For many, the initial months following a separation or divorce are some of the most painful and difficult they will experience. When you add children to the equation, it can be difficult to cope with day-to-day life, let alone the enormous task of orchestrating shared childcare arrangements...
"It's my exes turn to have the children for Christmas this year and it's all I can think about. It makes me so sad to think that I won't share Christmas Day with my kids, they are what Christmas is all about. What can I do?"
Sometimes we do not know how much a decision will impact us until it is done. This is the case for me, and my divorce. It has undoubtedly changed my life, and me. But I am not here to retell the horror of divorce. Instead, I would like to share 5 important lessons I have learnt after divorce.
Whichever process is chosen it is a requirement in financial matters for both parties to make a full and frank disclosure of their capital and income. If either party is concerned that this will obligation will not be met voluntary then a non-court based option is not suitable.
Historically, over 60s have always been far less likely to divorce than the rest of the population. But trends are changing and the first decade of the twentieth century has heralded a rising number of over-60s separating - often after years of marriage.
In an ideal world, children would like their parents to live happily ever after together, but for a growing number of families, that fairytale is not a reality. The fact that a child's mum and dad are not together can be particularly upsetting for a child at Christmas time...
Breaking up used to be easy. A big argument, a few weeks of heartbreak - but essentially a clean break and a swift recovery. Nowadays, not so much. Regardless of whether you actually speak to an ex or not, the temptation to 'check in' on them is always there.
The journalist India Knight has been busy plugging her new book In Her Prime: Older, Wiser, Happier... All harmless enough, until she chose to reveal her rather naive views on infidelity on Woman's Hour. "Affairs? So what?" she glibly pronounced. "So a lot", shouted every listener who has ever known the pain of betrayal.
Last week, during the course of a very complex divorce case, a wife was regaling stories of how her expectations of her marriage had fallen very short...
The Vatican synod treating of 'Pastoral Challenges of the Family in the Context of Evangelization' has now come and gone. Recommendations by variou...
Whatever the trigger for a couple taking such a step, divorce is never an easy or pleasant experience. But there are approaches which can make it more straightforward and somewhat less personally taxing, particularly if there are children involved.
Feminism and the fight for women's equality rights has never backfired as much as during the last decade. Where men demand from women to be what they want, i.e. equal. And rightly so.
Until this point you might have had a ready-made social life. You may have been a couple hanging out with other couples. Suddenly that social scene turns upside down. You might feel that you don't 'fit in' so well, as the talk still revolves around what to do as a pair. You may feel ready to re-assess your life and decide what route you alone would like to take.
My husband isn't my best mate - I already have one, and had one long before we met. I'm not going to ask him for dress advice (he's a punk rocker and until I shave my head we'll probably never see eye to eye), and I understand that when I'm sick, although he'll do his best to look after me, it won't be the same as a cuddle from my mum.
Whatever conclusions we draw of the other woman it is not where our focus needs to be. It's a fruitless and painful exercise with no positive outcome. What has happened is already done. We have to hold our heads high and realise that we have a life to live.
I don't know why this is. I don't know why divorce still ends up defining who you are while in reality it's a journey, an experience you have been through - it's not you, it's something that happened. Just like being laid off is something that you once went through at some point in your life.