Admitting that I needed help to organise that box of emotions I'd pushed to the back of my mind for so long was a huge milestone for me. Going from an abusive relationship, to escaping and feeling strong and empowered, to finally coming to terms with the fact that I can't deal with it on my own, is one hell of a realisation.
If there is one thing I've learned in all my years as a makeup artist and entrepreneur, it's that many women forget they deserve time. They'll do whatever it takes to build careers, bring up families and be good friends, but their own needs take a backseat. "I don't need time," they'll say. "I'm fine."
Family businesses can be some of the most successful companies in the world. Just look at Nike whose founder Phil Knight recently stepped down as chairman as his son Travis Knight took a seat on the board in 2016. Walmart is still a family business and L'Oreal is still controlled by the founder's daughter.
There's a reason I stopped watching Game of Thrones. It wasn't because of the violence or the sex which some might perceive as gratuitous. It wasn't because there aren't any morals or lessons to be learned from the story being portrayed. But I did have an issue with the treatment of women in the series.
Living with my Lady Beard has been amazing, but that doesn't mean that I have not had to face hard times too. I have been body shamed all my life, and I have come to realise that it will never stop unless I try to change people's perceptions of what beauty really is. I will forever challenge people's thoughts about what they think to be "normal" is.
The problem is not that we appreciate beauty but that the definition of beauty is so narrow, too narrow to include afro textured hair, so while society is waking up to the damaging effects of its narrow definition of beauty, advocating for body acceptance, even skin colour acceptance, hair discrimination still goes largely unopposed.
But we all can do something about this and men can do something too. Men can refuse to speak on panels where there are no women. This would at least be a start. It may seem like a small thing but it would mean that greater efforts would be made to ensure that women are given a loud voice and can encourage other women to join them.