It's by no means a finite process. But adapting an approach to suit each mum - as far as is possible - can pay dividends for the business too. No doubt, with the joy of the next pregnancy announcement will come another new mum, with a new set of expectations, fears, challenges; and another opportunity to find an even better way.
In the last part of the adoption process, before we were officially matched, everything seemed to hang in the balance because nothing was official until the matching panel, where (very knowledgeable and kind) strangers would decided if we were the right match for the children we'd never met but had all ready fallen in love with.
What the hell is that? Scientists ask this question every day when trying to work out how different living things are related to each other. The answers aren't easy or trivial. Biological affiliations are used not just to build a catalogue of life but also to understand how life has evolved into its many forms
Still people believe that child abuse or any formal of abuse doesn't happen within the school system whether private or public but the truth is that it does. I am one of many people that are silence by the school fearful of being sued if I mention the name of the school or that my case cannot be brought to court because to lack of collation evidence and the media unwilling to listen to survivors` stories and given them a voice.
"Help", I thought to myself, I need to un-hear what I am being told. I'm sat opposite the specialist and he is telling me I have kidney cancer. Not what I thought would happen to a fit forty something. Yet, there I was being told it needed to come out, as soon as possible. Then a year and a day later I lost my husband to the same awful disease.
I am in good company though, Beyoncé admitted that she tries to make everyone around her happy (which I think she does a pretty good job with) and closer to home, my own mum and nana both rush around trying to solve everyone else's problems. They help others, putting their own feelings and well-being much further down in their priorities.
We are here. And one day we won't be. One day we won't have any tomorrows left and all our yesterdays will have been in vain. But we don't stop. We all realise that we are on the same side and support each other. We need to help people because we can. If you and I are here, we can. The question that remains is will we?