UK Adoption

Surrogacy Defined

Candace Wohl | Posted 28.03.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Candace Wohl

Whether you deem it as a social family building trend or simply the scientific ability to navigate around Mother Nature, "traditional" surrogacy is not a new concept. As a matter of fact, it is the only form of assisted reproduction that dates back to biblical times. The story of Abraham and Sarah in Genesis chapter 16, is the most notable example.

Speed-Dating for Toddlers: A Solution to Britain's Adoption Crisis?

Ben Acheson | Posted 25.03.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Ben Acheson

In an ideal world, nobody would need to be adopted, but this is not an ideal world. Adoption parties cannot prevent a child being taken into care, but they can help take them out of care. They give 'hard-to-place' children a greater chance of placement. They tackle some endemic problems in the adoption process.

Launching Barnardo's 'Someone to Care' Report

Bruce Oldfield | Posted 05.03.2014 | UK
Bruce Oldfield

Young people leaving care are one of the most vulnerable groups in society, more likely to become homeless, be unemployed and spend time in prison. Some will have been subject to abuse or neglect, and as vulnerable young adults they are likely to need someone to turn to, even after they have turned 18. It is time to end the misery of living alone too young for vulnerable youngsters, by giving every child in care the chance to 'stay put' until they're 21 - not just those in foster care.

The Power of Popular History

Alex Davis | Posted 23.04.2014 | UK Universities & Education
Alex Davis

Though examples of popular history range from magazines such as History Today right through to the work of the National Trust, it is the film industry that has recently encapsulated the imaginations of thousands of ordinary people.

Roses Are Red, Violets Are Blue, Adoptees' Worst Fear Will Likely Come True

Ben Acheson | Posted 15.04.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Ben Acheson

What if Valentine's Day, or relationships in general, were a stark reminder of the most painful and distressing events that you ever experienced? What if they triggered a trauma so terrifically challenging that it forever altered your approach to life? Welcome to Valentine's Day, and relationships, for adoptees.

What Makes a Homophobe? Ireland's Debate Goes Global

Peter McGuire | Posted 12.04.2014 | UK
Peter McGuire

Those who devote their energies to stopping same-sex marriage may very well be motivated by a genuine, albeit misplaced, fear over child welfare. If child welfare really is such a concern, perhaps they should review the evidence and direct just a fraction of their energy towards creating a more equal society...

Six Tips to Rekindle Your Romance While Trying to Conceive

Candace Wohl | Posted 07.04.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Candace Wohl

What happens when the wick of that romance candle burns out and 3 months of you trying to conceive had long passed 2 years ago? By this point you are probably seeking out treatments. Instead of having a date night you are planning your life around your monthly cycle and your date night funds are all but gone from the costs of medical bills from clinics and pharmacies rolling in.

How Maternal Narcissism Grinds Self-Confidence into Dust

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 23.03.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

For someone adopted who has already been abandoned, the fear of abandonment is a real and present danger. With a narcissistic mother, the abandonment actually occurs, again and again and again, reinforcing the truth that you are unloveable unless you meet the standards set out for you. And even then...

Establishing the 'Hard Truths' About Our Children's Homes

Jonathan Stanley | Posted 09.03.2014 | UK Politics
Jonathan Stanley

The Chancellor George Osborne says that 2014 is the year of hard truths. We agree. It is time for hard truths about children's homes. It's time the Government, as Osborne said about Labour and economic strategy, 'was straight with people' about children's homes.

How to Survive Infertility Through the Holidays

Candace Wohl | Posted 19.02.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Candace Wohl

No matter what holiday you are celebrating this time of year albeit Christmas, Festivus, Kwanza, Hanukkah, and any others I may have missed, this is the time of year where family gathers. Traditions are made and repeated. Tis' all about the kids this season. Kids, yes the one thing missing out of 1 in 8 couples lives.

Ensuring All Children's Homes Are Places Where Young People Feel Safe, Supported and Cared For

Jonathan Stanley | Posted 18.02.2014 | UK Politics
Jonathan Stanley

The right place at the right time for the right child. If we are to do this we need to do many things differently than we do now. Currently no children's home can feel safe secure and cared for because of the many pressures, especially those concerning finance and regulation, that are being applied to them.

Genetic Sexual Attraction: What Is Reuniting Igniting?

Ben Acheson | Posted 11.02.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Ben Acheson

Incest; is there anything more shudderingly repulsive? The internet may have desensitised us to many formerly unspeakable acts, but sexual relations between family members are still morally repugnant and utterly disturbing... Or are they?

The Changing Face of the Adoption Process

Gemma Gordon-Johnson | Posted 25.01.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Gemma Gordon-Johnson

There's no doubt that adopting a child in England is becoming easier and quicker. Almost everyone I speak to tells me about someone they know who has had a horrendous experience of adopting years ago - whether it was the agonisingly slow process to be approved as an adopter, or the lack of support after they actually managed to adopt.

Lack of Maternal Love - a Driver for Polyamory?

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 25.01.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

Though I continue to believe, seven years on, that multi-partner relationships are a healthier and happier choice for me, my family and my partners, I have no problem admitting that at least one catalyst for my inclination was a painful formative experience.

Things NOT to Say to Couples That Adopt

Candace Wohl | Posted 23.01.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Candace Wohl

We attempted everything under the sun to get pregnant and, although we are currently working with a surrogate, we got elbow, neck and knee deep in to the adoption process before that opportunity presented itself. When we made our announcement that we were adopting, we were shocked by the misconceptions people have about adoption.

'Gay' Is Just an Adjective

Ben Acheson | Posted 23.01.2014 | UK Politics
Ben Acheson

Anyone who grasps the issues knows that the adopters are not (normally) the cause of the child's trauma. The most devastating trauma stems from the splitting of parent and child. Adoptees are afflicted by separation trauma. There is no such thing as 'given-to-gays' trauma.

Support for Care Leavers Must Remain a Priority

Bruce Oldfield | Posted 23.01.2014 | UK
Bruce Oldfield

Young people leaving care are one of the most vulnerable groups in society, more likely to become homeless, be unemployed and spend time in prison. Some will have been subject to abuse or neglect, and as vulnerable young adults they are likely to need someone to turn to, even after they have turned 18.

Government Fund for Adopters - Commendable or Glaringly Inadequate?

Ben Acheson | Posted 30.11.2013 | UK Politics
Ben Acheson

Abuse and neglect have obvious emotional, physical and psychological costs. The monetary impact is more challenging to analyse and anyone who does so risks vitriolic accusations of being as cold, insentient and azoic as the calculator used to make their estimates.

The Three-P's of Infertility

Candace Wohl | Posted 15.11.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Candace Wohl

Talk about challenging your mentally stability. The love that 6 years worth of this infertile life has for our future child is insurmountable. I put my body, mind and financial future through infertility hell just for the chance to have a baby.

What Adoption Stories Really Tell Us

Hilary Robinson | Posted 29.10.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Hilary Robinson

Help A Hamster is a reminder and a celebration of the human condition - that while attitudes and circumstances may change, kindness and respect towards others always seems to remain a constant in an ever changing pressured world.

What Not to Say When They Are Not Expecting

Candace Wohl | Posted 19.10.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Candace Wohl

What do you say to someone who is suffering through infertility? We'll we can certainly share with you what not to say. Over the years we have pretty much heard it all. Being on the receiving end makes you feel very exposed, sad, somehow less human. It was like we just admitted that we lost the primal ability to procreate, or procreate easily anyway.

Infertile Us

Candace Wohl | Posted 09.10.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Candace Wohl

During our last final bite at the IVF apple we let the world into our bedroom. OK, get your mind out of the gutter. We allowed MTV to film us for a year to document our infertility journey on the Emmy award winning series "True Life". Our show was "I'm Desperate to have a Baby". Not the most flattering of titles but also not entirely inaccurate either. We ARE desperate to have a baby.

Dirty Little Secrets? Children Conceived in Rape

Ben Acheson | Posted 23.07.2013 | UK Politics
Ben Acheson

When a 14 year old Irish girl was raped and became pregnant in 1992, nobody knew that the shockwaves would still be rippling 20 years later. This week, the 'Protection of Life during Pregnancy Bill' is navigating the Irish Parliament. If successful, abortion, where there is a real and substantial risk to the life of the mother, may soon be legalised in Ireland.

Adoptees: Lucky Escape or Forgotten Victims?

Ben Acheson | Posted 03.06.2013 | UK Politics
Ben Acheson

Adoption is widely regarded as a perfect arrangement for all parties and whilst it does generally benefit everyone involved, it is naive, one-dimensional and even dangerous to assume that it is a purely positive event without repercussions.

UK Adoption Reform: The Dangers of Repeating Australia's Shame

Cathy Ashley | Posted 25.05.2013 | UK Politics
Cathy Ashley

The UK government is pushing ahead full steam with Clause 1 of the Children and Families Bill. If implemented it could result in some children being placed with potential adopters despite there having been no court proceedings, no court decision that the child should be permanently removed from their parents and no legal advice given to the parents.