Motherhood

My Mother's Life Is The Best Sermon I Have Seen, And The Only One I Remember Everyday

Anushka Fernando-Goonetilleke | Posted 24.03.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Anushka Fernando-Goonetilleke

As I turn 32 this Mother's Day I have come to the realise the impact and power of my mother in my life and how her actions influence and inspire me on a daily basis. It is not the words she has spoken but what she did and how she lives her life that I remember and draw strength from.

Mother's Day: Remembering Our Mothers, Remembering Ourselves

Vanessa Olorenshaw | Posted 24.03.2017 | UK Parents
Vanessa Olorenshaw

The least we could do for the women who reproduce the human race and nurture children in their vulnerability is to ensure that they are not hung out to dry alongside the muslins and babygros. We could recognise our interdependence and see that having children is not a lifestyle choice up there with keeping puppies.

Mother's Day With A Chronic Illness

Katy Mann | Posted 24.03.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Katy Mann

We went out for lunch on Sunday as an early Mother's Day treat and I almost face planted my lunch. A coat strategically placed on the table meant I could have a nap while eating. There's no choosing when I sleep, it's when my body allows me to stay awake. My social skills aren't great though!

My Mum Story - 1,180 'Ordinary And Everyday' Photos By Mother's Day

Bev Ridyard | Posted 24.03.2017 | UK Parents
Bev Ridyard

On Thursday 2nd January 2014, when we had our twelve week scan for our first baby, I decided to take a photo every day. That's right. Every day. This new, wonderful chapter that I had dreamed of was about to happen and I was not going to let it pass me by. I'm not a massive fan of getting in photos but I knew that if I didn't do this, I couldn't turn the clock back.

The Truth About Being A Mum

Jaelithe Leigh-Brown | Posted 24.03.2017 | UK Parents
Jaelithe Leigh-Brown

Part of me wanted to write a letter to my own mum, thanking her for being such a wonderful, strong role model. The other part of me wanted to write about the harsh realities that being a mum entails.

Their Stepmum Is More Exciting Than You And You HAVE To Accept That

Alice Wilde | Posted 24.03.2017 | UK Parents
Alice Wilde

New family. It's not what you lay in bed dreaming of when you were small and imaging how your life might be as a grown up. You don't ever really want to end up sharing your own children's weekends with another woman (or man) only linked to you by virtue of the fact that your former love has ceased to be yours and is now theirs.  But that is how it is now.

Anorexia To Womanhood

Tina McGuff | Posted 23.03.2017 | UK Parents
Tina McGuff

Unbeknown to me at the time my anorexia was trying to regress me back to a time where I was carefree and cared for - not having to face harsh realities of life like my parents' catastrophic divorce or becoming a young lady.

Mother's Day Without A Child

Sharron Phillips | Posted 23.03.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Sharron Phillips

Deleting the day from my calendar and staying in bed is appealing, but it isn't real life. I am finally at a point now that I can face these days with at least some kind of composure. Processing the grief of losing my babies and accepting that we would not have children has been a slow and heart-breaking process.

I Understand Not Wanting Children

J.J. Barnes | Posted 21.03.2017 | UK Parents
J.J. Barnes

I'll hasten to point out that I don't in any way regret my decision to be a mother.  This is not a "what a mistake" type thought.  Indeed, I truly wouldn't have it any other way and if I went back in time I'd still have sex with my idiot ex-husband at the same time on the same day to make sure that the exact same little human was produced from that union.  That doesn't take away my understanding however.

Why Being A Mum Could Never Make Me Happy

Annette Earl | Posted 20.03.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Annette Earl

all women everywhere "You'll change your mind when you meet the right person." Words I have heard on more than one occasion over the past 25 years. Well-intentioned, perhaps, but wholly wrong. I'm now 38 years old, fortunate enough to have met the 'right' person and guess what? I still don't want children. The reason is pretty simple - being a mother would make me deeply unhappy.

Being The 'Perfect' Mum Drove Me Crazy...

Sophia Walker | Posted 20.03.2017 | UK Parents
Sophia Walker

This doesn't bode well for me. For, in order to be 'successful' I have to survive on five hours' sleep, do exercise at the crack of dawn every day, hold down a career, be the perfect wife (and cook) and all the while eating healthily. Apparently these are all traits/ways of living that successful CEOs and Mumpreneurs observe, so they must be on to something, right?

The World Needs Angry Mothers

J.J. Barnes | Posted 20.03.2017 | UK Parents
J.J. Barnes

all women everywhere Now I'm not just an angry woman, I'm an angry mother and an angry feminist, and I have to assume that anyone who isn't angry simply doesn't know the truth, because how can anybody good, anybody who cares about other people, not be angry?

Can't You Take A Joke?

Nicole Thomas | Posted 19.03.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Nicole Thomas

all women everywhere I am 37 years old. During my lifetime, I believed many of these things being said to me were compliments. I believed all the uninvited assaults and harassments were my fault. I believed that objecting to these assumptions about my character made me boring and unlikeable. The times I did speak up, I was silenced with five innocuous words. "Can't you take a joke?"

Leaving Memories

J.J. Barnes | Posted 17.03.2017 | UK Lifestyle
J.J. Barnes

I have a mirror that my grandmother made, books that were my mothers, a cardigan knitted by my aunt. I have trinkets and jewellery, bits and pieces about the place, some with material value and others just sentimental, all of which serve to remind me of my past and where I came from, things which I keep mainly for their worth just to me.

Five Ways To Make Your Maternity Leave The Stuff Of Dreams (Not Nightmares)

Lisa Barnwell | Posted 17.03.2017 | UK Parents
Lisa Barnwell

BBC's drama The Replacement was a disturbing exploration of maternity leave that tapped into the fears of many mothers-to-be but also raised a number of questions around our biases and assumptions that impending and new mothers are not to be trusted and start to unravel the moment the two blue lines appear.

The Sisterhood Of Marketing

Nicole Jameson | Posted 15.03.2017 | UK Tech
Nicole Jameson

Being a woman of reproductive age, who shares pictures of my kids and parenting stuff on social media, the algorithms-that-be at Facebook make sure I have lots of 'relevant' advertising pop up in my feed.

Six Words Every Parent Needs To Hear

Nicola Wiggins | Posted 10.03.2017 | UK Parents
Nicola Wiggins

That was, undeniably, the main thought running through my head in the first few months after my eldest, Little O, was born. That, and 'what the hell have I done', 'where did I put the sodding Sudocrem' and wondering when my downstairs would stop feeling like the aftermath of a nuclear explosion.

Car Park Anxiety: It's A Real Thing

Jo Wimble-Groves | Posted 10.03.2017 | UK Parents
Jo Wimble-Groves

Does finding a car parking space increase your anxiety levels? I definitely get stressed out when looking for a space. I know it might sound sad and I...

Every Day My Daughter Dies - Parenting With Anxiety

J.J. Barnes | Posted 10.03.2017 | UK Parents
J.J. Barnes

I don't know if this is specific to my own type of anxiety, if it's common amongst those who suffer in general, or if it's just standard in even the most calm natured of mothers, but every day I have to process my daughter's death.

The Big Escape: When Isolation Became The Ultimate Liberation Of My 'Gender Duty'

Andrea Sanabria | Posted 09.03.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Andrea Sanabria

Traditionally, according to gender, we are born with certain "unofficial" obligations that may change, of course, from one society to another. Social ...

The Judgement Of The Working Mum

Gemma Devaney | Posted 08.03.2017 | UK Parents
Gemma Devaney

all women everywhere Sadly I hate to admit that it has been more women than men who have hit me with the type of comments above. But if we are going to continue to make our daughters stronger and our sons more respectful, us women need to stop the mum judgment and support one another now so that we can continue to have a choice in how we parent and live

A Letter To My Daughter On International Women's Day

Emma Johnson | Posted 07.03.2017 | UK Parents
Emma Johnson

It is International Women's Day today. It's a great day to celebrate the achievements of women but it's also a day to raise awareness. All over the world millions of women are still facing hardship, prejudice, injustice, fear, pain and misery on a daily basis

How To Stop Breastfeeding Gently

Vanessa Christie | Posted 26.02.2017 | UK Parents
Vanessa Christie

Weaning off the breast doesn't have to be an all or nothing event and it also needn't be a conscious parent-led decision. If you and your baby are happy the way things are, then you may consider continuing to breastfeed until he or she decides that time's up and weans themselves naturally. On the other hand, if taking charge of the weaning process is the right decision for you, it's ideal to take it gradually and as gently as possible.

Postnatal OCD

Stacey Oakes | Posted 24.02.2017 | UK Parents
Stacey Oakes

I never really thought of myself as someone who suffers from OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder). I mean, I do weird things like never walk on the pavement cracks, run back to the kettle before it boils and clicks off and always have to beat the person walking behind me to the next lamp-post, but everyone does that right?

The Rise Of Imperfect Motherhood

Dr Jessamy Hibberd | Posted 22.02.2017 | UK Parents
Dr Jessamy Hibberd

To me (in the words of Winnicot) it's about being a 'good enough' parent and recognising that it's ok not to get it right all of the time. In fact, not only is it ok not to be perfect, it will actually give your child benefits in their journey through life.