Elliot Page Says Actor Warned Him: 'I'm Going To F**k You To Make You Realise You Aren't Gay'

"I put that story in my book because it’s about highlighting the reality, the s**t we deal with."
Elliot Page
Elliot Page
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Elliot Page says a famous actor threatened to rape him — to convince him he wasn’t gay.

The Inception star, who is one of the most famous transgender performers in Hollywood, details the encounter in his upcoming memoir, Pageboy.

According to Elliot, the incident occurred at a birthday party in Los Angeles back in 2014 after the Oscar nominee came out as gaybefore his later transition in 2020.

“You aren’t gay. That doesn’t exist. You are just afraid of men,” he recalls in a chapter titled Famous Asshole At Party, excerpts of which were published by People magazine.

Elliot then writes that the threat became more direct: “I’m going to fuck you to make you realise you aren’t gay.”

When the two actors ran into each other at the gym a few days later, the unidentified A-lister claimed he didn’t “have a problem” with gay people. Elliot — who told him, “I think you might” — noted to People magazine that he’s endured other remarks like this many times before.

“I’ve had some version of that happen many times throughout my life,” he told the magazine.

“A lot of queer and trans people deal with it incessantly. These moments that we often, like, don’t talk about or we’re supposed to just brush off, when actually it’s very awful.”

Elliot added that he “purposefully” decided not to name the celebrity in question, but that numerous people at the party bore witness to his remarks.

The Juno star pointedly noted that the man will hear of his inclusion in the book, however, “and know it’s him”.

Elliot said his peers Catherine Keener, Alia Shawkat and Kristen Wiig have always been there for him
Elliot said his peers Catherine Keener, Alia Shawkat and Kristen Wiig have always been there for him
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The real reason he’s sharing that moment with the world, however, is seemingly selfless.

“I put that story in my book because it’s about highlighting the reality, the shit we deal with and what gets sent to us constantly, particularly in environments that are predominantly cis and heterosexual,” Elliot told People.

He added that harassment like this isn’t always “overt” and that “subtle jokes” about gay or transgender people were commonplace.

Elliot also said the “very powerful people” who choose “what stories are being told and creating content” need to be held to account.

In his book, Elliot goes on to reveal he fell in love with Kate Mara in 2014, after coming out as gay.

He writes that Kate’s boyfriend at the time, Max Minghella, was supportive of Kate exploring her own feelings for Elliot — and that Kate admitted she was “in love with two people”.

Elliot says Catherine Keener, Alia Shawkat and Kristen Wiig lovingly helped him navigate his journey. He’s far more comfortable in his own skin these days, however, and gushed about his “trans joy and euphoria” to People.

“Today I definitely feel a way that I never thought I would get to feel,” he told the outlet. “I think that mostly manifests in how present I feel. The sort of ease and the ability to exist. There’s been periods in my life where I really felt like I wasn’t… I just feel so lucky.”

Pageboy hits bookstores on 6 June.

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