Postponing (procrastinating, avoiding, or putting-off) is a major sign that the burnout process is in full swing. Postponing as a symptom happens fairly early on in the burnout spiral. However, once it gets hold it quickly begins to infiltrate all areas of your life.
Holidays can put any flaws or short-comings in our relationship under the spotlight as we book time away, expectantly hoping to have fun together and rekindle some of the old spark and intimacy during our trip.
Colouring books for adults is now the latest craze. Apparently, the Tate Modern now stocks colouring books for adults, as does Waterstones and Amazon. It may sound utterly ridiculous, but some actually think it's a fantastic idea and have been singing its praises. It's said to be a great stress-reliever.
I know from personal experience, having suffered from burnout many years ago, that when you don't have your health you really don't have anything. I made my choice then that I would have balance in my life as a matter of necessity. I now choose to have less stress and more living.
What I mean is I believe that some people assume it is the responsibility of the government and other bodies to eliminate factors in people's lives that cause them stress, where stress can be seen as the emotional and often physical effects of difficult situations.
In essence stress is an imbalance between the demands put on you and your ability to cope with them. Pressure can come from all sorts of places - from moving house to money worries to relationship problems but in most cases the biggest perpetrator is work.
What is more interesting to me as a psychologist, lies in what it is about people who identify so much with the Zayn's, the Diana's or the Gary's, that they struggle to cope at the 'death' or departure of someone/something they did not really know. I am also equally intrigued by what many of these grieving fans will do as a way to cope with their loss.
If you buy a car, it has usually been serviced so it runs wonderfully smoothly for a while. And we so enjoy it when our car drives effortlessly. When it develops a problem, a fault, which the things we use do, we take it to the garage where an expert fixes it
Behind every burnout there is a story of overwork and overwhelm, which is why it is becoming a problem of epidemic proportions and affecting people of all ages and professions.
Recent research has highlighted how important it is to take a break at regular intervals throughout the day. When a three month survey was undertaken at Sheffield University involving 850,000 people they found that responses, rapid perception and decision-making were better, more effective when people avoided cramming intensively and applied a looser, more relaxed approach.
Blogs and bookshops are full of advice telling us how to manage stress, with techniques to remember, practice and apply. We each know what we "should" be doing to manage our stress levels...
Looking at different addictions, not every habit is dangerous. You can become addicted to learning, or addicted to working out, or even addicted to working. Anything in an overabundance can be unhealthy and unbalanced.
Everyone experiences ups and downs in their lives. Most people deal with these variations in mood on their own or with the assistance of friends or family. There may be times, though, when professional help is warranted to get you through an emotional rough spot.
Instead of constantly working, moving from one task to the next, let's explore ways to manage stress and burnout, be more appreciative of our lives, value our opportunities and challenges, whilst enjoying a positive perspective on life.
If your mindset needs support then the last thing I recommend you do is to go for the cheapest. Of course there may be exceptions to the rule, but in my book cheap often means incompetent, tacky, desperate and dangerous.
Stop every ninety minutes or so, take a break, eat something nourishing, drink something replenishing, move, look at a picture of someone you love, breathe mindfully, pray, nap, get out of your head and back into your body, remind yourself that you're a human being and not a human doing.