UK Adoption

Technicolour Adoption

Al Coates | Posted 17.07.2017 | UK Parents
Al Coates

It seems like hardly a month goes by without a sensationalist headline about a white couple being denied a black baby or some internet clickbait from a worthy adopter who can see beyond the colour of their children. It's a topic than intrigues and beguiles.

This Piecemeal Review Of The Care System Is Not The Answer Children Need

Chloe Cockett | Posted 17.07.2017 | UK Politics
Chloe Cockett

Over the past six years, we have seen a piecemeal approach to reviewing different parts of the care system. It began with a focus on adoption, and the appointment of a Ministerial Adviser on Adoption. That was followed by the Narey independent review of residential care. Now we have the Fostering Stocktake - a review into foster care.

We Make Happy Summer Memories For Children In Care

Martin Barrow | Posted 16.07.2017 | UK
Martin Barrow

If I paint a particularly bleak picture of a typical summer in the world of fostering, I apologise. Yet these are some of the concerns that preoccupy the UK's 55,000 fostering families as they prepare for the end of term. This summer they will carry much of the burden of caring for society's most vulnerable children alone, with little help from their communities. I just thought you should know.

Don't Assume You Know Why We Adopted

The Huffington Post | Tamsin Kelly | Posted 14.07.2017 | UK Parents

Parents who have had birth children and then adopted explain why they felt they had room in their hearts and their homes for more children. *Names hav...

Pride And Joy Of Being A Foster Family

Martin Barrow | Posted 04.07.2017 | UK Parents
Martin Barrow

We never forget what a privilege it is, to be granted these memories and to share in the joy, nor do we underestimated the scale of the responsibility we have been given. We also are conscious that each milestone we witness is a milestone withheld from a birth parent or grandparent, or a moment that has not been shared with a forever family.

What Do Adoption, Suicidality And HIV Have In Common? The Answer Lies In Childhood Trauma

Alison Barnes | Posted 19.06.2017 | UK
Alison Barnes

Seven-year-old Ralph finds school challenging. While his classmates work intently on the maths task at hand, he fidgets, screams, pokes the child next...

Should We Adopt Embryos?

Lucy Frith | Posted 18.06.2017 | UK Parents
Lucy Frith

We are all familiar with the process of adopting children, but what about the idea of adopting embryos? There are a number of embryo adoption agencies in the US and the first, Snowflakes, began its embryo adoption programme twenty years ago.

An Election That Forgot About Children

Martin Barrow | Posted 08.06.2017 | UK Politics
Martin Barrow

Where have children been in this election? The campaign has taken many twists and turns and ultimately has become, above all, an election about security, following attacks in Manchester and London. But there has been plenty of airtime for discussion about nuclear weapons, the IRA, Brexit, immigration, care of the elderly, the NHS, education and foreign policy.

Parents' Guide To The General Election: What All The Manifestos Say About Children

The Huffington Post | Ellen Wallwork | Posted 05.06.2017 | UK Parents

With the general election looming on Thursday 8 June we’ve been bombarded with political information over the last few weeks. It can be hard to make...

Adoption - A Binary Issue

Al Coates | Posted 01.06.2017 | UK Parents
Al Coates

When I first stepped into the world of adoption I was almost evangelical in my views on the universal 'rightness' of adoption. It just made perfect sense, a simple equation.

A Book Dedicated To Foster Carers, Heroes Of The State

Martin Barrow | Posted 15.05.2017 | UK Parents
Martin Barrow

No two foster carers are the same, and no two children are identical. Hence, the need for the handbook to reflect a diversity of approaches. Our ambition is that foster carers old and new will reflect on the experiences of our contributors and reflect on how these learnings may be relevant to their own approach to foster care.

Why Photos Of These Best Friends Make One Dad Feel 'Very Emotional'

The Huffington Post | Ellen Wallwork | Posted 11.05.2017 | UK Parents

A dad-of-two has opened up about the rush of emotions he feels when looking at photos of his youngest daughter and her best friend. American journali...

When Adoption, Attachment, Autism And ADHD Collide

Laura Morrissey | Posted 05.05.2017 | UK Parents
Laura Morrissey

Eric now proudly holds many labels, non of which fully encapsulate him. The autism label helps him have 4 hours 1:1 support once a week, the ADHD gives him medication that helps to calm down his busy brain, allowing him to think before he acts - most of the time.

I Delivered A Baby Girl On My Firefighting Shift. The Next Day She Became My Daughter

Marc Hadden | Posted 11.04.2017 | UK
Marc Hadden

life less ordinary banner The doctors told me that the baby was already going to a good home but said I should talk to the birth mom and tell her of our interest in adopting the newborn. I did just that - I told her about my family, how we wanted more children and how much we would love and care for the baby girl. I then left, hopeful, and returned to work.

What To Expect When You're Expecting Adopting

Ali Russell | Posted 11.04.2017 | UK Parents
Ali Russell

In the last part of the adoption process, before we were officially matched, everything seemed to hang in the balance because nothing was official until the matching panel, where (very knowledgeable and kind) strangers would decided if we were the right match for the children we'd never met but had all ready fallen in love with.

How To Approach Adoptive Children And Parents

Jesse Toksvig-Stewart | Posted 30.03.2017 | UK Parents
Jesse Toksvig-Stewart

In that moment where you have watched a mother and child together and have not examined their relationship, or asked the obvious question, it means everything because you have seen them for what they are. A mother and daughter. Nothing more, nothing less.

10 Things I Realised When I Became a Parent

Ali Russell | Posted 27.03.2017 | UK Parents
Ali Russell

Before the children moved in, lots of parents we know told us that nothing prepares you for parenting. If I'm honest, I listened and nodded but felt slightly smug because I've worked with children for 10 years, so surely that would have prepared me.

Hurt Children Hurt - Adoption And Child On Parent Violence

Al Coates | Posted 24.03.2017 | UK Parents
Al Coates

What do you do when the injuries you experience from your child are more than accidents or the usual, though challenging, toddler tantrums? What if it is actual violence? Violence that is daily, unleashed by the slightest perceived provocation, personal and sustained, hitting and screaming, verbal and physical abuse that bruises and injures body and eventually mind?

Developing A Connected Relationship With Your Child

Sarah Fisher | Posted 21.03.2017 | UK Parents
Sarah Fisher

I have spent hours developing a connection with my son since he moved in and becoming a parent he knows he can trust, which as an adopted child he hasn't had before. It's not perfect but we are definitely further along our path than when we started. I'm single and there's only the two of us, so it does make life a bit easier.

Crufts Continues To Be The 'Worst In Show' For Dogs

Mimi Bekhechi | Posted 13.03.2017 | UK
Mimi Bekhechi

Imagine a show based on ruthless competition in which entirely unnatural physical features were prized above all else and incestuous relationships, allegations of poisoning rivals, and other unscrupulous behaviour abound. It sounds like a salacious soap opera, right? Except it's not. All of these things are part of the saddest reality show on TV: Crufts.

Adoption, I'm Sorry It's Not Like The Movies

Al Coates | Posted 10.03.2017 | UK Parents
Al Coates

You've probably seen Annie or Oliver so you know about adoption? The tear stained lovable but unloved child that overcomes adversity to make good with some benevolent and well healed adoptive parents.

LGBT Adoption And Fostering Week 2017

Javed Khan | Posted 09.03.2017 | UK
Javed Khan

One of the best things about my job is knowing how Barnardo's transforms the lives of vulnerable children on a daily basis. For me, that's about belie...

Moana Did Not Win An Oscar, But It Won Our Hearts

Jesse Toksvig-Stewart | Posted 03.03.2017 | UK Entertainment
Jesse Toksvig-Stewart

I have to admit I was a little bit gutted when Moana lost out to best animation feature and best song at the Oscars. The inner Disney in me was all fired up, and I realised that it was not just because of the fantastic songs I had been humming for weeks. Moana was a new kind of character to the ones my sister had seen on screen before

Pride And Joy: How I Changed My Mind About Becoming An LGBT Parent

Sarah Hagger-Holt | Posted 20.02.2017 | UK Parents
Sarah Hagger-Holt

Rachel and a long-standing gay male friend had joked for years about becoming parents together. Eventually, we plucked up our courage and asked him and his partner whether they'd consider embarking on parenthood with us - not as a joke, but for real.

Madonna Shares First Video Of Adopted Twin Daughters Singing 'Twinkle, Twinkle'

The Huffington Post | Amy Packham | Posted 20.02.2017 | UK Parents

Madonna has shared the first video of her newly-adopted twins singing along to a well-known nursery rhyme. The 58-year-old, who confirmed she had adop...