Whether we intend to or not, we form judgements about people almost immediately, to decide if they are 'friend' or 'foe' - whether we are safe in the company of someone like us, or whether we should be more alert to a potential threat. This is an instinctive reaction which, many generations ago helped our ancestors to survive.
If you feel your confidence is in need of support, then this week I share ten of my recommended confidence boosters. Use these in both your personal and professional life to crank up your confidence for the long haul. The wonderful news is that every single one of us can be massively confident, so long as we take action to build it.
Confidence is a funny thing, you either have it or you don't. Except that isn't quite true- as you may have it in one area but not in another. You may excel in one area and come across as the most confident person in the world, and yet when you find yourself in another situation you can be reduced to a bag of nerves, legs turning to jelly!
We have created a self-esteem vicious circle. Schools don't nurture hobbies and passions that make teens feel worthwhile when their natural confidence is plummeting. It is these very activities - and not just hardcore sport, chess, golf, zumba, violin, that construct enduring self-belief. Instead they are ditched for instagram, selfies and thigh gap comparisons.
I'm often asked to write, or give talks at conferences or on cider-soaked park benches, about women and work. Women who write, women in business, women going back to work after having a baby, women deciding not to go back to work after having a baby, juggling motherhood and work, the work-life imbalance and so on.