Toby Maguire is the Stress Management trainer at The Body Holiday, St Lucia, where he has been working for 3 years. Before joining the renowned wellbeing resort he spent 12 years in Thailand where he set up his own hotel and spa training company whilst working as a stress management consultant, meditation instructor, life coach and holistic practitioner at health and wellness resorts.
Our lifestyles often mean we have no reserves of energy to draw on if something happens and we find ourselves in crises. Many of us work flat out for years without taking a break. Our bodies are used to short bouts of effort and stress, but we are simply not designed for it to go on for years. We have to find what makes us happy and add it into our lives now for optimum health.
Dear Penny and Jim, I'm writing to thank you for having me on The Breakfast Show on BBC London last Thursday. I don't know if you remember me; you were running a news piece about the tragic death of Tallulah Wilson, a girl who suffered from an eating disorder and subsequently killed herself in late 2012...
Language is very important and as we can see, getting it right can in some cases be a matter of life or death. And while I understand big companies need to chase people who do not pay their bills, they need to be accurate in the way they communicate with customers.
'Bulimic' spenders -purchase only to rush back to the shops, guilt-stricken to return what they've bought, once they realise they can't afford it or that it's not actually going to give them the lifestyle they want. Although their 'reverse shopping' habit keeps their finances under control they expose themselves to high stress levels and feelings of self-loathing.
Often when growing up many of us were shamed for not being perfect, criticised harshly for not getting things right first time, even mocked or ridiculed, emotionally or physically abused, or ignored. If any of that resonates with you, the chances are fairly high that unless you have re-framed all of the punishing lessons you learned as a child you will have low self -esteem.
The problem is modern day stimuli like alcohol, drugs, stress, sleep deprivation actually impair this sensitive part of the brain to the extent where it mimics actual brain damage, albeit temporary. This can impair our ability to think rationally and make the correct decisions to reach our long term goals.
I love to do my practice but I've managed to break free of that 'must do' mentality as it was driving me round the bloody bend. It was turning good stuff into bad stuff and what was practised to alleviate/manage the suffering actually became a part of the suffering. So some weeks, I'm a six day kind of guy and on others maybe one or two as I've got to do what's appropriate there and then.
Although, thankfully, this winter has not been as cold as the last, the nights are still long and and days dreary. Many of us are prone to reduced energy levels, lower mood and increased depression and anxiety during the winter months.
There have been many studies that show that people perform best, are happiest at work when they feel good. At Mindvalley they focus on the strength of your social support - they say that it depends on the people you have around you, that support you, that make you happy.
A lie, however, will always linger. It travels with you and the person you lied to. A lie comes back to stare you in the face at unexpected moments, creating another lie and another lie...
I'm sure you have heard people say: 'I feel it in my stomach' 'I always go with my Gut'. You might even say that yourself. But logically we still like to believe the best decisions come from the logical brain, but did you know you have two other brains and one of them, is in your gut!
Relationship anxiety is very destructive, as you know. If you don't learn how to get rid of anxiety in your relationship, it leads into a very devastating downward spiral.
I have never met Alastair Campbell, Tony Blair's former spin doctor, but I could not help but sit up and take notice when he said publicly that he is back on anti-depressants to help him fight his mental illness.
How many of these questions about your children's schooling can you actually answer positively to? Is the current education system robbing you, your children and the world, of a generation of rounded, sociable, caring, intelligent, grown-ups?
It sounds obvious, but maybe you were a child who picked at scabs. You know you shouldn't spend time with those individuals who deplete your energy and leave you feeling guilt ridden - so stop doing it! Chose your friendships wisely and mix with those of a sunny disposition.