Abusive Relationships: 9 Warning Signs To Look Out For


Relationships have their ups and downs, but there's a big difference between a relationship that's going through a rough patch and one that's abusive.

In the above video Robin McGraw, who works with domestic violence charities in America, lists the nine signs of an abusive relationship that "all young women and men should know".

She says that quick involvement in a relationship - someone appearing "too in love", obsessive or possessive from the start - can be an early warning sign.

Extreme jealousy can also indicate an abusive dynamic. If a partner does not want you to socialise with anyone but them, it may be time to walk away.

McGraw says you should also be cautious if you know there has been a history of physical or verbal abuse - be that in your relationship, or in a relationship your partner has previously had.

The six remaining signs to look for are:

  • Controlling behaviour
  • Threats of violence
  • Abrupt mood changes
  • Verbal abuse
  • Breaking objects
  • Use of force during an argument

For information and advice on dealing with physical or emotional abuse, follow the links below:

  • Refuge - Domestic violence help for women and children - 0808 2000 247
    • Visit Women's Aid - support for abused women and children – or call the National Domestic Violence Helpline, run by Women’s Aid and Refuge, on 0808 2000 247
    • Men’s Advice Line for advice and support for men experiencing domestic violence and abuse - 0808 801 0327

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