UK Adoption

#SupportAdoption: What That's Meant For This Family

Helen Redfern | Posted 16.10.2017 | UK Parents
Helen Redfern

As an adoptive parent, you have to be thick-skinned and strong for your kids: a veritable love warrior. You have to fight to keep their self-esteem and sense of identity intact. You have to support adoption, be an advocate for adoption. You have to tell your kids a different story to the story the world is telling them - in a louder, more confident voice that drowns out all the negative voices.

My Advice To Parents Thinking About Adopting A Child With Foetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder

Martin Butcher | Posted 16.10.2017 | UK Parents
Martin Butcher

Adopting a child with a Foetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder is life changing, no doubt about it. But so is adopting any child. When I was adopted back in the 1960s it changed my parents' lives. They drove me home through some of the biggest snowdrifts of the 20th century, stopping to feed me in the back of the car and realising they had little idea what to do. They managed.

This Girl's Reaction To Finding Out She Is Going To Be Adopted Will Have You In Tears

The Huffington Post | Amy Packham | Posted 11.10.2017 | UK Parents

The moment an 11-year-old foster child found out she was going to be adopted was caught on camera, and it’ll have you blubbing. Teacher Jackie Alex...

Adoption Recruitment

Al Coates | Posted 09.10.2017 | UK Parents
Al Coates

October rolls around again and National Adoption Week creeps into my calendar, faces of happy adopters and lovable ragamuffins looking for a mum and dad appear in the media. I'm pausing as I write, the temptation is to fall words about truth and lies in recruitment but that's an easy cynicism that has no nuance.

Foster Care Cuts Across Race And Religion When Child Protection Is The Highest Priority

Martin Barrow | Posted 02.10.2017 | UK Parents
Martin Barrow

What business does a white family have caring for black children, or a Muslim family caring for a white girl? And maybe you are right. There are many families out there who are better suited than us. Yet when the call came, on a bleak November evening, we were the ones who opened our door to three children who were tired, cold and frightened. We provided warm baths and towels, hot chocolate and cookies, a bedtime story, a warm bed. We dried tears, and held little hands until sleep finally came. And we set three extra places for breakfast, in silence as we tried to understand the scale of the challenge we had just accepted.

Is Your Child Violent Towards You? This Dad Wants You to Know You're Not Alone

The Huffington Post | Ellen Wallwork | Posted 29.09.2017 | UK Parents

A dad has shared his experience of being physically hurt by his son, to let other parents know that being subjected to violence from their children is...

Adoptive Families In Crisis: A Letter From Me To You

Helen Redfern | Posted 27.09.2017 | UK Parents
Helen Redfern

However, don't read this letter expecting strategies and answers and solutions. I'm so sorry. I don't have any. There is no quick fix. If there were, we would all be doing it right now, wouldn't we? However hard it was, we would do whatever it took, because what we want most of all is for our child to stop hurting, for our child to be whole, for our child to allow us to love him and care for him and bring him safely to adulthood.

Adoption, Violence And Foetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder

Sandra Butcher | Posted 26.09.2017 | UK
Sandra Butcher

To anyone who has adopted or is close to networks supporting those with adopted children, there is sadly no surprise at these figures. Adoptive families across the UK are feeling relieved that their struggles are being noticed.

The Adoption Contract

Al Coates | Posted 22.09.2017 | UK Parents
Al Coates

Adoptees now live in a world that is connected like never before through social media. The time and effort that tracing family members created a buffer and time to think and reflect. Now, connections can be made with the tap of the finger in seconds in an impulse. Many children are looking to join the dots of their lives and be connected to some of the key people in their life stories.

Mum Discusses 'Heartbreaking Realities' Of Adopting 2-Year-Old From China

The Huffington Post | Amy Packham | Posted 22.09.2017 | UK Parents

A mum has opened up about the “heartbreaking realities” of adopting a two-year-old child from China. Elsie Larson, from Nashville, US, and her hus...

What Parents Of Alternative Families Want You To Know

The Huffington Post | Tamsin Kelly | Posted 15.09.2017 | UK Parents

Next week is Alternative Family Week. ‘Alternative’ encompasses so many different family set-ups. Most people’s perception would be a family wit...

The Day I Failed As A Mother

Helen Redfern | Posted 10.09.2017 | UK Parents
Helen Redfern

When a sleeping eight-month-old child is brought into your home in a car seat and placed on the floor in front of you for you to look after, it's different. This precious curly haired little girl with a chocolate-stained white satin summer dress on in the middle of winter is in the Looked After Child system. She has been brought to you to look after because you've been judged suitable to care for her needs.

Yes, I'm Adopted, Now Please Stop Asking Me Questions

Tia Bradley | Posted 07.09.2017 | UK Universities & Education
Tia Bradley

Yes, I am adopted. Yes, it's had a huge impact on my life. But, I also love Harry Potter, writing and buying way too many clothes. I make the best cup of tea you'll ever drink and I tweet too much. My adoption doesn't define me. So, let's talk about who I am instead of what I've been through.

Sad Eyes

Ali Russell | Posted 10.08.2017 | UK Parents
Ali Russell

Yesterday it seemed his mission to upset his sister. When I asked him why, he said she wasn't upset that they'd moved rooms and he was angry, he wanted her to be sad too! I think this is pretty advanced for a 5yo. Match that with early trauma, his little mind probably doesn't know what to do with itself.

These Parents Surprised Their Daughters with Their Newly-Adopted Baby Sister

The Huffington Post | Amy Packham | Posted 03.08.2017 | UK Parents

A couple decided to surprise their two daughters with their newly-adopted baby sister, after the process happened quicker than they expected. Kasi and...

Technicolour Adoption

Al Coates | Posted 17.07.2017 | UK Parents
Al Coates

It seems like hardly a month goes by without a sensationalist headline about a white couple being denied a black baby or some internet clickbait from a worthy adopter who can see beyond the colour of their children. It's a topic than intrigues and beguiles.

This Piecemeal Review Of The Care System Is Not The Answer Children Need

Chloe Cockett | Posted 17.07.2017 | UK Politics
Chloe Cockett

Over the past six years, we have seen a piecemeal approach to reviewing different parts of the care system. It began with a focus on adoption, and the appointment of a Ministerial Adviser on Adoption. That was followed by the Narey independent review of residential care. Now we have the Fostering Stocktake - a review into foster care.

We Make Happy Summer Memories For Children In Care

Martin Barrow | Posted 16.07.2017 | UK
Martin Barrow

If I paint a particularly bleak picture of a typical summer in the world of fostering, I apologise. Yet these are some of the concerns that preoccupy the UK's 55,000 fostering families as they prepare for the end of term. This summer they will carry much of the burden of caring for society's most vulnerable children alone, with little help from their communities. I just thought you should know.

Don't Assume You Know Why We Adopted

The Huffington Post | Tamsin Kelly | Posted 14.07.2017 | UK Parents

Parents who have had birth children and then adopted explain why they felt they had room in their hearts and their homes for more children. *Names hav...

Pride And Joy Of Being A Foster Family

Martin Barrow | Posted 04.07.2017 | UK Parents
Martin Barrow

We never forget what a privilege it is, to be granted these memories and to share in the joy, nor do we underestimated the scale of the responsibility we have been given. We also are conscious that each milestone we witness is a milestone withheld from a birth parent or grandparent, or a moment that has not been shared with a forever family.

What Do Adoption, Suicidality And HIV Have In Common? The Answer Lies In Childhood Trauma

Alison Barnes | Posted 19.06.2017 | UK
Alison Barnes

Seven-year-old Ralph finds school challenging. While his classmates work intently on the maths task at hand, he fidgets, screams, pokes the child next...

Should We Adopt Embryos?

Lucy Frith | Posted 18.06.2017 | UK Parents
Lucy Frith

We are all familiar with the process of adopting children, but what about the idea of adopting embryos? There are a number of embryo adoption agencies in the US and the first, Snowflakes, began its embryo adoption programme twenty years ago.

An Election That Forgot About Children

Martin Barrow | Posted 08.06.2017 | UK Politics
Martin Barrow

Where have children been in this election? The campaign has taken many twists and turns and ultimately has become, above all, an election about security, following attacks in Manchester and London. But there has been plenty of airtime for discussion about nuclear weapons, the IRA, Brexit, immigration, care of the elderly, the NHS, education and foreign policy.

Parents' Guide To The General Election: What All The Manifestos Say About Children

The Huffington Post | Ellen Wallwork | Posted 05.06.2017 | UK Parents

With the general election looming on Thursday 8 June we’ve been bombarded with political information over the last few weeks. It can be hard to make...

Adoption - A Binary Issue

Al Coates | Posted 01.06.2017 | UK Parents
Al Coates

When I first stepped into the world of adoption I was almost evangelical in my views on the universal 'rightness' of adoption. It just made perfect sense, a simple equation.