If you've ever suffered from a panic attack, the first and most important thing is to not be embarrassed, it is absolutely not your fault. The body's natural response to a stressful or dangerous situation is flight, fight and freeze, and it's not something you can always control.
When someone takes their own life, whether it be a friend, a family member, a total stranger, or a celebrity, we wish we could have known, that we could have helped find a solution to their problems somehow. Every time I heard the announcement at the railway station, that another life's light had been put out, I desperately wished I could have been at that person's front door...
It's important to note that stress isn't something that you should face alone, if you have been, then now is the time to open up, stress is something that reaches out to all of those in your life, as they play as much of a role as you do in ensuring that you are able to reduce stress.
Eating disorders carry the highest mortality rate of all mental illness, with 1 in 5 sufferers dying from complications associated with their illness, or through suicide. Every life lost to an eating disorder is 1 too many; especially when it could have been prevented.
During my life I have discovered that emotional abuse came from several directions. It came from my first husband who, for years, told me that I was not clever, no use at ironing his shirts, not like his mother, not good enough to be part of his family..... and so on, and on he went.
For years, I've been inching to get to the bottom of male suicide - not just an American thing or a British thing, but a problem worldwide. Statistically in the US and UK, men above 50 years of age have a high rate of suicide- roughly 75% of suicides in both the US and UK are male and worldwide there is an average of one suicide per 40 seconds.
I began to feel the worry as a physical sensation - it would start as a warning prickle in the top of my head and then spread like fire until it extended all across my scalp. This, I supposed, was a panic attack - but there was little I could do to stop it. As time went on, anxiety morphed into paranoia - the attacks happened more and more frequently, and the fear of them happening became all-encompassing, almost as bad as the symptoms themselves.
But people who were raised by a narcissistic Mother are depleted of these traits and, as adults, are left with a legacy of difficulties which manifest themselves in all areas of life but particularly in relationships.
To know oneself is both a pain and a pleasure. Often the pain is going through the journey of discovery. The pleasure is finally discovering what you are here to do - your purpose. By knowing our purpose, we can establish what we are in the world to do.
"We promise we'll have her back within the hour." Said my mother in law. My daughter was 6 weeks old. And my parents in law had come over from Sweden to see their son's first child and to give us some relief. But I couldn't let her out of my sight for that long.
My sessions of talk therapy back at university helped my story telling. Every week, I'd walk through one of the colleges, past the restaurant where students were sitting and laughing with each other, past the duck pond where the college cat was watching hungrily from behind the bushes, to a door tucked away behind a wall -- Counselling.
Think for a moment about stress in general - stress is a naturally occurring state that increases alertness. This state is only meant to be temporary; unfortunately many people live within it constantly through synthetic highs - such as caffeine, nicotine, alcohol, energy drinks and many more stimulants.
Forget the 'mental' and just think 'illness'. I was ill, seriously ill, three times in my life. I was in hospital for three months on each occasion and took a long while afterwards to convalesce. But now I have been well for many years. I do not take medication. I am capable and active - I am married, with four wonderful children, a career and a happy, fulfilling life. Ergo, I am better.
What is a dysfunctional family? Well, there is a huge span when it comes to the term 'dysfunctional'. It ranges from mildly dysfunctional to completely nuts. There is really no guide when it comes to determining how dysfunctional a family is but, for the purposes of this article, we are leaning towards the 'completely nuts' end of the spectrum.
Four years ago I became an app maker. It began with a conversation between me and another mother round a kitchen table. What had happened to the art of learning poems by heart? We came up with an idea for a children's poetry app which would equip the digitally-native generation with a store of verse.
Choice is ruining our lives, taking up precious moments. 99% of our lives are taken up by deciding. Supermarkets had 1000 products for the last generation to choose from, and now there are 40,000 of them. We need to ignore 39,850 items. We suffer from decision overload, we have a limit and then we hit neural fatigue.