If your mindset needs support then the last thing I recommend you do is to go for the cheapest. Of course there may be exceptions to the rule, but in my book cheap often means incompetent, tacky, desperate and dangerous.
Stop every ninety minutes or so, take a break, eat something nourishing, drink something replenishing, move, look at a picture of someone you love, breathe mindfully, pray, nap, get out of your head and back into your body, remind yourself that you're a human being and not a human doing.
How many of us choose something - a car, house, job, career, partner, or life - and then complain about it? What a tremendous amount of wasted energy!
We all need food and rest, so why do we often completely ignore one of the most important meals of the day - yes lunch? When our concentration is waning and our bodies are calling out for movement, why do we continue to sit chained to our desks, figuratively banging our heads against the brick wall that is our work?
Nowadays, you treat me like the enemy. I'm a disease to be feared, which, by the way, only makes me worse. Sitting at your desk, with your new-fangled worries, pressing all my buttons with nary an outlet in sight. Seriously, they don't call me a fight or flight response for nothing.
Opting for a part-time course isn't quite the bed of roses we would hope it to be. Of course we all know that anything worth doing is never going to be easy, but the perils of part-time study can be tough for even the most eager and well prepared among us.
For both men and women to truly 'have it all' we need flexibility in the way we work so that we can take better care of our own needs and those of our children. This is vital not only to help prevent burnout of the workforce but also to prevent the burnout of our children.
Where does being human, having your physical, mental and emotional needs met rank in your infinite to-do list? How do we create a structure where these are prioritised? Who should come first?
Judging by the content on social media, it appears that our ego's seem to believe that whenever we do something, if nobody's around to witness it - then it 'hasn't actually happened'.
I have worked in A&E, dealing with life and death every day. I never felt like this. I have worked in paediatrics and child safeguarding, coping with desperately sick and abused children. I never felt like this. I have delivered babies, been there when a stillbirth happens, tried in vain to resuscitate a child who did not have a chance at life while their parents looked on. I never felt like this. I have cared for stroke patients, cancer patients, sat and held hands as some died. I never felt like this. I have failed in this, my chosen career... I suddenly realised I couldn't carry on. Either I left, and made a new start caring for patients in a different way. Or I left full stop and was no longer a GP.
Being a positive person doesn't mean you don't feel pain or that you learn to suppress it - that wouldn't be healthy or helpful. It's more about knowing that while you may feel terrible, that feeling will pass. It genuinely helps.
There is an easy exercise to uncover the kind of subtle discomfort that can be influential in your life - especially when you are unaware of it. Without thinking about it, clasp your hands together with fingers intertwined. See which thumb is on top. This is how you always do it - it is comfortable.
I quit my office job in 2008, utterly frazzled and having just born the brunt of being managed by a terrible boss. I was exhausted, disillusioned with journalism, and just wanted an environment where I wasn't being bellowed at daily. Freelancing seemed the perfect option.
These are typically our vulnerable times, the times when we reach for that one reliable friend, the quick fix that sustains us and never lets us down. It's often only later that we berate ourselves for being weak and picking the 'easy' option that's not such a good friend after all.
Chances are that your life as a parent is too busy to worry about feeling blue, or you're simply so caught up in everyone else's wellbeing that you don't bother about your own. Or maybe you're low but haven't done anything about it because this is the new normal for you.
Just making a few changes to the way you organise your time can enable you to be more efficient, reduce your stress levels and result in you having more free time.