UK Adoption

The Adoption Contract

Al Coates | Posted 22.09.2017 | UK Parents
Al Coates

Adoptees now live in a world that is connected like never before through social media. The time and effort that tracing family members created a buffer and time to think and reflect. Now, connections can be made with the tap of the finger in seconds in an impulse. Many children are looking to join the dots of their lives and be connected to some of the key people in their life stories.

Mum Discusses 'Heartbreaking Realities' Of Adopting 2-Year-Old From China

The Huffington Post | Amy Packham | Posted 22.09.2017 | UK Parents

A mum has opened up about the “heartbreaking realities” of adopting a two-year-old child from China. Elsie Larson, from Nashville, US, and her hus...

What Parents Of Alternative Families Want You To Know

The Huffington Post | Tamsin Kelly | Posted 15.09.2017 | UK Parents

Next week is Alternative Family Week. ‘Alternative’ encompasses so many different family set-ups. Most people’s perception would be a family wit...

The Day I Failed As A Mother

Helen Redfern | Posted 10.09.2017 | UK Parents
Helen Redfern

When a sleeping eight-month-old child is brought into your home in a car seat and placed on the floor in front of you for you to look after, it's different. This precious curly haired little girl with a chocolate-stained white satin summer dress on in the middle of winter is in the Looked After Child system. She has been brought to you to look after because you've been judged suitable to care for her needs.

Yes, I'm Adopted, Now Please Stop Asking Me Questions

Tia Bradley | Posted 07.09.2017 | UK Universities & Education
Tia Bradley

Yes, I am adopted. Yes, it's had a huge impact on my life. But, I also love Harry Potter, writing and buying way too many clothes. I make the best cup of tea you'll ever drink and I tweet too much. My adoption doesn't define me. So, let's talk about who I am instead of what I've been through.

Sad Eyes

Ali Russell | Posted 10.08.2017 | UK Parents
Ali Russell

Yesterday it seemed his mission to upset his sister. When I asked him why, he said she wasn't upset that they'd moved rooms and he was angry, he wanted her to be sad too! I think this is pretty advanced for a 5yo. Match that with early trauma, his little mind probably doesn't know what to do with itself.

These Parents Surprised Their Daughters with Their Newly-Adopted Baby Sister

The Huffington Post | Amy Packham | Posted 03.08.2017 | UK Parents

A couple decided to surprise their two daughters with their newly-adopted baby sister, after the process happened quicker than they expected. Kasi and...

Technicolour Adoption

Al Coates | Posted 17.07.2017 | UK Parents
Al Coates

It seems like hardly a month goes by without a sensationalist headline about a white couple being denied a black baby or some internet clickbait from a worthy adopter who can see beyond the colour of their children. It's a topic than intrigues and beguiles.

This Piecemeal Review Of The Care System Is Not The Answer Children Need

Chloe Cockett | Posted 17.07.2017 | UK Politics
Chloe Cockett

Over the past six years, we have seen a piecemeal approach to reviewing different parts of the care system. It began with a focus on adoption, and the appointment of a Ministerial Adviser on Adoption. That was followed by the Narey independent review of residential care. Now we have the Fostering Stocktake - a review into foster care.

We Make Happy Summer Memories For Children In Care

Martin Barrow | Posted 16.07.2017 | UK
Martin Barrow

If I paint a particularly bleak picture of a typical summer in the world of fostering, I apologise. Yet these are some of the concerns that preoccupy the UK's 55,000 fostering families as they prepare for the end of term. This summer they will carry much of the burden of caring for society's most vulnerable children alone, with little help from their communities. I just thought you should know.

Don't Assume You Know Why We Adopted

The Huffington Post | Tamsin Kelly | Posted 14.07.2017 | UK Parents

Parents who have had birth children and then adopted explain why they felt they had room in their hearts and their homes for more children. *Names hav...

Pride And Joy Of Being A Foster Family

Martin Barrow | Posted 04.07.2017 | UK Parents
Martin Barrow

We never forget what a privilege it is, to be granted these memories and to share in the joy, nor do we underestimated the scale of the responsibility we have been given. We also are conscious that each milestone we witness is a milestone withheld from a birth parent or grandparent, or a moment that has not been shared with a forever family.

What Do Adoption, Suicidality And HIV Have In Common? The Answer Lies In Childhood Trauma

Alison Barnes | Posted 19.06.2017 | UK
Alison Barnes

Seven-year-old Ralph finds school challenging. While his classmates work intently on the maths task at hand, he fidgets, screams, pokes the child next...

Should We Adopt Embryos?

Lucy Frith | Posted 18.06.2017 | UK Parents
Lucy Frith

We are all familiar with the process of adopting children, but what about the idea of adopting embryos? There are a number of embryo adoption agencies in the US and the first, Snowflakes, began its embryo adoption programme twenty years ago.

An Election That Forgot About Children

Martin Barrow | Posted 08.06.2017 | UK Politics
Martin Barrow

Where have children been in this election? The campaign has taken many twists and turns and ultimately has become, above all, an election about security, following attacks in Manchester and London. But there has been plenty of airtime for discussion about nuclear weapons, the IRA, Brexit, immigration, care of the elderly, the NHS, education and foreign policy.

Parents' Guide To The General Election: What All The Manifestos Say About Children

The Huffington Post | Ellen Wallwork | Posted 05.06.2017 | UK Parents

With the general election looming on Thursday 8 June we’ve been bombarded with political information over the last few weeks. It can be hard to make...

Adoption - A Binary Issue

Al Coates | Posted 01.06.2017 | UK Parents
Al Coates

When I first stepped into the world of adoption I was almost evangelical in my views on the universal 'rightness' of adoption. It just made perfect sense, a simple equation.

A Book Dedicated To Foster Carers, Heroes Of The State

Martin Barrow | Posted 15.05.2017 | UK Parents
Martin Barrow

No two foster carers are the same, and no two children are identical. Hence, the need for the handbook to reflect a diversity of approaches. Our ambition is that foster carers old and new will reflect on the experiences of our contributors and reflect on how these learnings may be relevant to their own approach to foster care.

Why Photos Of These Best Friends Make One Dad Feel 'Very Emotional'

The Huffington Post | Ellen Wallwork | Posted 11.05.2017 | UK Parents

A dad-of-two has opened up about the rush of emotions he feels when looking at photos of his youngest daughter and her best friend. American journali...

When Adoption, Attachment, Autism And ADHD Collide

Laura Morrissey | Posted 05.05.2017 | UK Parents
Laura Morrissey

Eric now proudly holds many labels, non of which fully encapsulate him. The autism label helps him have 4 hours 1:1 support once a week, the ADHD gives him medication that helps to calm down his busy brain, allowing him to think before he acts - most of the time.

I Delivered A Baby Girl On My Firefighting Shift. The Next Day She Became My Daughter

Marc Hadden | Posted 11.04.2017 | UK
Marc Hadden

life less ordinary banner The doctors told me that the baby was already going to a good home but said I should talk to the birth mom and tell her of our interest in adopting the newborn. I did just that - I told her about my family, how we wanted more children and how much we would love and care for the baby girl. I then left, hopeful, and returned to work.

What To Expect When You're Expecting Adopting

Ali Russell | Posted 11.04.2017 | UK Parents
Ali Russell

In the last part of the adoption process, before we were officially matched, everything seemed to hang in the balance because nothing was official until the matching panel, where (very knowledgeable and kind) strangers would decided if we were the right match for the children we'd never met but had all ready fallen in love with.

How To Approach Adoptive Children And Parents

Jesse Toksvig-Stewart | Posted 30.03.2017 | UK Parents
Jesse Toksvig-Stewart

In that moment where you have watched a mother and child together and have not examined their relationship, or asked the obvious question, it means everything because you have seen them for what they are. A mother and daughter. Nothing more, nothing less.

10 Things I Realised When I Became a Parent

Ali Russell | Posted 27.03.2017 | UK Parents
Ali Russell

Before the children moved in, lots of parents we know told us that nothing prepares you for parenting. If I'm honest, I listened and nodded but felt slightly smug because I've worked with children for 10 years, so surely that would have prepared me.

Hurt Children Hurt - Adoption And Child On Parent Violence

Al Coates | Posted 24.03.2017 | UK Parents
Al Coates

What do you do when the injuries you experience from your child are more than accidents or the usual, though challenging, toddler tantrums? What if it is actual violence? Violence that is daily, unleashed by the slightest perceived provocation, personal and sustained, hitting and screaming, verbal and physical abuse that bruises and injures body and eventually mind?