Even when you both agree it's the best thing - getting divorced is a major upheaval. But more often than not the reason for the breakup involves bad behaviour and betrayal.
"There are some unavoidable side effects to the process of divorce:
The effects of divorce
- The betrayal of your love and the loss of your dreams
- The hurt to your feelings
- The loss of your confidence and self-esteem
- And the probability that finances are going to be a real problem
Then there are the issues around the children and access and the battle for their affections and their support. It's not surprising that there is often such a residue of anger and bitterness.
Being single is the least of your problems
In a way - I believe that these emotions present an even greater problem to the divorcee than their new single status. These are the emotions which make you into an angry, sour and unattractive individual. Until you have worked through them - you're unlikely to find another partner.
It's astonishing how many people drum up the confidence to start dating again, and then spend their entire first date talking about how awful their ex was. Not a recipe for a successful match. Of course - there is never a second date.
So it's really important to get the divorce or the breakup of your relationship out of your system first, before attempting to find a new partner.
Getting ready to date post-divorce
Use the opportunity to work on the reasons why your partnership failed, so that when you do go into a new partnership it doesn't become a repeat of the old.
Theta Healing has helped the people I have worked with transform their feelings of hurt and betrayal, and has produced rapid and effective change.
If you would like help with a breakup and all the grief and negativity that has been released, there are free videos available to help you, which explain what Theta Healing is and how it works, as well as videos which will enable you to rapidly and effectively move away from the old and into the new."