: Bondage Tips For Beginners (PICTURES)
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It's official - bondage is now in the mainstream after the roaring success of erotic novel Fifty Shades Of Grey, which boasts chapters of kinky sex, sado-masochistic lust and plenty of spanking.

Not only is the book's success (it's currently smashing book sale records in the UK) prompting women to buy, read and share the saucy scenes through forums, social networking and word of mouth - it's also rumoured to have boosted sales of DIY goods (soft ropes in particular) as Fifty Shades fans flock to reenact the bondage-filled plot.

Thinking of doing a Christian Grey and Anastasia Steele and introducing handcuffs, whips and blindfolds into the bedroom?

"Bondage covers a very wide spectrum of sex acts, and can mean something different to every person," explains Rochelle Peachey, couples counsellor, author and founder of transatlantic dating site I Love Your Accent.

"Bondage isn't all whips, dungeons and medieval torture."

Take a look at bondage tips for beginners, that'll get your heart racing...

Bondage For Beginners
Bondage For Beginners (01 of06)
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"Bondage" covers a very wide spectrum of sex acts, and can mean something different to every person," says Rochelle Peachey, couples counsellor, author and founder of transatlantic dating site I Love Your Accent Is it being blindfolded and maybe tying your wrists with silk scarves or something way more elaborate? Or something you would like to add to your sex life or is this something you like to do all the time? Whatever it is, as long as you both agree on the boundaries, anything goes. Bondage isn't all whips, dungeons and medieval torture but make no mistake they do play a huge part for many." (credit:Alamy)
Make Your Own Rules(02 of06)
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"There are no rules to follow, you make the rues together," says Rochelle Peachey. "Create a special word in case it gets too much for you, something sexier than screaming "get off me". (credit:Alamy)
Be Sober(03 of06)
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"Although it's often more tempting to play sex games when you're feeling a bit tipsy, it's best not to try bondage when you're under the influence of drink or drugs, as you might misjudge how tightly to tie the knots or, as the restrained person, be unable to establish your comfort levels in an accurate way," says Emily Dubberley, author of The Field Guide to F*cking. (credit:Alamy)
Be Creative (04 of06)
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"Take a DIY approach to bondage if you're on a budget. Clingfilm can be used to wrap around your lover's wrists, and if you use a single layer, it's easy enough to snap. You can get kitsch and use liquorice bootlaces to bind your lover's wrists, go for a cheap option and use toilet paper," advises Emily Dubberley. (credit:Alamy)
Safety First(05 of06)
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"With bondage, there's a risk you can tie your partner too tightly and cause damage to their nerves. To avoid this, when someone is restrained by their wrists or ankles make sure that you check their extremities (hands and feet) regularly to ensure that they're not going cold (which is a sign that you've blocked their circulation). If the extremities do feel cold, untie your partner immediately and massage their hands or feet to help restore blood flow," explains Rochelle Peachey. (credit:Alamy)
Be Prepared(06 of06)
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"Make sure that you keep a pair of scissors to hand, so that you can release your partner quickly if the need arises. Similarly, if you're using handcuffs, keep two sets of handcuff keys near by (it's always best to have a spare just in case you lose the first set)," says Emily Dubberley. (credit:Alamy)