Most couples have rows. Even therapists who know a lot about relationship dynamics row with their partners (yes that includes me!) But if you feel you're always rowing, you spend a lot of time feeling resentful, or you never really make up following a row, then here are few ideas that might help you.
Don't Forget to Be a Good Friend. Marriage is first and foremost a friendship between two people. If you want your marriage to last it's important to make sure you show up, be interested, put the time and effort into it and don't take it for granted. Remember that the adage "Treat you family like friends and your friends like family" is actually true.
Most people know it's possible to bag cut-price travel bargains if you wait until the last minute, but you can also make considerable savings by taking advantage of early booking discounts. It's better for your peace of mind and gives you plenty of time to look forward to your trip, savouring the delicious expectation of getting away.
Have you ever dreamed of eloping and getting married in secret? If all the performance of a big wedding at home has no appeal, take a look at these 10 amazing places overseas where just the two of you can tie the knot. You'll have no worries about who to invite, seating plans, flower girls and so on. Just you, the love of your life and a fabulous setting...
Living our lives we run into, work with and connect with so many people and sometimes, if we are real lucky, we make a true friend... Which brings me to my question. What is a true friend? Is there anyone in our life that we can call a true friend? As we get older it gets harder to make new friends. When we are young we have so much more time to make friends than we do as adults.
Often, we don't even realise what's at the bottom of our partner's sudden outburst, tears, anger or other strong emotional reaction - we think it's because of xyz issue (not washing the dishes, flirting, going out with mates too often...). Whereas, in reality those buttons relate to fear of abandonment, rejection, intimacy or being unlovable - part of our individual life story.
Couples are frequently talking about entirely different events while discussing the same event. Or they will identify qualities within a person like "She was so angry with me" and as I was sitting right there I could see that it was not happening that way. Allowing for my own warped sense of reality I am often amazed at those inconsistencies within an interaction between seemingly rational people.
While men seem to enjoy the excitement that a truly spontaneous gesture brings, women would much rather have a few hints dropped and prepare themselves for the moment - take heed for this thought guys, you can keep it a surprise but a little hint by email or text to show you have something special in mind will go a long way!