09/01/2015 05:46 GMT | Updated 10/03/2015 05:59 GMT

Seven Things Resilient People Don't Do

Here's the thing: you have to choose what's important to you. To create success, you have to set aside time and make room for it. You have to cut out the negative committee and focus on what really matters to you.

Why is resilience crucial in order to achieve success and what exactly is it?

One of the biggest objections I hear from clients around achieving success and setting goals is:

"I tried that already and it didn't work out."

Resilience is having the ability to overcome challenges, trauma, set backs, personal crises and obstacles and bounce back stronger, and wiser, feeling empowered.

Life is crazily busy, you have obligations, you have a family, you have a business to run or a job to attend to, you have had numerous set backs personally and/or professionally. I get it.

I have had SO many set backs and crashes I know only too well that self-belief is about overcoming setbacks, obstacles and rejection, so persistence and confidence is essential. Taking small steps brings big results, so you need to have courageous vulnerability and ask yourself: "What is the worst that can happen if it goes wrong?"

Being resilient means tapping into your hidden strengths so you make smart choices and trust they are the right ones for you.

Here's the thing: you have to choose what's important to you. To create success, you have to set aside time and make room for it. You have to cut out the negative committee and focus on what really matters to you.

However before you can become resilient you have to believe you have an innate capacity to bounce back rather than crumble. Persistence is a large part of self-belief and resilience. It's a numbers game and a vast bulk of people give up. Do you have what it takes to be resilient and succeed in life?

Here are seven things resilient people don't do.

1. They don't let themselves or others down.

They are reliable with themselves - they do what they promise themselves they will do and they also stick to their commitments with others.

2, They don't bumble along.

They set and achieve goals as they know this will skyrocket their confidence and self-respect so they can achieve what they put their mind to. They know setbacks are inevitable, but they stay focused on the destination.

3.. They don't quit

They don't worry about what others' expectations are of them because they know if they worry about others' expectations, they will stay paralysed by fear and not trust themselves to make the right decision. They are determined to learn from what often seems to be the most difficult of circumstances.

4. They don't obsess about their weaknesses.

They become experts in applying and refining their strengths and staying focused on what is going right and what they do have, not what is going wrong and what they don't have. They ask themselves: what are the biggest challenges I have overcome? What did I do to overcome them? What qualities, skills, attitudes have I relied on to make it this far?

5. They don't take anything for granted.

They have grattitude in their attitude. They don't have a sense of entitlement or unrealistic expectations of other people.They keep a positive mindset, showing appreciation of the good things in their life and to the good people in their life.

6. They don't stand still and avoid making decisions.

So many people don't make decisions, as then they don't have to handle more responsibility or more success, or face others' disapproval. Resilient people don't look to others to make the decision. They are confident enough to not worry that their decision may offend or upset their boss, partner, sibling, colleague, neighbour, mentor or clients.

7. They don't get discouraged by mistakes.

They don't have self-defeating beliefs about what might happen in the future. Resilience is very often the factor which leads some people to overcome immense obstacles to become successful. Look at many well known, successful and wealthy people with humble or even deprived beginnings and you will see resilience in action.

Take steps to develop resilience in your own life - it will serve you well.