Are Blogs Like Man Who Has It All Really Empowering Women?

27/10/2015 17:41 GMT | Updated 27/10/2016 10:12 BST

I hate bullying in any form. Throughout my school years I was picked on because I was tiny for my age, wore hideous hand-me-down clothes, was terrible at sport and had poor social skills (maturity didn't hit me until well after I'd left the hell of senior school!).

And while I have made peace with my own experiences, they don't leave me feeling any warmer to bullies in the adult world. Which is why I can't help but get a bad feeling about blog-of-the-moment Man Who Has It All.

On the face of it, it's a funny concept (and well-written). Take advice that is dished out to women and spin it - showing how ridiculous it is by presenting it as advice given to men.

But rather than furthering the cause of women who seek equality and fairness, to me it just seems to be doing more of the same - laughing at women, and highlighting the many ways we are different to men, without offering any positive solution.

As much as we may sometimes wish it differently, women are not the same as men. Like it or not, the issues we face - be they physical, societal, practical, emotional or professional - are quite often unique to us. And to pretend otherwise is simply fooling ourselves.

We have periods, we often bear the weight of responsibility for childcare, statistics say we do most of the housework, and too many employers undervalue our contributions (especially once we have children) - and we need to balance all these very real factors with our own personal ambitions.

So it's inevitable that there will be advice aimed solely at us. And there is. There are thousands of well-meaning writers, businesses and websites out there (like ours) trying their best to even society's balance in some way by inspiring and empowering women.

And true, we don't always get it right. You're not always going to agree with, or like, the advice and opinions offered. Sometimes it's even deliberate - I know that by writing a controversial headline, I'll get hundreds more hits on that article than if I wrote a politically correct one. But as long as the overall message is positive, and women come away feeling more empowered as a result of reading it, does that matter? As far as I am concerned, the more people I can help, the better.

Why do I feel so strongly about this? Two reasons. Since Man Who Has It All went viral this past week, two women have each picked out a line on our site they didn't like and shared it in an attempt to shame us. That's ONE LINE on a site with a growing library of over 900 inspiring and empowering articles. A site written specifically to help women.

It's not even constructive criticism. I'd be delighted to learn of ways I can make our site better - ideas for articles you'd like to see, and opinions on topics you need less of. But reducing three years' work to one single line? What does that say about us women? That even when we have something designed to build us up, inspire us, empower us, and make our collective lives better, we try to find a way to destroy or ridicule it?

The reality is that the world isn't perfect. But there are those of us who are trying to do our bit, the best way we know how, to make it better. We put ourselves out there, and make a concerted effort to reach behind us and pull up other women and effect positive change.

And there are those who fall into the trap of too many all-female Apprentice teams, losing focus and respect by turning on each other.

So let's have less ridicule and female-shaming shall we? Let's look less for the things others get 'wrong', and instead unite to celebrate and build on what people are doing right. And leave bullying to the school playgrounds.

Hannah Martin is co-founder of Talented Ladies Club, a magazine-style website with advice and inspiration aimed at working and business mums.