Many people cant find it within themselves to say anything positive and take pleasure from flagging up someone's shortcomings. Don't make it about you, as these people need to feel superior because they are so insecure and the only way they can do so is project their own flaws onto another person. They do it with everyone.
What is it you really want to do? Push away any thought that has anything to do with what someone else needs, wants or expects from you and look only at your desire. Just allow yourself that, at least. Shove away the 'shoulds', and most of all ignore the fear. Just look at what you really want and enjoy how delicious it feels to immerse yourself in it.
Seeing a therapist means that you are actually the sort of person who is willing to strive hard to be the best person you can be. People who make the effort to change are much more laudable than those who steadfastly refuse to address their issues, or who go through life content to be miserable and spread that misery to everyone they come into contact with.
You're a liability when you know less than you should. You're a liability when you're not working as smart as you should. And you're a liability when your work isn't as good as it COULD be. Because businesses are run by people. And if the person behind the business is stagnating--so will the business.
Many of us will be familiar with those feelings of shame as we realise (only half way through January) that those good intentions have been abandoned, forgotten or are unravelling before our very peepers. And should we be surprised? January is quite possibly the worst month to be setting oneself ambitious goals for the year ahead.
Most of us are a bit like Walter Mitty aren't we? Daydreaming about what we want rather than going out and getting it. Creating different scenarios in our heads about how we could have acted instead of how we actually DID act. Keeping inside our comfort zones until even that gets uncomfortable. If this sounds like you, please know that you are not alone.
For some people their day-to-day life will be a living embodiment of a Sunday Supplement. They'll know about inflation, drug mules, and the history of Colombia. They'll have a house in London and a house in the country and make their own jam and know where St Bart's is on a map. And they will genuinely, genuinely want to read poetry.
Atwood H. Townsend once said "No matter how busy you may think you are, you must find time for reading, or surrender yourself to self-chosen ignorance." I couldn't agree more and while I know a handful of people who enjoy reading for pleasure, there are very few students and millennials in general who take pride in their personal reading list...
I have learned a tremendous amount since training to be a coach and being a coach. I have learned a lot about me in the process. I learned so much about myself that I didn't know, or if I did know I was not aware of it. A lot had been stuffed down inside somewhere, and I have managed to excavate and find it.
After struggling with an unbalanced lifestyle in highly powered positions in the corporate world, it took courage to step back and dream about what I truly want. The picture of where I wanted to be - the "5 Year Plan" if you will, was completely tainted by other people's opinions and personal beliefs.