I have been pondering this for quite some time, does being a 'good' mother to your son in turn make him become a bad husband?
In my opinion - YES!
A few of the men in my life have been struck with this ailment. They are unable to work a washing machine, they think the washing fairy arrives to clear up after them and that the dishes take themself to the sink, wash themselves, dry themselves and then put themselves away. At first I would blame them for this- isnt it OBVIOUS how to put a load of washing on?? I now blame their mums!
A 'good' mother looks after her son, does the menial tasks (that us girls are taught at a young age!!) for him so that he can go and play football or whatever it is young boys do. So the mums tidy/clean their rooms, do their washing and ironing, and more or less treat them like a prince. Why do they do this? Because they love them of course!!! But this 'loving' is bad for the boys!
Why shouldn't a man (or teenage boy) know how to work a washing machine? Whats wrong with them ironing their own clothes? Shouldn't they have the ability to be self-sufficient?
I come from a family that was raised to know how to look after yourself. My mother was a working mum, she didnt have the time (or inclination!) to constantly pick up after us, so we were all given little jobs to do - put the washing machine on, peg the washing out, clean the bathroom etc. None of them strenuous tasks but I like to think that it has at least taught me how to 'keep' a house (Not that I choose to do it!).
A certain member of my family, we'll call him Stan, is 21 years old and has got his 'mothers love' blinkers well and truly on. He parades around the house, 'not noticing' that he is leaving a trail of destruction behind him that someone has to tidy - he just thinks that 'someone' isnt him!!
My love for Oliver is huge, I would do anything for him BUT I refuse to turn him into a 'Stan' so I will shower Oliver with love and give him anything he wants - just as long as he tidies up after himself!! I'd like to think I am creating the perfect man as, whoever the lucky girl is Oliver chooses to marry, she wont have to teach him how to work the washing machine and hopefully she'll thank me for that!