It's true (and completely normal) to think the world is against us whilst we're growing up but no matter how hard life may get for us, there's always one person who will remain our biggest fan. Mum. It doesn't matter how tall you grow or how old you get, she will always look at you with pride in her eyes and love in her heart.
"Who runs the World - Girls?" Did Beyoncé predict this? Is this the answer to every gender equality prayer? The tide appears to be changing for women. Are we heading for a renaissance where women will no longer be required to address questions on womanhood prior to being assessed on merit? Perhaps, the type of women we are, speaks to the type of leaders we will be. The problem however, is the yardstick used to assess womanhood.
How many times have you sat down to watch the Olympic Games and thought 'I know exactly how that feels'? Not often right, but perhaps we as parents should. It struck me recently that parenting is actually not dissimilar to this sporting event, with numerous hurdles, sprints and relay's taking place all the time.
I know when I'm being judged. And it stings. The judger only sees a snapshot of my parenting or my kids, or an interaction that is missing context. I am parenting 24/7 with 4 little ones running circles around me, all of them at different stages in their development with different demands, challenges, and different temperaments. I encounter many judge-worthy situations. Some smaller; some bigger. And I pick my battles wisely. Because you gotta.
here is nothing wrong in having a preference for how we would like our life to be. But rigid single mindedness can lead to vulnerability, when life and those around us do not deliver. We may not have the necessary mental and emotional resilience and agility to bounce back and adjust accordingly. If we are less accepting of the value of others' difference, then we may find it hard, if others struggle with our own difference.
Being a parent is no measure of intellectual acumen, emotional intelligence or strategic ability. Just as fatherhood isn't an acknowledged badge of ability in either the political or business world, to value women on the basis of whether they are or aren't a mother is to seriously undervalue them...
Sometimes life is so busy with a small baby we forget to take the time to just stop and marvel at how amazingly beautiful they really are. Sunny days out are where special memories are made, they give us the chance to relax and relish this little person as they and we enjoy the sunshine - just don't forget the nappies and suncream!
When you've just found out that you're pregnant with twins the world goes silent for a few moments. It's like an explosion has just gone off in your brain as you deal with this new information. All you can see is the two blobs on the ultrasound screen. Your tongue won't move in your mouth and you can't hear what the sonographer is saying because that last word they uttered has literally blown your mind...