12/07/2013 04:05 BST | Updated 12/07/2013 04:37 BST

Drummer Lee Rigby Is The 'Hero And Martyr' Say Family As They Prepare For Funeral

As Drummer Lee Rigby's family prepare for what is sure to be one of the most difficult days of their lives, one thing gives them comfort, that his killers did not succeed in demonising soldiers, but instead created a hero.

"Lee has become a hero. Whatever the intention was it's backfired because it's made Lee into the hero and the martyr," his stepfather Ian Rigby said, ahead of his boy's funeral.

"The country is united whatever elements may wish to stop it. It's not working because it's working the other way."

Family handout photo of murdered soldier Lee Rigby holding his son Jack

That heroism has been heralded across the world, with sympathy and good wishes sent from every religious movement in the seven weeks since the brutal killing on the streets of Woolwich.

"There are so many kind and generous people out there. It's just horrible that it takes something such as this to make you see how many good people there are," Rigby's widow Rebecca said, in an emotional interview where all three members fought back tears.

"We have had masses of cards, letters and donations from everywhere. It's unbelievable really the things that have been coming in.

"We have had letters from the Prime Minister, from senior politicians from all parties, the Duke of Kent, from the Sikh community. Various large mosques and interfaith groups have been in touch with letters of condolences and such."

Rigby, from Middleton, Greater Manchester, was killed as he returned to Woolwich barracks from the Tower of London on May 22.

On Thursday night, hundreds of well-wishers honoured Rigby at a vigil on the eve of his funeral.

Comrades, forces veterans and members of the public lined the route to Bury Parish Church where soldiers kept a guard of honour over the body of Fusilier Rigby overnight.

The 25-year-old's heartbroken loved ones attended the event in Bury, just a couple of miles from his hometown of Middleton, Greater Manchester, which came to a standstill as pubs and shops around the church closed as a mark of respect.

Far from igniting the country to "rise up" against the government, or spark hatred and drive wedges between communities in the UK, Rigby's stepfather said the outpouring of support his family had received renewed his faith in the kindness of strangers and the unity of the British people.

Rebecca Rigby, wife of murdered soldier Lee Rigby, looks through letters and cards at the Fusilier Museum in Bury

"Everywhere we have been, people have been supporting us. They have been incredible with us. Total strangers. They have been absolutely incredible, coming up - not in your face but shaking hands and saying God Bless, that sort of thing. And they have really meant what they said to us.

"And it's the same in the community. The support in Middleton - it's a small place - but the support we have had off everybody has been incredible. At one stage for about three weeks we just had a garden full of flowers.

"We couldn't move in the garden. There were flowers everywhere. And the same in the town centre. It's still going now at the memorial. People are still putting flowers on it now. They just tidy it up a bit and take away the dead ones away and some more turned up... it just keeps on going and going. It's amazing.

"And the support and the unity through the country... we have been having phone calls or letters off mosques, off Jewish sections, every religion you can think of and not just in this country. We have had letters and cards from all over the world in support and just giving their best wishes."

Rebecca Rigby tearfully recalled how two small gestures of support for the couple's two-year-old son Jack had meant so much to her.

"I was handed £1.10, two 50p coins and a 10p piece, that had been handed over by somebody at the Tower of London," she said. "It was requested that it be passed on to the soldier's son's money.

"And I have had a cheque off another lady. She sent me a lovely letter and a cheque for £10 asking me to buy something to put a smile on Jack's face. He wanted a scooter so we got him a scooter which he absolutely loves."

Clutching a Fusilier teddy bear, Lyn Rigby said her "fun-loving" son had "fulfilled his dreams" by serving in the Army.

"He was so loving, he really was," she said. "He would do anything for anybody. He had a heart of gold. He wouldn't hurt anybody."

Her husband said: "He was a devoted soldier. He loved what he was doing. He believed in what he was doing but he was still a family man.

"His (four) sisters and his son, he was devoted. Whatever happened they came first.

"His job meant the world to him, being in the Army. But his family still came first."

Ian and Lyn Rigby, step-father and mother of murdered soldier Lee Rigby, at the Fusilier Museum in Bury

Rebecca Rigby said: "He was so bubbly inside and energetic. He loved socialising with everybody, no matter where they were from or what they believed in. He didn't hold anything against anybody.

"He loved Westlife (laughs). He even pretended that the tickets he bought were for me (the couple attended a Westlife concert at Wembley). We all knew they were for Lee.

"He lived his life like a kid in a candy shop."

Asked about how Fusilier Rigby would like to be remembered at his service in Bury, she said: "Lee always wanted his service to be a time that people would remember him and shed the tears. But then he always said a remembrance of his life.

"He wanted people to enjoy that and sit and talk about happy days and happy memories they have got of Lee and the things he used to do and say because he was always so full of life.

"He just wanted to put a smile on everyone's face."

Ian Rigby said: "I think today should be a celebration of Lee's life, what he has meant to us.

"Lee was a fun-loving lad and that is how he should be remembered.

"We would like today a certain amount of respect and dignity but we would like it to be Lee's day and Lee remembered as how he was. Not upset because he wasn't that sort of person. We don't want everybody crying and getting heartbroken. We would rather enjoy Lee's memories as he was with us."

Michael Adebolajo, 28, and Michael Adebowale, 22, have been charged with the murder of Fusilier Rigby and are due to stand trial at the Old Bailey on November 18.

They will appear at the same court for a plea and case management hearing on September 27.