Making the transition after family breakdown from parenting-together to parenting-apart is tough. But parents who can work together after separation are 80% more likely to reduce the impact of the separation on their children, helping them maintain a relationship with both parents.
The first working day of January is even nicknamed D-Day: Divorce Day. The day when couples who fought over where to hang the holly jostle their way to the front of the solicitors queue. But is there any truth to this? Or is it merely the equivalent of the divorce lawyers January sales?
She was completely overwhelmed with sadness and an acute sense of loss. She had a high flying career and was angry at herself for falling apart yet she had no control over the crying or the obsessing over what she might have done wrong.
It's no surprise that many couples fall out during the festive season: the longed-for break from work can suddenly feel like being under house arrest, minor issues become magnified, too much booze leads to loosened tongues which can lead to rows...
Most people who get married plan their wedding very carefully, plotting out every last detail from seating plans to thank you cards. Few of us plan for these relationships to end, yet sadly, 42% of marriages, and a significant proportion of cohabiting relationships, break down.
Most people have seen the spectacular fall-out from divorce cases between one impossibly-wealthy person and another, normally with the upshot that one tries to wring as much out of the other as their lawyers can muster. All of which makes for great headlines, but it's not usually an accurate reflection of most divorce settlements.
A soul group is simply a collection of people who gravitate and travel through life - or part of life - together. They could be from completely different histories, social backgrounds, age groups and interests, who happen to meet under the most extraordinary or the most nondescript circumstances.
It is therefore likely that it is only those couples who did not use a lawyer to reach a financial settlement on divorce and who relied on the auto-correct function of the Ministry of Justice software who have cause for concern, and the number of cases affected will be significantly lower than the numbers being bandied around within the press.
What is remarkable is the number of divorce cases which get started after Christmas - for whatever reason, early January is the time when lots of people decide to get started down the path they've probably been considering for a long time.
The latest statistics show that the UK divorce rate has fallen by almost 3% between 2012 and 2013. The study shows that couples married after 2000 are less likely to get divorced than their parents.
The reality is that life goes on and if your ex chose to end your relationship then they are not the person you hoped they were. It's better to find out now rather than later. Sometimes good things come to an end so better things can come together so it's not all doom and gloom.
The fact is, people treat you differently when you're married. And not in a good way. I was baffled when, at the age of twenty-six, people my age asked me where my husband was on a night out. As if we were a fused being. They asked if he was messy, like cleaning was now my job.
Single parenting brings a flexibility which allows going to the cinema on the spur of the moment or indulging in an impromptu picnic. I do not have to check with the other parent or plan events far in advance.
Families with kids will have their term time routine thrown into chaos as the children are off school for 6-8 weeks at a time. Partners often have different expectations of holiday time. I often hear that mum's need a break from the children and Dad's need a break from work. So arguments arise when nobody wants to do the mundane housework or entertain the kids all day long.
The government is currently attempting to get more couples to use mediation by making mediation information meetings (MIAMs) compulsory before beginning court proceedings. They are also offering a complimentary mediation session to couples where one spouse qualifies for legal aid.
I think we have all had this dilemma. Who do we stay friends with after a couple divorces or separates? Hopefully you can stay friends with both parties, but that can be difficult as we are often dealing with human emotions and judgemental attitudes.