Statistics show that 43% of people in the UK break their resolutions within the first month and by the end of March that figure has risen to a whopping 80%. In fact we are so good at giving up, that there is now an official day dedicated to our downfall - 17th January is 'Ditch New Year's Resolutions Day'.
Belief gets a bad rap. It's a very unpopular concept in these secular times, but the (obvious) thing is: we believe things whether we want want to or not. If we can at least accept that's true, we can start to take control of our beliefs, and make them work for us. But accepting they exist is the big first step.
Experiencing explosive creativity in every direction is one of the great things about living in these connected times. But just because we can, doesn't mean we should. Indeed, the trend with some creative projects now seems to be heading towards 'anthologies', and there's a 'quality over quantity' vibe starting to emerge.
This is one of the questions I'm most frequently asked as a coach and therapist. Self-confidence can be a difficult concept to pin down, yet we always know when we don't have enough of it. When we lose (or never develop) belief in ourselves, it can seem impossible to improve. But, as ever, it's wise to not believe everything you think!
Brené tells this story to highlight the expectation that us men can never fall off our white horses, for fear of appearing to be weak. That the experience of shame--that feeling in the pit of your stomach that you're not good enough, bad or broken--is felt viscerally by all of us, and that for men, it's the appearance of weakness that is the biggest cause.
Regret is a waste of emotion and energy. As you know, there's no use crying over spilled milk. But if you don't recognise the importance of the spilled milk, you may just end up spilling more again. So, what to do, to regret or not to regret? Well, rather than forget your regrets, leverage your regrets to your advantage.
Do you ever feel too old? When was the point in our lives when we became too old for stuff? It seems like a blurry memory of some point in my mid 20's when I felt like it for the first time. When you've transitioned into being a proper grown up, you're supposed to have it together, earn respect and NOT FAIL OR LOOK STUPID!
On stage, we try to listen to our partner and react to the last thing they said, not continue a pre-existing idea about what the conversation was about or spend the time thinking about a funny line to follow it. Sadly the latter is far too common in real life (anyone who has been on a bad internet date is only oh too familiar with someone talking about themselves for two hours).