I had found myself panicking and dreading it all. For no reason other than the way I was handling balancing my long term pain with trying to be the person I want people to think I am - a sassy PR with a penchant for gin and tonic and not a care in the world, basically taking fake it till you make it a wee bit too far until I knew something had to give.
Clearly work is an important part of all our lives, it provides us with purpose, challenge, occupation as well as necessary income, but, as the saying goes, 'no one ever said on their deathbed that they wished they'd spent more time at work'.
The key thing to remember seems to be not to give in. No matter how bad it feels, you are unlikely to die. You are afraid. It WON'T last forever. So breathe. Breathe again. Talk to someone.
I'm guilty of pursuing those quick jobs that I can easily tick off my list. At least then I can look back at my day and say, "I got so much done - all the admin, all the chores, dry cleaning, emails, expenses. Boy I'm busy.
Planning a wedding can be mega stressful. Whilst a little bit of stress can get you acting in a productive manner, a lot of stress will only wreak havoc on your appearance for the big day and take a toll on your health. Here are some rituals that you can incorporate into your wedding planning lifestyle to control your stress levels.
I have built an ego, yes, and society loves me for it. I really fit in with my judgments, with my set ideas, with my seductive patterns. And when it does not work as it should, we get upset, nervous, anxious... all of it!
If a child is going to become an emotionally successful adult he/she needs to begin to learn to pay attention. That's why mindfulness in schools is not just a great idea but a necessity or this world of distractions will swamp his little brain.
Wearing a smart suit, a pair of killer heels, a dash of lipstick, an expensive aftershave, having a beauty treatment, a new hairdo makes us feel much more confident, knowing that we're looking good. When we feel we look the part we're often able to raise our game and portray that positive persona. We stand taller, feel more in control.
Maybe it is like the old adage better to have loved and lost than never have known love at all. Except it isn't really lost - according to the Buddhists, I just need to remove the obstacles that get in contentment's way. Happiness is our natural state, maybe I need to stop trying quite so hard, in every direction.
It's that brutal 3pm energy crash that renders you a sugar junkie. The annoying inability to sleep despite exhaustion. Mood swings that your nearest and dearest bear the brunt of. An increasing need for an evening tipple. Apathy for your latest project. Apathy for life. These are the signs that you're heading for burnout.
In the high powered, fast moving society we live in and with many companies downsizing, today's employees are expected to do more with less, as demands rise time diminishes, creating an alarming trend of workplace stress and overwhelm.
I felt like you had the weight of the world on your shoulders and I just wanted to tell you that everything would be ok but I could tell from the look in your eyes that you were stuck in a vicious circle from which you saw no escape.
The best way to stay focused and not get distracted by time munching tasks is getting a good dose of intentionality. This means that when you wake up each morning, ask yourself what you are going to achieve today?
James Rhodes' in his autobiography 'Instrumental' writes: 'Our whole cultural identity is centred around not being good enough, constantly needing things that are shinier, faster, smaller, bigger, better,' a sentiment with which I deeply empathise. Looking back on my teaching career the one thing I know that became central to my depression was never being good enough.
Londoners are depressed. 12% of men and as many as 20% of women living in London had symptoms of depression or anxiety in a survey carried out by the National Centre for Social Research and the University of Leicester.
The UK's stress and personal debt statistics speak for themselves. And the way things are right now, they don't make for a pretty sight. The long cycle of downturn to recovery doesn't feel like it's fully over yet. Maybe reading the news headlines hasn't helped my optimism - they do have a tendency to relay information in a brutal and stark kind of way. Here are some examples of this very phenomenon in action: