Lessons on Body Image From Christina Aguilera and Demi Moore

08/01/2012 23:26 GMT | Updated 09/03/2012 10:12 GMT

This week gives us two different celebrity mums with differing body images stories that we can learn one message from - all women regardless of their size, experience criticism of their bodies not only from the media, but from themselves.

Demi Moore, in the spotlight since her split with Ashton Kutcher, was interviewed in Harper's Bazaar's February issue during which she detailed her struggle with her weight throughout her career and how as of late, she has been accused of being too skinny.

Moore has opened the door for actresses to be more honest about the plight of living in the spotlight, but also for normal women to feel a sigh of relief that celebrities don't necessarily have it better than us when it comes to body image.

Most actresses of a certain age seem highly concerned with their looks and their image to a point that they are willing to do and say anything to convince their fan base that they are not only beautiful but fully self-confident in their looks.

But Moore reveals some very real feelings about her self-image: "What scares me is that I'm going to ultimately find out at the end of my life that I'm really not lovable, that I'm not worthy of being loved. That there's something fundamentally wrong with me."

I can relate to what Moore says here so well, as I'm sure many women can. These thoughts of not being good enough in some deep and fundamental way often ties in with how women feel about their looks.

Christina Aguilera has had the opposite weight issue as of late, after her November appearance at the American Music Awards earned her heated headlines accusing her of being too fat to wear the skin-tight mini dress she chose.

Christina earns my kudos for baring what she's got in what she wants. She's bursting the skinny-celebrity mum template that's been created - you know, the one that says immediately following birth one must starve oneself back into a size double-zero.

She's being who she is, loving her body and being proud of it. Rather than slamming her, society should be applauding her.

Aguilera spoke out last week during NBC's The Voice panel at the Television Critics Association Winter Session, saying, "I've been in this for a long time. I came out on the scene when I was 17 years old. 'You can never be too much of anything. You can never be too perfect, too thin, too curvy, too voluptuous,' this, that. I've been on all sides of the spectrum. [Every] female in this business at one time or another has had criticism... "

How many women live most of their lives slaving away to meet some celebrity standard of beauty that we are clearly being shown doesn't even earn those celebrities anything worthwhile?

So if even famous, wealthy, beautiful movie and rock stars can admit to feeling inadequate and not perfect enough at our idealized shapes and sizes, perhaps we women can finally stop and say, hey, there's something really wrong going on here that we feel this irrational need to meet some stereotype that doesn't even come with any benefits.

Do you think celebrity mums like Aguilera and Moore discussing their normal feelings of distorted body image can open a new dialogue for women and help us finally learn to love ourselves just as we are?