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LJ Ferris

Non Binary trans* rights activist, they/them or he/his

I'm LJ. I'm a queer non binary academic. I'm studying cardiac physiology at university in the UK whilst working part time at Lush-the best place to work! I'm a cat parent, to a tiny kitten terror and an older grumpy rescue cat, I spend an awful lot of blogging time trying to fight the kitten off - he loves to type!

What else? I'm a practicing Christian, and yes I am welcome in my church as a queer person. I'm fighting for visible spaces for the often forgotten members of our LGBT+ community.I strive to live my life honestly and openly as a queer person and by doing this I hope to raise awareness of trans* and queer identities and begin much needed dialogues around this.

I am not gay, or straight. Not male, or female. I fall between the cracks. But it is in between the cracks that magic is formed.

I blog at www.queerenby.wordpress.com and have resources for people exploring gender. I invite questions, comments and feedback as I welcome dialogue around gender and sexuality.

My Queer Identity Doesn't Cause My Depression...Your Attitudes Do

It is not my queer identity that causes my depression. I am more happy than I have ever been since I came out and found words to express my own identity. My wife was astounded by my forwardness and how comfortable I was with holding hands or kissing in public. I never had a second thought about it, my relationship with her was as natural as any I had with men
11/10/2017 15:57 BST

Transgender... A Story Of Hope

So many rhetorics around LGBT+ and particularly transgender identities focus on the difficulties and tribulations so I thought that I would share a story of hope today. Five weeks ago I married the love of my life, a cisgender woman, a lesbian. When we met almost three years ago I presented as female and, though I was beginning to question my identity I really had no language to explain it.
05/09/2017 15:51 BST

We Are Letting Down Our Transgender Youth... Here's How

In this country children cannot undergo interventions for gender confirmation. They may get hormone blockers to delay puberty but they are not considered able to consent to hormones or surgery until they are 18. Young transgender people need to see trans bodies in transition, they need to see trans identities that don't undergo surgery but are beautiful.
30/06/2017 08:10 BST

LGB... What About The T?

So here we are, in the month of Pride all over the world. A month of declaring the rights of LGBTQIA+ people. A month of raising awareness, being visible and marching to change the world. To make the world a little more welcoming, a little more open, a little more understanding.
20/06/2017 07:59 BST

Authenticity Tells Lies

Here I am, trying to be visible. I am trying so hard to live my authentic life right now, to live fully and honestly as myself. Yet every step I find myself telling lies. Not malicious, not "big" lies. But lies nonetheless.
12/04/2017 10:55 BST

All Men (And Women) Are Equal

So, Jenni Murray, and anyone else who says that trans people aren't not "real" men or women, just because I wasn't born with a body that you deem acceptable for my gender, it does not mean my gender is less important, that my experience is less real.
09/03/2017 13:52 GMT

EXPOSED: The Truth About Top Surgery

Top surgery, and in fact almost all medical interventions for trans* people are spoken about with such rose tinted glasses, it's hard to find a story about the difficulties or sad times. Particularly the social aspect of transitioning and the impact of surgery on these things. So rather than a simple before and after I want to share with you journey of this.
12/02/2017 20:41 GMT

The Reality Of Non Existence

The reality of life as a non binary person is that of non-existence. That statement might seem dramatic, yet it is true. Certainly in some, if not all, areas of existence. The simple act of going to the toilet is one of deciding who you are; male... or female?
27/01/2017 11:33 GMT

Why Jenny Swift's Death Is A Tale Of Our Times...

In a country where a trans* woman is jailed with men, we are not living in a country where trans* identities are considered equal or valuable. It may seem incidental, an accident, something you see in passing in the newspaper, but the story of Jenny Swift's death is a tale of how invisible trans* people are and how much work there is still to be done.
09/01/2017 11:46 GMT

New Year, New You?

Instead the new year will bring a different kind of new me. I will fashion a new me from actions and words, a new form sewn out of relationships and strengthened with self confidence. I will endeavor to look in the mirror and like what I see, or find something each day to like. I will try my best to love more, to love stronger, to be kinder.
01/01/2017 19:33 GMT

Awareness Doesn't Bring Change (A Call To Arms)

The 295 (at least) trans* people who were murdered this year alone were sons, daughters, siblings, friends, parents, students, teachers, lovers. They brought light to the dark places they stepped and their presence raised awareness. But they were deemed to be "other", to be "wrong", to be inferior and for that they were killed.
23/11/2016 11:13 GMT

How To Love A Trans* Person

The problem is this... too often trans* people are reduced to their genitals and that sexuality is fixed not fluid. But those statements aren't true. Gender is not equal to genitals, and sexuality is fluid. So really, loving a trans* person is as simple as falling in love.
31/10/2016 16:57 GMT

Microaggressions - Not Micro But Definitely Aggresive

These seemingly small things slowly chip away at your self identity and self esteem. They undermine your identity, making you out to be not a "real" man/woman. They shake the foundations of who you are. Some off the cuff un-thought-of comments haven't just upset me but have made me questions my choices and the way I identify.
17/10/2016 00:26 BST

Drowning Out Dysphoria With Self Care

Body dysphoria is tough. It leaves you feeling flat and empty, or so full and overflowing with uncomfortable thorns in your side that you have no idea how to make sense of yourself. Imagine yourself, the gender you know you are, and looking down to see the body of another sex
04/10/2016 11:39 BST

The One With The Transphobia

Last week, over two days I experienced two separate acts of transphobia. It has taken me a while to process this and find the words to write about it. I could ignore it, I could move on and let it be, but I don't feel that I would be accurately describing life as a trans* person if I ignored the acts of hate or ignorance that become part of our daily lives.
21/09/2016 17:07 BST

Allies..It's Your Burden To Share Too

Trans* parts in films are taken by cis people, most often it seems by cis/het/male actors who already reap the benefits of their privileges. They play these parts, show up for media interviews and yet, still, do not accurately depict or describe the experiences of trans* people. Why? Because they are not good allies.
12/09/2016 12:19 BST

Vulnerability And Courage

So why come out? Why correct someone who says "the lady over there" and points at me? Why become vulnerable? Because, if I don't who will. Being vulnerable is also about being courageous. It is about being daring, being brave, standing up and standing out.
05/09/2016 11:05 BST

Lessons On Being Invisible (Life Outside The Binary)

It is not just my sexuality that excludes me from the spectrum of visible colours, but my gender too. I have spent a lifetime trying to understand and explain my gender to myself and others and I have come to the term - non binary trans guy.
22/08/2016 16:06 BST

The Perfect Body

The perfect body doesn't exist, just as the perfect trans* person doesn't exist. We will overstep boundaries and make you feel uncomfortable until you come to realise that your recognition of your man/womanhood is not the be all and end all.
21/08/2016 20:12 BST