Be Consistent With Your O's(01 of24)
Open Image ModalDon't Make Things Complicated (02 of24)
Open Image Modal"A lot of people try to get too fancy and complicated during sex by changing positions, pace, or angles,” Marin says. Of course, while It’s fun to experiment, don’t put too much pressure on yourself or your partner to mix it up. Marin says reaching an orgasm this way can become a chore, and that’s no way to end up satisfied. (credit:Yuri Arcurs)
One Size Does Not Fit All...(03 of24)
Open Image Modal...or one position, or one toy. If you focus too much on articles that promise that a certain position will work every time, or a particular gadget that guarantees orgasms, you may just be putting yourself in an orgasm-less situation. We are all built differently and find different things exciting, which means you need to figure out what works for you and your partner. (credit:shutterstock)
Grab The Reins(04 of24)
Open Image ModalBoth men and women benefit from being in a position of controlling the action leading up to orgasm, Marin says. "It's usually easiest to reach orgasm if you can dictate the stimulation. For that reason, I encourage couples to take turns reaching orgasm." (credit:Shutterstock / sam100)
Go Beyond Intercourse (05 of24)
Open Image ModalEvidence shows that only about a quarter of women consistently orgasm through vaginal intercourse, for example. If you or your partner are part of the other 75 per cent, that's no indication of the quality of your relationship or sex life. Remember, it's not penetration or nothing, because orgasms reached through other means feel pretty great too. Just focus on what works for you and your partner and enjoy the orgasms you are having instead of worrying about the ones you aren't. (credit:Dean Mitchell)
Masturbate To Find Out What Turns You On(06 of24)
Open Image ModalGive Up On Simultaneous Orgasms(07 of24)
Open Image ModalReaching orgasm at the same time sounds hot, but it’s actually pretty rare, Marin says. “Trying to have one usually spoils the mood — couples start focusing more on timing than on the actual enjoyment of sex,” she explains. "One person is always trying to hurry up, while the other is trying to slow down!” Allowing yourselves to take turns lets you both be in the moment and really enjoy it, without the pressure of trying to get the timing right (credit:Shutterstock / Yuri Arcurs)
Bring In The Back-Ups (08 of24)
Open Image ModalDon't Worry If You Can't Orgasm (09 of24)
Open Image ModalThis may seem counter-intuitive, but putting so much focus on orgasms can make it hard to enjoy all the other parts of sex that also feel pretty great. "Orgasm has gotten a lot more attention in the media in recent years, and many people have become overly goal-oriented about reaching orgasm,” Marin says. "I'll often hear my clients describe sex that feels disconnected and mechanical, because both parties are up in their heads stressing out about orgasming.” That doesn't sound enjoyable, orgasm or not. Marin advises some of her clients to just take orgasms off the table for a period of time. She says the result is often a re-connection with all the great parts of sex, a few new ideas on mixing things up, and a greater appreciation for orgasms when they do return. (credit:Simon Watson via Getty Images)
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Open Image ModalWomen Climax Prematurely, Too(11 of24)
Open Image ModalNot All Orgasms Are Earth Shattering(12 of24)
Open Image ModalAre High Heels Orgasmic?(13 of24)
Open Image ModalShoe designer Christian Louboutin made quite a splash when he told British newspaper The Sunday Times that high heels and orgasms have a lot in common. “What is sexual in a high heel is the arch of the foot, because it is exactly the position of a woman's foot when she orgasms,” he said. “So putting your foot in a heel, you are putting yourself in a possibly orgasmic situation.”Is that true? We’re not so sure. But we do know that those oh-so sexy stilettos can bring on a whole lot of pain — and according to the American Academy of Orthopaedic Surgeons (AAOS), they are more likely to cause bunions. (credit:Shutterstock)
Want To Orgasm? Get Your Head In The Game(14 of24)
Open Image ModalGuys Have G-Spots, Too(15 of24)
Open Image ModalFor women, the G-spot is a hard-to-find (or some say mythical) place inside the vagina that can set off earth-shattering orgasms. But do men have similar orgasmic potential?According to Dr. Niederberger, the anatomical equivalent on the male is the frenulum, a collection of highly sensitized nerves just under the head of the penis. Whether G-spots really exist is still up for debate, but Niederberger says it’s important to remember that both men and women can have toe-curlingly-satisfying sex lives without one. (credit:Shutterstock)
Fast And Stealthy Wins The Race(16 of24)
Open Image ModalNot all sperm are created equal. In fact, take any given sample sperm that get released during the male orgasm, and you’ll find some that are dead or immobile and others that are relatively speedy (they get even speedier in response to chemical signals from a woman’s vagina and egg).“Sperm should move at 30 micrometers per second or more,” says urologist Craig Niederberger, MD, FACS, head of the department of urology at the University of Illinois in Chicago. Also, they should generally move forward, rather than simply bouncing around in one spot. (credit:Shutterstock)
The Hands-Free Orgasm Is Real(17 of24)
Open Image ModalYou Can ‘Yogasm’(18 of24)
Open Image ModalYou Can ‘Coregasm,’ Too(19 of24)
Open Image ModalOrgasms Can Relieve Pain(20 of24)
Open Image ModalShould you ditch the painkillers for a romp in the hay or solo-style sex? “I recommend women masturbate to orgasm to relieve their monthly cramps,” says Dodson.There are several possible reasons climaxing kills pain. The chemical and muscular cascade involved in having an orgasm may be a pain reliever, she says — and chances are that distraction and profound relaxation also help. In any case, it can’t hurt to try. (credit:Shutterstock)
Orgasms May Actually Get Better With Age(21 of24)
Open Image ModalWhether having an orgasm is qualitatively better at age 40 than age 20 is hard to say. However, chances are, you know your body better and are more comfortable with sex and your partner when you get older. “A young body may respond better to orgasm, but an aging body might have more appreciation for an orgasm,” says Dodson. Take the time to learn about your changing orgasmic style. (credit:Shutterstock)
Most Guys Are Seven-Minute Men(22 of24)
Open Image ModalTurns Out, The Female Orgasm Is Important(23 of24)
Open Image ModalThe Truth About Multiple Orgasms(24 of24)
Open Image ModalDo some women orgasm, only to orgasm again (and then yet again)?While it is certainly possible for individuals to have more than one orgasm in a sexual interlude, Dodson says to proceed with caution. “My concern with so-called ‘multiple orgasms’ is that I believe many women are actually counting the naturally occurring autonomic reflexes that can follow an orgasm,” she says. Of course, these “aftershocks” can still be quite pleasurable. (credit:Shutterstock)