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Hair Today, Not Gone Tomorrow

Posted: 16/08/2012 01:00

Hair's where it's at these days.

Suddenly, women's body hair is the focus of media attention. While some might argue that there are other issues that should be explored in more detail (the failing economy, for example, or political corruption), in fact body hair is of much importance, because it shows how objectified women still are and how much pressure there is on women to look a certain way. And this is rather hair-raising.

Many women say that they don't feel comfortable with their bodies unless they are neatly hair-free. Who or what has made women feel this way? Years of pressure on them - mostly by men, but then also continued by women themselves, who are unfortunately very good at policing each other - have made women feel that their bodies are not acceptable in their natural state.

I have heard from many women that their partners have told them that they'd look better and be more sexually appealing with Brazilian waxes or smooth legs or thinner brows or hairless upper lips, and this is quite depressing because it suggests that some relationships are much more superficial than one would like to believe. How is it acceptable in any way to tell your girlfriend that you'll leave her unless she is completely bare down there? What does it say about your feelings for her? What does it say about you as a person, if hair is such a big concern?

While some of this discussion on body hair is anecdotal, other evidence is building. A number of gynaecologists and obstetricians say how surprised they are by the increase in naked vulvas they see. This suggests that even while preparing to give birth, women are busy worrying that a doctor might be disgusted by the vision of a baby pushing through a hairy bush; doctors, one would like to believe, have better things on their minds.

And indeed, doctors are beginning to warn about some of the dangers of hair removal. Here on The Huffington Post UK, Dr Emily Gibson wrote recently about the purpose of pubic hair for both men and women and how grooming it to excess can actually cause problems.

Some women claim that they simply "like" or "enjoy" the process of shaving and the way their bodies look and that it has nothing to do with society promoting the idea of beautiful, hair-free women. However, those women conveniently forget that they are culturally conditioned to prefer themselves without hair.

Even Cherry Healey's valiant effort, chronicled here in the HP, to go without shaving found her longing desperately for her razor. And what's more, when she asked other women what they thought about her naturally hairy body, she received mostly negative feedback. Strange how people care so much about something that actually is none of their business, doesn't affect them or impinge upon their lives, and really doesn't contribute to the world in any major way (okay, so if hair were less important to us, a few electrolysists might go out of business; big deal, they can learn new trades and contribute to society in other ways).

There are so many better things that we can be spending our time, money, and energy on. As long as people are healthy and hygienic and happy, who cares if they shave their armpits or get waxes?

If women didn't spend so much time plucking, trimming, shaving, waxing, lasering, and electrolysing their body hair in order to meet some sort of unhealthy ideal, they'd have plenty more time and energy to devote to helping to solve some of the more important issues that face us.

You know, like fixing the economy, and getting rid of all the ways in which women are oppressed.

 

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Hair's where it's at these days. Suddenly, women's body hair is the focus of media attention. While some might argue that there are other issues that should be explored in more detail (the failing ec...
Hair's where it's at these days. Suddenly, women's body hair is the focus of media attention. While some might argue that there are other issues that should be explored in more detail (the failing ec...
 
 
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01:49 AM on 08/17/2012
I think the real issue is that you are unhappy that women apparently do things which they are conditioned or told to do, which is unfortunatley not what you want them to do.

In the grand tradition of busy bodies, it is disagreement which is the fouler crime. The action which underlies it is merely a vehicle to lecture those less enlightened types who view the world differently, or god forbid, act differently.

The people you talk about as having partners who would be more sexually appealing to them as a result of various grooming methods are obviously in relationships where their partner communicates with them. What is wrong with that?
08:59 PM on 08/16/2012
Oh, so it's all the fault of men. Thanks for clearing that up.
07:57 PM on 08/16/2012
BS. I wax and find sex and exercise much more comfortable since I started. No more itchiness, zero yeast infections, no chafing during sex. I am not "conditioned" and I find it offensive that people dismiss my own capacity to judge my own comfort in the most intimate of places.
11:59 AM on 08/16/2012
I do prefer the hairless look (on myself and women) I have got to agree with the author that if someone threatens to leave someone over it alarm bells should ring. Relationships requires a bit of give and take, some men suffer terribly with razor bumps so a beard trimmer for a nice neat look may be the answer and vice versa for women "down there". Most men prefer the smooth look on women legs,arms and face because women are naturally less hairy than men and shaving extenuates this trait. As for pubic hair to a certain extent it is obviously a fantasy from porn but also from a practical aspect shaved or closely trimmed is much more convenient during oral sex. I started shaving my body for swimming however I continue it because I,me, myself and I enjoy the look and feel. You may say I have been conditioned but it doesn't really hold true for males. Also the "natural" argument is rather spurious, to follow that through showering is unnatural as is living in brick houses and driving cars. We are apes and apes spend a disproportionate amount time grooming themselves and each other so why wouldn't we? The rules for body grooming in a relationship are the same as anything else accommodate your partner as much as YOU are comfortable with, hopefully they will do the same and you will enjoy each other more fully.
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03:29 PM on 08/16/2012
you're correct, i'm going to say you're conditioned. it's got nothing to do with hygiene and all to do with looking pubescent and therefore fertile and sexually attractive. it's those who favour the completely bare look that worry me the most.
06:12 PM on 08/16/2012
Just out of curiosity Tony do you shave your face? If not is it out of belief that it is unmanly or possibly some religious obligation. Everyone is conditioned to some extent. Difference is I don't insinuate that those who prefer the hairy look should be "worried" about around the ape house at the zoo. Each to their own is all I was saying. No definitive argument either for or against.
06:59 AM on 08/17/2012
I was in the V&A museum with my partner recently, I noticed that he was looking at the marble statues of Venus, no arms, and other's with arms, who because of the smooth nature of marble did indeed appear to have no pubic hair, now considering that these works were sculpted in the 14th or 15th century, they almost all I am sure did have pubic hair, or it must have been a very painful way of looking good for the sculpter, also the paintings of the same era showed very white hairless female bodies being caressed by little cherubs, so it did not take porn to show my partner what he later asked me to shave.
And yes I did, he was really taken aback and would not stop rubbing and caressing me as if I were a new person, I told him it's still me you know? yes but you're so smooth, it looks so clean and sexy.
since I have let the hair grow , he say's he is very happy with me as I am, and does not expect me to keep on shaving, it was nice to see what you would, and did look like without the hair, but I love you, not just part of you...that was about 11 years ago now, and yes with our two kids we are happy and do still have an good sex life....with hair, and yes we are a good looking thirty-ish couple
06:58 PM on 08/16/2012
It's only in a handful of western nations that the issue of body hair on women is given such media attention. The vast majority of the countries on this planet don't give a damn.