20/02/2015 10:53 GMT | Updated 21/04/2015 06:59 BST

How Do You Know What It Will Take to Make You Happy?

Think about it and see if you can discover what it will take for you to be happy?

Will you be happy:

• in a relationship?

• having a million pounds?

• being successful?

• having better health?

• getting a new job?

If you think the answer is yes to any or all of the above questions, you'll never find happiness!

Surprised? Well don't be. The truth is nothing can 'make you happy'. Happiness is something you feel, not something you can find.

Being happy doesn't depend on a particular outcome or something happening to you. There isn't somewhere you can go and find happiness sitting there waiting for you.

Nothing can make you happy because happiness is a feeling. Happiness is something you experience.

If you want to be happy, then be happy. Most people don't choose to be happy because they spend most of their time focusing on what they perceive is wrong with their life.

Think about it, you can't be happy doing something that you don't like. If you don't believe me try it. Try doing something you despise and see if you can be happy at the same time. Trust me, you won't be happy doing something you don't enjoy!

Similarly, you can't do something you really enjoy and be sad or angry. Try it. See what happens.

Unfortunately, people believe they can be happy when they achieve a particular goal. It's really not achieving the goal that makes them happy. It's the feeling of achieving the goal that provides another feeling, satisfaction perhaps, that is mistaken for happiness.

Start doing the things that you enjoy. Look at the positive things that are going on in your life. Direct your mind and subconscious mind to help you experience happiness every day. This will start once you begin to appreciate the good things in your life. When you shift your focus.

Instead of looking at all that is wrong with your life, what you don't like about yourself or your life; change your focus. Start appreciating all that is good in your life.

Write down all the positive things in your life. Start looking at all the great and terrific things that are going on in your life and you'll begin to experience happiness on a deeper level.

Every day think of the positive things that are going on in your life. Make a list of all the wonderful things that are taking place in your life.

Think of at least three great things that happened to you they can be small or large - but just appreciate three good things that happened during the day. Do this every day for a month and you will see your list grow. Focus on the positive. Direct your mind and subconscious mind by changing your perspective so you experience happiness everyday

If you want to experience happiness then start doing things that you enjoy. You may like gardening, hang gliding, riding your bike, going for long walks, acting like a five-year old - whatever it is start doing it and see how great you feel.

But there is one catch when you're doing what you enjoy, you can only focus on that and not think about anything else that may be bothering you. That's the only way you'll truly enjoy the activity and begin to experience happiness.

Now you can't just have fun once a week or once a month. You have to do this every day. That means every day you have to find something fun to do, and only then will you get comfortable and used to the process to the point where you regularly experience happiness.

If you don't feel you have the time to have fun and enjoy your life then you're really saying that your happiness is not important enough. Only when you decide to be happy will you truly begin to experience happiness.