Weightloss for Women Over 40

02/08/2012 17:52 BST | Updated 02/10/2012 10:12 BST

While most of the world seems to be fixated on diets as the solution to weight problems, most women who are over 40 and overweight, know (from personal experience) that diets don't work. In fact as women get older, it becomes harder and harder to lose weight.

Even diets that might have worked (temporarily) in the past are no longer effective. So if you're 40 and fed up with your weight and yoyo dieting, what should you do?

The answer is to change your approach. Diets are all about short-term weight loss. But when you finish a diet, you gain the weight back. What you need to do then is to focus on a long-term approach that will ensure that you never need to diet again.

Here are nine tips that will put you on the right path:

1. Don't Think About Losing ALL Your Excess Weight... Yet

Rather than setting a large goal and getting disappointed by how far away it is, I always recommend setting a short term goal. The short term goal that I usually find to be the best is one stone (6.35kg or 14 pounds). It's a significant amount of weight but I have also found that with my clients it is relatively easy to achieve.

2. Don't set a deadline

This seems to go against most goal-setting advice, but it is actually very important for long term weight loss that you abandon deadlines. If you are trying to lose weight for a deadline, you will be more tempted to use short term fixes that involve depriving yourself rather than changing your habits which is more of a long term solution.

3. Make small changes

Don't do it all at once. With no deadline, you can take it easy. Make very small changes each week that eventually add up. Slow and steady wins the race.

4. Lifelong change

Make sure every change you make is one that you are happy to do for the rest of your life. Most people trying to lose weight make drastic changes because they want to get their results quickly. But in the back of their mind, they know that they won't be sticking to these changes forever. But of course if you don't stick to the changes, you will simply start gaining weight back.

5. Make it pleasant

Ensure that you can still eat out, travel and do other enjoyable things. If your weight loss method involves depriving yourself of all the fun in life, then it is probably going to fail very soon. This is where many "diets" fail. They are too unpleasant to continue for life.

6. Get someone to help you along the way

Aside from showing my clients how to lose weight without dieting, I think the most valuable things I do for my clients are shouldering some or most of their worries and anxiety about their weight, reassuring them that they are on the right track and keeping them going at times when they might otherwise have given up. Find someone who can help you to keep on track.

7. Keep perspective on what a realistic rate of weight loss is

In this world of unrealistic weight loss claims ("Lose 30 pounds in 10 days"), most women do not have accurate expectations for what a good rate of weight loss is for someone over 40. Remember, even losing a pound a week adds up to a 2 stone in six months.

8. Have a plan for coping with difficult situations

Life doesn't make way for people losing weight. Rather than trying to suspend your life while trying to lose weight, you have to learn to cope with all the different situations that occur in a normal busy life. This involves anticipating and planning for them in advance.

9. Think of setbacks as learning experiences

Everyone experiences setbacks while trying to lose weight. But whereas most people respond to a bad week by giving up, the best way to deal with them is to learn what went wrong and how you can avoid it happening again.

There are so many women over 40 out there who have become convinced after years of failure that there is something wrong with them and that they can't lose weight. But this isn't true. Diets are the real culprit here. For women over 40 who want a long term solution to their weight loss, taking an approach that is slow and steady and focussed on changing habits will pay far greater dividends.

For more about a behavioural approach to weight loss see here